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please help me and give me a good advice..

It is about 2 years i am inlove with a girl in my uni and i was feeling shy to go by myself and talk to her… finally i decieded to send one of my friend and talk to her… basically she is a teacher in my uni and i am a student there but she is not 2 or 3 years elder than me that is not problem because i like her so much… so one of my freinds went to her and told her how i feel about her and she asked her to give me her personal email address but she has given her that email address which she is using in her uni, so when i got her email adress i emailed her and i told her how i feel about her and she emailed me back, she seemed to be a nice person and she mentioned in her email that she can not make connection with me because she is working in my uni and it is not nice if some one knows that she is my girlfriend after that i emailed her back and i said to her I understand your situation and perhaps I went a little a head with myself and why would a personal relationship be entangled with work, as both prospects can be attained even if you work in the college and I am a student there.so he did not respond me back i tohugh maybe because the headteacher or princople of our uni can check all emails of staff who working in our uni and students that is why she did not email me back.. so one day she came to me and she said to me i know you are so confusion and she said the reason i dont make connection with you because i am working in your uni and i asked her do u have a boyfriend she said no and i said if you make connection with me i am not gonna tell anyone and we can be as friend in uni , after all of this i dont know, she scares of losing her job and people see us together or maybe she has a boyfriend i am so confused i dont know what i have to do, i really wanna forget her but i can not control my self i love her more day by day.. i was thinking to send my friend back to her and talk to her again and explain to her that i love her alot and i cant forget her dont know please guys help me and tell me what is best thing to do, do u think it is better if i will send my friend back and talk to her againor go to her by myself??, i swear to god i cant eat properly and i always thinking about her, please help me

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Mayor offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 166 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (17 minutes after post)

Wow you have it bad. You have to try not to be selfish and think about her job. You pursuing her can cost her her career. Think of all the time that she has went to school to get an education to be able to obtain that job. Do you really want to mess that up for her? I know you like her a lot but if you get her fired she will despise you for it. For the good of you both I think you need to forget about her. I’m sorry.

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (2 days, 13 hours after post)

Even if you are both adults.
Most universities see a relationship between a teacher and a student as a conflict of interest.

This is because you as a student could have an unfair advantage over other students.
If you started dating, and the university board found out, she would be fired!

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (4 months, 1 week after post)

The questions is; why do you love her?

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (4 months, 1 week after post)

You need to know why you love her before you say love; if you say you love her without knowing why, then you will have a problem with relationship later on.

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