friends help: how can i tell this girl i like her? - Help.com

What makes u think she might like u? If she is throwing hints i say go for it! u never know right…the worst she san say is lets me freinds, which isnt really that horrible.

just ask her out, i know its hard cause you dont wanna ruin a freind ship but its better to try somthing than to never find out

YouWIsH wrote:
What makes u think she might like u? If she is throwing hints i say go for it! u never know right…the worst she san say is lets me freinds, which isnt really that horrible.

well…
she always goes out of her way to talk to me and also always says hi and bye whenever we see each other. also she offers me rides to and from all of our band things.
also, my mom told me one day that she heard from an anon. source that some girl in band liked me. im guessing that it was the girl i like because my mom works out w/ one of her best friends’ mom and something might have traveled through that way(sry if thats confusing lol)

also i dont know if i want to just ask her out right away, i kinda want to just tell her i like her, see how she responds and go from there

what is something i could say to her to tell her i like her without it being weird?
it might be for a specific situation like when we’re alone with each other vs in a big group w/ band or something
thanks!

Maybe u could tell her when you too are in the car together?

actually thats a good idea, i might be getting a ride w/ her home from our jazz band thing tomorrow!

how could i kinda steer the conversation in that direction or say something to the effect that i like her?

sounds like a great idea! You could ask her to go do something with her outside of band!

Hyde wrote:
sounds like a great idea! You could ask her to go do something with her outside of band!

like what though?
i cant drive and it would be kinda odd dont u think?

Aw. :) That’s cute.
Just casually ask her out ..like “Hey, would you like to catch a movie sometime?” or something like that. If that goes well, just take it from there. :)

♥ tiffany! wrote:
Aw. :) That’s cute.
Just casually ask her out ..like “Hey, would you like to catch a movie sometime?” or something like that. If that goes well, just take it from there. :)

would it be weird if i kinda said it not completely sincerely and more nonchalant(sp) like “we should hang out” or something like that without actually having a set plan?

f*** there goes my anon o well ;)

umm say u could meet at the movies with friends sooo there is not pressure….get friends to drive and maybe after she’ll wanna drop u at home….i don’t think she’ll care if she has to drop u at home.

ya u don’t have to sound serious casual is better for the start.

bl4ckp34 wrote:
would it be weird if i kinda said it not completely sincerely and more nonchalant(sp) like “we should hang out” or something like that without actually having a set plan?

I don’t think that would be weird ..however, if a guy said that to me, initially, I would just think it would be as a friend sorta thing, and I wouldn’t think he was interested in me.

You don’t have to talk about dating/relationships at first ..that’s why I suggested just asking if she would like doing something with you. If you go hang out a few times then maybe you can bring up the subject of “being g/f and b/f.”

Hyde wrote:
ya u don’t have to sound serious casual is better for the start.

♥ tiffany! wrote:

bl4ckp34 wrote:
would it be weird if i kinda said it not completely sincerely and more nonchalant(sp) like “we should hang out” or something like that without actually having a set plan?

I don’t think that would be weird ..however, if a guy said that to me, initially, I would just think it would be as a friend sorta thing, and I wouldn’t think he was interested in me. You don’t have to talk about dating/relationships at first ..that’s why I suggested just asking if she would like doing something with you. If you go hang out a few times then maybe you can bring up the subject of “being g/f and b/f.”

i think your right, i might just see if we could do something together as friends and then maybe see how things go and how she reacts, plus that would make me a lot more comfortable!

Good idea. :)

♥ tiffany! wrote:
Good idea. :)

ooo now im nervous ;)
hopefully i can ditch my dad tomorrow and get her to give me a ride home!

Don’t be nervous. :P
I get so scared and nervous when I go on a date with someone new that I refuse to look at the guy and I never talk, LOL.
But anyway, just try and be casual. Talk about what music is playing in the car or what kind of bands she likes. Just little things. :)

♥ tiffany! wrote:
Don’t be nervous. :P
I get so scared and nervous when I go on a date with someone new that I refuse to look at the guy and I never talk, LOL.
But anyway, just try and be casual. Talk about what music is playing in the car or what kind of bands she likes. Just little things. :)

ok. ill try, music is actually what we usually talk about.
by the way, do u have any ideas on something i could do/say to tell if she likes me back? youve just been really helpful so i figured id ask u! :]

Thanks. Lol. :D
Well, I’m guessing you don’t want to ask her directly?
If she’s doing a lot of flirting - I’d take that as a big yes. Hugs, compliments, stuff like that.

If you do sort of want a ‘real’ answer, maybe say something like “I’m pretty interested in you and I was just wondering if you felt the same?”

Sorry, I don’t think that’s the best advice ..but I’m not too good with relationship advice. :/

♥ tiffany! wrote:
Thanks. Lol. :D
Well, I’m guessing you don’t want to ask her directly?
If she’s doing a lot of flirting - I’d take that as a big yes. Hugs, compliments, stuff like that.

