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trouble with friends.

im in highschool, and i know its very typical of girls to be so mean to each other, but i feel like im the only kind one out of all of my friends, and they all *hit on me all the time and are perfectly happy with each other. yesterday at lunch we were all sitting together, all 5 of us, like we always do, and one of my friends was like “lets come up with a name that has all our initials in it” and they did, and it was cute… but it had everyone’s initial but mine… i felt so sad. they don’t understand how much it hurts me. they don’t know that part of the reason i started cutting was because of them. they don’t know that because of them i hate myself, and havent laughed for real in 6 months. they openly make plans in front of me, and say, “youre not invited” just because of something i said over the summer when they all made me cry… and its not like i can just get a new group of friends, my school is so small, and none of the other girls want me to hang around with them… i don’t want to be the girl who sits alone, but id rather do that at this point than sit with my “friends” who pretend i don’t exist. what should i do?

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veg_head offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (4 minutes after post)

Sit alone! You don’t have friends anyway, those girls obviously aren’t going to treat you with any resepect or consideration. Seriously, you don’t need friends like that. Eventually you will find new friends and you won’t need to put up with such abuse. Having no friends is better then shallow empty-headed bullies to hang out with.

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Sherooo offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (9 minutes after post)

babe… i dont want to sound harsh, but you’re acting like a doormat.

I would rather have no friends at all and be happy in myself than be ‘friends’ with a bunch of girls who couldn’t give a toss about me.

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Sherooo offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (16 minutes after post)

you need to look at what you just wrote

i cant help you if ur not willing to help yourself

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Sherooo offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (19 minutes after post)

what you’re supposed to do is take our advice.

these girls arent gonna do anything more than make you unhappy. are you willing to be unhappy for the time you’re in high school?
I had friends that did that.
i ditched them, sat down at a new table with girls id never spoken to before and the rest is history.

maybe you should join a club, get to know other people.

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Sherooo offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (23 minutes after post)

cant u be friends with people above or below you?
or join a club outside of school?

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Sherooo offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (26 minutes after post)

well, dont tell them :S
at all. you dont actually ever have to speak to them again.
take a stand girl, really. its probably the best thing for you right now.

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Sherooo offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (33 minutes after post)

so what?
when my friends found out that i cut, the ones i said about that i sat at the random table with, they immediately looked after me.

Besides, they aren’t your friends if theyre gonna do that. You never know, you might get people coming up to you telling you that they do it too.

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Sherooo offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (38 minutes after post)

well.. i hope you take my advice on board, even if you dont do all of it.

youve just gotta remember that yoiu are worth more than that. noone deserves that…
and i can promise you, when they grow up, they will begin to realise that people can be a lot worse than them, then they’ll get a shock :) just desserts :)

anyway, im off to bed, g’night x

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Sherooo offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (20 hours, 36 minutes after post)

i dont understand… what happened?

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