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I was going out with my boyfriend for nearly 13 months and things were good but for the last month we were arguing like every week.

I thought things were going back to normal but then he finished it a couple of days ago. He told me he didnt love me the same anymore but still wants to be friends. He also said there is a chance that we could get back together but he needs space so he can think about things. I am going crazy because there is nothing i can do to help. I just want him back. Any Advice?

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Joy. offline Verified User (3 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 22 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (0 minutes after post)

Do what he is doing. Move on.

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*Dougie* offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (11 minutes after post)

You have three options.

1) walk away and move on as Joy has suggested.
2) give him space and focus on you for now. This will achieve two things. You will feel better in yourself. He will feel better in himself. Its the only real chance you have of going back to a good relationship with him.
3) Bug the heck out of him and beg him to take you back. This option will cause one of two things to happen.

The relationship will get worse because he will resent not having his space, and you will break up again, but you will not repair any possible friendship you might have with him for a long time after.
OR you will miraculously solve all your problems (although this is unlikely because the problems will still be there!)

I would advise either option 1 or 2.
Option 1 is probably easier.
Option 2 is recommended if you really feel strongly enough that the relationship can be saved.
Option 3 is NOT recommended at all!

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*Dougie* offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (50 minutes after post)

Not always!

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