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It sounds to me like you might need to join Codependents Anonymous… check it out. http://www.codependents.org/

But also, no matter why… when we loose someone there is a certain grief period we must go through. In terms of relationships you have take on a certain mind frame to move forward… forgetting is NOT a good thing. When we forget about someone, we are destined to make the same mistakes again. Instead, LEARN the lesson from a relationship that cannot move forward. Honesty, I don’t believe in Love/Hate relationships. I believe they exist, and believe them to be thoroughly unhealthy. Check out one of my previous posts, maybe it will help some. This post was written for those that have been dumped, but the theory is the same for everyone.

Bright blessings ~ Richard

You make it sound like being with losers OR this guy… are your only options!

Have you considered just being single for a while?

wow!
Well I’m not sure how you attract these people…
And I wish I could offer a reasonable explanation to why this might be happening.

Perhaps the area you live in is a magnet for creeps!

Sorry I couldn’t be more helpful

of course it’s you.

Unless you are a victim of being in arranged situations… you are the one making the choices. You are the one that is attracting the men to you. No one else.

If you don’t like what you get then you need to start changing something about yourself. What’s your dad like? You know they always say we attract to our self the men or woman that are most like our parents!

It depends on your philosophy I guess.
Obviously there is something attractive about you, for you to be able to attract anyone, including weirdos (I’m afraid).

So look at the positive. You are attractive :)

We all attract weirdos from time to time.

There is a school of thought that says opposites attract. If you believe this then you are an anti-weirdo.

Also, some people are magnetic.
Think about celebrities and how they end up with stalkers.
Celebrities are just people under all the media hype.

There is a further school of thought that says we attract what we fear. By fuelling our fears, we attract them.
Sort of like the person who is so afraid of failing a driving test, that they do.
On the flip side of that, it also suggests that if we think about positive things, they will be attracted to us.
In short, what we think about manifests in our life.

Maybe that last one is a bit meta-physical for you.
But if its true, try not to focus on the weirdos, or any possible belief that you are weird, or there is something wrong with you.
Imagine that only sweet, nice, ‘not-freaky stalker I want to have your baby guys’, are around, and they will be.

Might sound silly, but its worth a try if you are all out of ideas.

Personally I don’t think there is anything wrong with you ;)

They say the reason we attract men or women like our fathers or mothers is because there is something within that relationship that we need to heal. If you dad is an alcoholic, the chances of you attracting that sort of personality to you is increased until you heal that hurt within yourself. It’s not easy to see dear… people go their entire lives wondering why they repeat the same mistakes over and over again in their relationships. You give your number to guys? and guys ask you for your number? Maybe it’s time to show some attention to the guys that are not so aggressive. I’m not saying that is the solution, but something you are doing is not working for you…. so change. Only you can change the situation you are in. If you wait for someone else to change the situation, you’ll have either a long wait, or the change will not be what you want or need.

I used to miss my ex terribly! Even after a yr overseas with no contact whatsoever, for some reason he still had a hold on me! It wasn’t until came back (just for him…stupidly) that I realised he wasn’t gonna change! The best decision I’ve ever made was to leave him! And I haven’t turned back since. I still get tempted to call every now n then but rarely and I never would actually do so. I have found the strength to finally leave him and the misery he brought to my life. It’s not easy but you’ll thank yourself when wounds heal :) All the best!