If you do sort of want a ‘real’ answer, maybe say something like “I’m pretty interested in you and I was just wondering if you felt the same?”

Sorry, I don’t think that’s the best advice ..but I’m not too good with relationship advice. :/

ur right im to big of a chicken! lol
she’s not exactly the hugging knid of person but she definitely acts a little different when she’s around compared to around just her other friends so i think thats a pretty good sign!!

*too* not to
it just pis*es me off when other people do that lol

Well, that could definitely be a good sign. In what ways does she act different?

What pi$$es you off? :/

♥ tiffany! wrote:
Well, that could definitely be a good sign. In what ways does she act different?

What pi$$es you off? :/

well she tends to talk to me as opposed to the group, she smiles a lot more, she just seems genuinely happier when im around her

oh sorry i just meant it pis*es me off when people type to instead of too, idk call me ocd :]

Lol, no that bothers me big time as well. :)

I do think she is interested in you and it’s definitely worth checking into. Be ‘flirty’ with her as well. You don’t have to go all out, just a few compliments now and then are always very much appreciated.
“____ you look really nice today. [smile]
She will definitely like that!

^ BTW, girls who are a bit shy tend to show their interest in a different way. (Mostly just in the beginning) It’s not necessarly through hugging and stuff like that, but through smiles/happiness/etc.

yeathats true…so dont get discouraged if u dont get some huge reaction! as long as she doesnt look repulsed ur doing good! lol

♥ tiffany! wrote:
Lol, no that bothers me big time as well. :)

I do think she is interested in you and it’s definitely worth checking into. Be ‘flirty’ with her as well. You don’t have to go all out, just a few compliments now and then are always very much appreciated.
“____ you look really nice today. [smile]
She will definitely like that!

i’ll definitely try to compliment her more!(though not obsessively lol)
do u think its pretty important that i keep myself interested in her doings(for lack of better words) ie like if she has a test ask her how she thinks she did and stuff like that?

Yes! then she will know u care! i used to hate when my BF didnt ask me about hings in my life…like i would go on for days about how i had a big interview or somthing coming uo, and then the day of he never even asked how it went. I used to hate that!

YouWIsH wrote:
as long as she doesnt look repulsed ur doing good! lol

Haha, very good advice. :) That made me LOL.

bl4ckp34 wrote:
do u think its pretty important that i keep myself interested in her doings(for lack of better words) ie like if she has a test ask her how she thinks she did and stuff like that?

I think that is a great idea. For me, I think when guys show interest in small details of my life ..that is most important because it shows they care enough to even ask. It’s very sweet. :) So, yes, I think she will enjoy that very much.

its a great help to have a girl’s perspective on these things!
what are some things that u would like guys to be interested in kinda like the tests thing?, all i can really think of is music cause it kinda consumes both of our lives
im not exactly sure what i “should” be interested in about details of her life lol

Well, I don’t go to school anymore ..so the ‘tests’ thing wouldn’t make sense for me. But for you guys, definitely. :)
Um, let’s see. If her dog is sick, ask how he’s feeling. (Same with family memebers/friends/etc.) Um, ask how her day/weekend has been. If she’s having problems with family/school/etc. be willing to listen and offer advice. If she went somewhere (park, zoo, concert, etc) ask if she enjoyed it. If she got a new CD, make conversation about that.

Basically, if she shows interest in something ..you don’t have to necessarly like that thing, but show her that you like her enough to respect what she likes. :) Hopefully that makes sense.

Sorry, it’s sorta hard to come up with the details that you should ask about. :P Lol.

^ I guess some of those things would apply better if you two were actually dating. You don’t want to seem obsessed with her life if you two aren’t a couple yet ..but I hope it does give you some idea. :)

[quote ♥ tiffany!]
Basically, if she shows interest in something ..you don’t have to necessarly like that thing, but show her that you like her enough to respect what she likes. :) Hopefully that makes sense.

Sorry, it’s sorta hard to come up with the details that you should ask about. :P Lol.
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i think thats some of the best advice ive ever gotten actually. I’ll try to keep that in mind when i see her and hopefully it will help!
thank u so much!!!!!!youve been a huuuuuge help to me! :]

^^^wow now i look like a d***** who cant quote lol

or censor d***** for that matter lol

wtf i type d * c k and it does like a million ***** im gettin pis*sed ;]…..
and im talking to myself

Lol. Well I’m glad I could help. :)
And don’t worry about it, Help.com always does that to me and I end up looking retarded. :D

haha good we can be retards together lol
thanks again!

Lol, cool. :P

And no problem.

ok ur really confuzzing me cause ur little icon says ur offline bur u keep responding…whatever…maybe i am ocd lol

Hmm? That is weird.
Sorry. I’m online though, lol.