Not just you at all. It is hard.
yah some friends always talk behind your backs and wont do anything for you..
u just have to find the right ones.. the people you least expect might become your best friend!
i just had the same problem. a girl who was like my sister started an awful rumor about me and i couldnt forgive her. but my new friend, who was part of the rumor, helped me so much. i knew she didnt have to be there whe i drove to school in complete silence, but it didnt bother her, and she did just incase i wanted to say something that is on my mind. she calmed me down and kept me from losing my head. im sure you’ll find someone to be like that for you. and it’s definately not just you.
I just lost a friend of 2 years and I suspect she is starting rumors about me.
I feel like I am losing everyone I know now that i have lost her…and I have never spoken behind her back and always been loyal. I feel like I can never make lasting friendships!
im going to rant about it because it’s something that has been on my mind since it’s happened and i can’t stand it. i would like for you to read it.
and yea. she was my friend of 3 1/2 years
I take the cynical view that there are no real friends. It’s a mutually benificial relationship and when it ceases to be mutually benificial the friendship disolves. Except for those very kind people who are friends to everyone.
its posted..its long tho..
Its not hard to make real friends!
I think what is hard, is distinguishing between real friends and fake friends.
Sometimes we can’t do this until something big or tragic happens to test the character of our friends.
it really shouldnt be hard to make a real friend otherwise they’re not really your friend if you have to force it upon the both of you. Real friends come naturally, they wander the earth waiting for you to find them and every once in a while you will meet a person that you really easily become friends with, if its not easy then they’re not the best kind of friend. Yes you can be friendly with them ect ect but its unlikely that they will be these REAL friends you are looking for. Goodluck btw and namaste.
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plus it depends on what kind of friends your talking about? there are people who think the same way as you but have different interests. there are people who share your interests but dont think the same way as you. There are also people who are happy to help you but not spend much time with you and there are people who love spending time with you but wouldnt help you out. Its a rare thing to find all of the positives you want in the same person…
You’re not alone. Making friends is easy, making true friends is as difficult and as much of a struggle as building a perfect relationship with a potential spouse. Essentially it’s the same thing.
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11 months, 2 weeks ago (10 hours, 21 minutes after post)
Me too,for 11 years I’ve been trying to find a REAL friend…no success…PLEASE let me know if you find out how. I don’t think there’s nothing wrong with me,I just don’t understand why I can’t make friends. Or why people are not interested in getting to know me :)
I think it is because people cant handle me. I am not a conceided person by any stretch! But I am just going to play it real…I am attractive, a good mom, talented, and alot of fun! I am always the only mom in an organization I belong to that joins in the vollyball game, or runs and plays with the kids, or is upbeat and plays with the kids. The other moms are boring and just sit there shooting the breeze. I also like to get philisophical and they dont want to talk about anything too “deep”…BORING! I think this is the reason other mom’s dont like me. :( Some of the other moms will attract to me at first, then fade away. Even though I have been nothing but sweet and kind to these people. I am honestly not trying to be boastful…just honest. I have my faults too, but I think the above reasons are why I cant make lasting friendships. I would love to meet a true friend, someone who will be my buddy no matter what! Who will laugh with me, go on adventures with me, be my sister! But alas, it is not meant to be…
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10 months, 1 week ago (1 month after post)
People want to be with others who can be real friends! So prove that you’re one, socialize, and watch your popularity rise!
Do people really want real friends? That is what they say, but do they do the things in order to attract real friends? I once read a post somewhere on Help.com, and someone said at the end of the day, nice people always have friends….Not necessarily true. Sometimes it is the nice people who are alone because there arent many people willing to do what it takes to be a real friend.
Look, all throughtout your life, and anyone else’s life as well, you will meet tons of people. Some will stay and be really cool, others will meet you and you’ll have good laughs and never hear from them again. It’s life. And then you have the people who act like they’re your friends and use you for whatever reason. And when you find out what kind of “friends” they really are, you’ll hurt and want to cry. But, I guarantee you that there’s going to be someone there for you with a shoulder to cry on and they will try their best to comfort you. Those are your real friends, and those are the people that care the most about you.
True Cari! Not everyone you meet will be a great friend…I am learning that there are all kinds of encounters in life. So I guess you really appreciate the ones that are there for you! :)
i really do. believe me, i’ve gone through this so many times, but it was all worth it to be with the best friend i have now.. im actually here at her house right now lol.. but i would go back through everything i’ve gone through if that meant she would be the one who is going to be there for me. i appreciate her sooo much. i’m sure in time that you’ll find the people you love the most to be your best friends. :D
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