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hi…

i am 27 yrs old…had 4 boyfriends where all failed…never believed in arranged marriage,but now since i am getting older,my folks are worried thati might be alone for the rest of my life..so finally i agreed for arranged marriage and folks starting making me meet poeple and stuff…now i am seeing this guy whois two years younger than,a politician’s son,and who is a gowda and who loves me a lot…for once i fond some body who loved me..but he cannot do anythign now,cause hes just joined his dad organisation…he had to fight for a year to kinda settle in with the conservative poeple there…now i dont know what effect will bring if he announces my presence in his life..

now the real problem is i am going to see a guy tmw….and i am stuck as to what to do..

here is one guy who i really love and who i can be happy for the rest of my life…but a risk of things not happening and me being single for the rest of m y life.
and here is another guy who is from agood fly,same back ground who might say yes to me after seeing me,but if i say yes,then there are chances of me being unhappy for the rest of my life….

now i have no idea what to do….

HELP………………………….

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Rotech927 offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 19 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (40 minutes after post)

Very confusing post..what does politics have to do with love?

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mumstheword offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 72 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (50 minutes after post)

Talk to your family and tell them how you feel.

It sounds like they have been open to you finding a partner yourself in the past, so I think they will be understanding when you tell them you are interested in someone outside of their current plans.

It is better to wait a little while and see what pans out with the person you feel deeply for than to trap yourself in a situation where you are not truly happy. Ask your parents to delay the meetings with others for six months.

Are you afraid that your parents will disapprove of this young man you have fallen for? What is preventing your love from blossoming? If you can explain a little more, we can help find possible solutions.

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Rotech927 offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 19 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (54 minutes after post)

Did not understand the problem Mums. Seems that you did understand and you gave the poster some very good advise!

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maths.as offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (1 week, 1 day after post)

well dont ask..Thats how india is…..Well i guess i will talk to my folks when i go home this christmas and ask for some more time and see…

Well in my community you get married by 24 max..and i am already 27!! plus i have two younger sisters,and if i keep taking time like this then they will also end up un married….aaaaaaaaaaaaaah

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