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All you can do is have faith and trust in him. What will be will be. You two worked out your differences. She can want him back all she wants, but he has to agree. I don’t see that happening. He wouldn’t have wanted to work on things at all if he wanted her. he knows she is available, but he chose you. Be confident in the fact your the one who has him. Don’t let the green-eyed monster get the best of you. Being confident is very appealing. He will see your not sweating her, and appreciate the fact that you can trust him. Until he breaks that trust, relax and feel secure that he is yours. All the best to you :)

I’ve been in a similar situation and Seas Light is right, jealousy will do a great deal of damage and make the situation appear worse in your head!

My guy was with someone for 10 years before we met and although they had split and we were together, no matter how much he said he loved me I didn’t believe him and always thought there was something going on as they kept in touch (now I understand if someone has been in your life for that long, it’s something that has been a part of you for a long time). I even read messages when I knew they were from her, but that only drives you insane, cause what are you going to do about it, confront him and then he knows you’ve breached his trust by going through his personal belongings! What I will say is, try to concentrate on being happy together and forget her, the more you fret about the what if’s and his ex, the worse you will come over to your new boyf and he will wonder why he didn’t stay with her. If he is talking about the future he must love you alot, don’t ruin it by being untrusting, I nearly did! I know it’s easier said than done. Can I ask has he told you he still sees her or do you know they meet up?

I straight up asked him if they still hang out, he said no and that he doesn’t see her. The only thing that makes me question this though is.. He just got a new tattoo and she txtd him last night saying “I wanna see your tattoo.” How did she even know that? He would have had to tell her that he got it that day.. I feel like they talk more then he let’s on.. Also he’s an amazing artist so he still draws tattoo’s for her.. But like My ex bf plays lacrosse and i know how to string sticks, but you don’t see me stringing his sticks for him lol. Plus how much room does this girl have left on her body for 4 new tattoos.. I dunno..

I know how your feeling and it’s horrible. It sounds like he is still talking to her, as you said she wouldn’t have known about the tattoo, but I have this feeling she is treating this as a big game and it will only be as he has a lovely new girlfriend like yourself. Can I ask, why and what happened to them breaking up, did he leave her or did they have a fall out and how did you get together? Soz bit personal, but I’m seeing this as a similar to what was happening with me and my guy in the first 12months of being together. Oh by the way, good for you on the stick stringing thing lol ;-)

I think I’m just going to stick this one out… What’s gunna happen will happen. Truly in life people will do what they want to do and what we say/ how we act has minimal impact in general terms. I love him, and I will keep loving him. I’ll just be myself, have fun and deal with it as it all reveals itself. I can’t control what he does, I can just be the best me. If I get hurt I’ll know it wasn’t meant to be and that there is someone else out there for me.
Thanks for all your help guys!
Cheers.

There’s an underlying feeling of distrust you have in your boyfriend - regardless of how you try to convence yourself of just how “trustworthy” he is. It still burns in you. There’s a good reason for that. If he truely loves you, he would see what the interaction he has with his ex is doing to you - he would break off all ties and communication with this girl. But he isn’t, yet he hangs on to you because you’re “safe” and niave. Trying seeing someone else and see what this does to him. If he dosen’t have a problem with it GET RID OF HIM! His values are not the same as yours. If he has a problem with it then let him know that, that’s the way you’ve been feeling the whole time he’s been interacting with his ex.
Good Luck