Mind help: i really need help gettin over my ex gf.

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i really need help gettin over my ex gf.

i see her every now and then and i dont want to because it just makes me wanna be with her again. i try just forgetting about her, but stuff pops up and brings back my feelings for her. she pops in my head out of nowhere and i cant get her out of my head. she was in my dream last night too. ive tried everything to get her off my mind. i need help

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Richard Cor de Lyon 20 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (0 minutes after post)

http://help.com/post/211805-get-over-it

Bright blessings ~ Richard

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undeveloped 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (7 minutes after post)

thanks. but my break up was different.

neither of us broke up with each other. we had to break up because of her dad. not because of anything that we did. i dont have one single complaint about my ex while we were dating. but i do have a problem with what she did after we broke up.

thats the only thing that i have to help me get over her.

because i still love her and i guess she still wants to be with me, and thats what makes it so much harder for me. i get all depressed when i think about her being with someone else becuase we never fully broke up. i mean, yea we arent together anymore, but we had no reason to break up, other than her dad.

i dont know how to move on from her, but i really need to if i ever wanna be happy again.

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YouWIsH 10 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (7 minutes after post)

her dad doesnt like you?

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undeveloped 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (9 minutes after post)

no. part of the reason is cuz i lied to him and because of my age. its really complicated to explain. i only lied to him to be able to go out with his daughter. we had to keep our relationship a secret from her parents.

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evansent:) 698 #
GB | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (12 minutes after post)

what lies did you tell?

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undeveloped 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (14 minutes after post)

all i lied about was my age. right now she is 15(16 on jan. 1st.) im 18(19 on dec.29th.)when we first started goin out i was 17. its only 3 years difference.

i said i was 16 when i was 17 and he somehow found out i was lying.

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Richard Cor de Lyon 20 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (14 minutes after post)

well the key is getting back in touch with yourself. Go back to doing the things you were doing when you were not with her. When you were a couple you thought as a couple and you did things as a couple. You are no longer a couple so you must think as a single person, and you MUST do things as a single person. Regain your “singleness”. This requires action, and for about a month something called “flooding”. Do everything you can as a single person. Go to the movies but only with a group of people… try to avoid going totally alone because that will only make you miss her… and don’t go as a third wheel… do things only in a group of platonic friends. If your social life is not like that, then join some sort of club, maybe even a self help group.

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undeveloped 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (18 minutes after post)

i do things as a single person. part of the problem is who i hang out with and where i live. i moved to about 3 blocks away from her. i moved here after we broke up. i moved with my parent, not to be near her. and the people i hang out with sometimes hang out with her, so i hear her name alot.

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Richard Cor de Lyon 20 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (24 minutes after post)

ahhh that bites.

Have you tried talking to her dad? A Dad (a good one) will see the sadness in his daughter and feel like crap. If you can give him a reason to trust him then he might just give you a second chance in order to see his baby happy again. (I’m a Dad, of three girls… I know how that goes).

If he will at least listen to you… tell him why you lied, because you were afraid … and you didn’t mean disrespect to him. Ensure him it will never happen again, and then keep your promise. Sell yourself and your positive qualities… are you an eagle scout? … let him know… do you get great grades? let him know. What positive qualities does your girlfriend see in you that her father needs to see too? Your girlfriend could be working on him too. There is no one that control a man like his daughters can.

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YouWIsH 10 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (28 minutes after post)

Thats good avdice richard!

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undeveloped 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (29 minutes after post)

her dad wont care. he almost took me to the police when he found oout.he dont care about how she feels cuz he grounded her for goin out with me.

he wont listen to me. i askd my ex if i should tlk to him, and she said its not worth it, cuz he wont listen.

and its too late now, im not gunna bring it up now. it’ll prolly just make things worse.

im not even suppose to tlk to my ex or hang out with her or anything.

me n her both pretty much gave up on eachother because of her dad. its actually her stepdad. but yea, nothing will work, so i need to try to get over her.

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undeveloped 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (30 minutes after post)

i godda go quick, ill be back in like an hour.

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Richard Cor de Lyon 20 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (32 minutes after post)

Ohhhhh a step dad… ugh.

Dude you’re hosed.

Time is the answer here :(

Become your own man… the man that attracted her to you in the first place… you will attract another eventually. When you do, your problems will be solved.

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vaur 0 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (23 hours, 28 minutes after post)

I think it helped me with getting over my ex and moving on by keeping myself busy. I would suggest if you haven’t already to at least consider the possibility of dating other people, who knows what may happen and also just hanging out and talking more with close friends would be a good help as well. If you see that your ex has moved on, then you should definitely consider doing those things. Best of luck for you, and just remember if it’s meant to be, then you and her will get back, but don’t just sit around and wait. Good luck.

undeveloped 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (1 day after post)

her mom is there, but she wont do anything to let me n my ex get back together.

it doesnt help that i live about 3 blocks away form her and the people i hang out with also sometimes hang out with her. so i hear about her alot of times.

she hasnt fully moved on either. thats another part of the problem

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drewdegrad #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (2 months after post)

Man if you truly loved this girl then you should have fought for it. But if you even have the slight’s feelings that it wont work out in the long run, then find a way to be friends in the long run. I just got out of a 12 month relationship and it has been hard, you just have to keep on stepin on. listen to music, ;work out, or most importantly hang out with friends; and if they don’t support you find new ones.

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undeveloped 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (2 months after post)

its all good. im done with her.

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