Love help: I’m in love but i’m not supposed to show her anything - Help.com

Perhaps its time to bend the rules.
Everybody deserves love.
And if this lady feels the same way as you, I’m sure the others would be ok with it!

Don’t let your pride rob you of what could be an amazing relationship.

Do you think you could go the rest of your life thinking what if? its worth the risk mate

But what if she likes you to. shouldent you try just in case and if she dosent you can always fix your relationship

it wont be fixed .. friendship will be affected .. to her i’ll always be the guy she rejected

This makes no sense!
Which one of you is the original poster?

here .. sorry i posted as dslkfh .. cause i had no idea how to use this site .. i got it figured now

if you think she dosent like you in the same way then dont do anything yet leve it for a bit and see what hapens

its been going on for months now

In my experience, the most rewarding relationships are the ones you have with your best friend. Even if it doesn’t work out!

true dougie

on the other hand i can’t let her be with a wreck like myself

Ah see now we are getting to the crux of the issue.
You don’t think you are good enough for this girl do you?
I think you may be using your rules as an excuse for what’s really holding you back!

which is

You don’t feel you are worthy of this girl!
Read what I wrote in the reply above!

Your “rules” are artificial. Here’s what I’d be concerned with: the girl you like, what kind of men does she like? You should know this by now?

Feel her out. If you’re the nerd type and she likes jocks, see if she would be willing to try something else. If she says yes, suggest yourself!

You have only one life to live. Live it boldly!

Yes feel her out!
But not up ;)
Well not yet anyway :P

Another sensible reply, Chev Jame! :)

loudsilence9 wrote:
on the other hand i can’t let her be with a wreck like myself

Self-deprecation is just another form of vanity.

All you can do is express yourself regarding your feelings for her. Then the ball is in her court. She will be the deciding factor, as to whether, there is any chance to take this friendship to the next level. Let here decide. Life is full of gambles. If you never go for it, you will never know what the outcome will be. She just might surprisingly like you more then just a friend as well. You will never know if you don’t try. Friendships, good ones that is, aren’t dissolve simply because one expresses they would like the relationship to proceed to the next level. Go for it. She’ll still be your friend :)

I know you’re trying to protect her by setting these criteria for who is worthy to date her, but you aren’t her, in the end she’s the only one that can choose which path she takes and she won’t walk down your path if she doesn’t even know it’s an option. You don’t know she’ll reject you if you don’t give her the chance. Trust me, it’s worth it, and there’s no guarantee that it’ll ruin the friendship. I have feelings for my best friend and she knows it and we’re still best friends with no awkwardness between us. Most likely she’ll respect your honesty and if you make it clear that you’d rather be her friend than lose her all together then you definitely have a chance. Being willing to open up about it is a huge key.

hey guys … i did express my feelings .. here’s what happend .. she rejected me .. badly… and she started going out with this piece of *** who ended up cheating on her and stuff.. oh well.. yet i didnt say anything to her cause i wasnt in the position to do so .. he ended up knockin her up and runnin away.. she turned to me for help.. i didnt know what to do .. it was hard for me to see her in that shape.. she ended up havin an abortion somewhere in the far east .. when she came back .. our friendship was not the same anymore .. she started to go out with another guy who’s worse than the other one.. 2 months later.. HIS GIRLFRIEND came back home!.. and she was dumped like yesterday’s newspaper.. as much as i loved her, she didnt find me when she came back looking for her bestfriend.. she came asking for us to be the friends we always been .. we’re friends again alright .. but i dont feel the same towards her anymore .. however .. i am actually sad