Love help: Im extreamly afraid of falling in love ort getting close to someone in fear of losing them. - Help.com

You must realize this quote is speaking the truth.

“Tis better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all.”

why are you afraid? i mean is there a reason??

Life is all about chances, sometimes you gotta roll the dice even though there is a chance you may not win, you just gotta do it.

Relationships are good for people, they let them learn about themselves on a different level and also how to interact with others, give and take etc.. you shoudn’t be afraid of falling in love, embrace it and do it while you still have the chance, you only life on this earth once, take advantage out of every possible situation. Trust me, if you dont know, you will most likely look back years from now and wish you would have opened up and let someone in.

yeah true, im still pretty young (21) and i already regret some people i have missed out on because i felt similar to you. since them i have realized life is just too short to live like that.

hmm, that is a possibility but we can’t live our lives based of ‘what ifs’? Yes sometimes we get hurt and sometimes by the people you never expected it from but life goes on and these times make us stronger, i suggest just being the person you want to be and the relax knowing your in love with yourself, really that’s all the matters :)

Humans are social creatures by nature. Yes you will always be there for yourself but also that doesn’t mean you shoudnt give others a chance, there are good guys/girls out there. :) hope this has helped some, i gotta be going now, good luck with everything katyln

just remember to treat others the way you would like to be treated. if we all did this we’d be much better off :) you’ll be fine hon :):)

Like one of my favorite movie’s quote;

“If you want to learn to swim, you gotta jump in the water” - Flight Of The Navigator.

Learning from your experiences is a part of life. We love, we lose, we win. Sort of like that Bette Midler song, The Glory Of Love. It reigns true. If you don’t take the risk, you don’t learn, if you don’t learn, then you’ll have a pretty dull life.

The Dali Lama says; “Great love requires great risk”. So, Katlyn you can see in that one statement that you are probably NOT alone in your fears. Not alot of people are willing to take great risks to have that great love. But the statement is true none the less. I understand your abandonment issues, trust me you again are not alone in those feelings. When up to 60% of kids today have one parent or another leaving, abandonment issues come pretty easily.

I don’t like to think of my relationships as failures anymore. Instead I look at them as not being able to move forward or one reason or another. For one these makes it easier for me to forgive someone (even if that someone is me) and move on, and it also makes it easier to learn from the relationship. A relationship that cannot move forward will teach us so much about our self, and how we interact with other people. This knowledge we carry with us into the next relationship.

Lastly, even though love can hurt, the joy that love can bring is incomparable to anything else in the world. I’m willing to work through the hurt so that I may have the JOY! Gibran writes; “When love beckons, follow it - though it’s way may be steep and hard, and when it wings enfold you, wield to them though the swords hidden among its pinions may wound you …” It is a fact that love hurts, but not without a reason.
Bright blessings ~ Richard

after seeing the mess my older sister and brother got themselves into having there heartbroken etc i thought i would be like u scared of it but i wasn’t got my heartbroken the man i was with since being 14 til i was 20 cheated with my best friend next time round i thought yep thats its id be scared i was a little but i trusted him gave him heart etc he broke it well shattered it. But even now i know il do it again cause after all the heart ache iv have been through im only 23 too there has to be someone better someone who isnt gonna sleep with my friends and not want to break my heart someone is gonna love me and be there for me and i dont care how many times my heart gets broken cause when u find him he is worth it.

ps yes im a sloppy old romantic lol

lol… sloppy old romantics UNITE!!!

yes, that they should. :)

I believe in love and i believe in soulmates.

We have that within our reach, all of us.