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i dont understand..

ohhh…okay. do u like him like that? i mean, in a romantic way

but you will never know if u dont try…! Dont let fear control you. Wht if u two are meant to be have live happily ever after with 17 kids! lol

welcome!

Hi.. are the two of you still at war against everyone else? Because I was thinking of thinking about this post a little, but if you’re at war against me I’d rather look for more peaceful things.

That’s a little confusing. Wasn’t he saying you’re on his side against the rest of the world?

Well, I think you don’t have to be at war against the world whether you’re dating or not. I also don’t think that you’d die without him. I think both of those are bits of crazy-talk from being in love.

You wrote this post a week ago — I just saw you give good advice somewhere else so I thought I’d see if I could help. Maybe I’m not the right person to try. But other people will see this post too. Have things changed, did you get married and live happily ever after, did you break up, is everything just fine and dandy? (are you okay?)

Want me to invite some people from my friendlist who might be better than me about giving you some advice?

Hey, it wasn’t showing invites before, that’s why I thought it best to ask. Anyway, I just wrote, “want to help her figure out a relationship?” and sent it to some people who I know are smart. :) merry christmas.

Thanks, that’s really nice to say.

Here’s an idea. I think you can trust me a little bit. So suppose I took advantage of that trust to convince you to act in a way that threatened your relationship with Garrett. I will not actually do that. But if I hypothetically could, then it is the sort of thing that might make him want to be with you at war against the world. Not trust anyone else. It’s like you said you’d die without him, so it’s a very valuable relationship to both of you and you’re both trying to protect it somehow whether your officially dating or not.

Also, in my list of weird questions before, I tossed in, “did you break up?” — so, to me, just like to all your friends who know the two of you, I subconsciously thought of you as boyfriend-girlfriend — is that different than dating?

It would be… you asked people in this outside world about the relationship between the two of you. And we could tell you anything, so it might make more sense to consider me and everyone else an enemy so that you don’t trust us enough to take any advice that might be bad for your relationship with Garrett.

Sorry, I don’t date or anything quite like that so I may be very dumbly trying to think this through. (hence inviting people, but then I thought I had something slightly insightful.)

Do you like him?

Well, I’ll say what I always say.
Love involves risk. If you never never go, you’ll never never know.

And friends who you are that close to, if they are as good a friend as you see them to be, the friendship will survive if the feelings are not reciprocated.

I will say however, on the side of love…. that the best relationships in my experience are the ones you have with a best friend :)

I hope that helps :)

Best of luck!

i think this is what he’s saying:

everyone is thinking that you two should date (the “enemies”). you two are not dating (the “heroes”). now you “heroes” are battling the “enemies” because you are not dating. does this make sense?

if this is true, then when he says you’re in charge, he’s really saying that you decide when you want to continue battling (aka stay just friends) or stop battling (aka start dating).

i think this is his way of saying that he really likes you and wants to date you, but as long as you just want to be friends, he will wait for you.

It also sounds like he is giving you the option of remaining friends, and that this is his way of telling you his feelings, without exposing himself completely to you.
He’s basically waiting for you to make the next move!

and i thought girls were supposed to be the cryptic ones! ;)

Hehehehe… who bothers with gender stereo-types any more? lol

I think the fella in question is a sensitive soul.

hahaha, well that’s sweet. i kinda like the way he put it. makes them sound like kindred spirits, inside-joke style. “us against the world.” very cute. :)

Sounds like the kind of thing I’d say to my female best friend!
Hehehe!

Kanabi wrote:
I’m only 15, so no marrige is in my future. I talked to hima bout it and he said it was all up to me and I still dont know what I want to do cuz i dont want to lose him as a friend and rawr! I hate love!

If it’s really up to you then you can choose to still be best friends and not have him pressure the dating thing as much, right?

ok. I think you should seek out all the other 15-yr-old girls on this site and say, “Look, I got a boyfriend, what do I do?”

if you like him and you want to date him, then i think you should take that risk. you ARE only 15, but you don’t want “what if”s to hold you back forever.