friends help: I am so worried for when january comes… Because that is when I am getting kicked out of my aunt and uncles place. - Help.com

Are you close to your aunt and uncle? i wonder if you have talked about them. So you know the reason why they are kicking you out.

hey… thats really sad that your uncle and aunt are not letting you stay…
but i ask you to think it other way round…
see i think they want you to be independent not depending on them and the best thing you can do is get know the reason behind their act… did they told you those things out of anger or frustration or simply told you the that you have time till dec. to get urself settled??????

sorry to say this, but your uncle and aunt doesn’t sound like a very nice person, given the fact that they are kicking you out, their own family.
did you know what was their reason for doing so exactly?
but, the fact of the matter is that, if you really have to move out, you really have to prepare yourself, like a cheap place to stay, and other plans like what would you like to do next? work and school perhaps?
bottom line, be brave and do what is needed to be done, whatever it takes really

…and you can also find a job to support yourself.

g_harpal wrote:
dude, how old are you?

and yes, i’d like to ask the same question.

Maybe they just want you to be independent? I still wonder what their real reason is but anyway the most important thing is you are going to try to do it on your own.

What makes you scared to be on your own? most teenagers like to be free and do things by themselves.

i think the dont want you to be dependent on them forever and for you to start your own life, ur never alone im sure they will be there, there is nothing to be scared of you have to d it eventually just budget your money and buy the neccesities not luxuries

hey dude!! think what will be the most disgusting thing happen to you if you fail…. you will
but i m sorry to know that you dont trust your uncle and aunt…

J.J. wrote:

*lilies wrote:
Maybe they just want you to be independent? I still wonder what their real reason is but anyway the most important thing is you are going to try to do it on your own.

What makes you scared to be on your own? most teenagers like to be free and do things by themselves.

Well, I am afraid of possibly getting into debt and getting kicked out of the appartment and then having to live on the streets… I’m somewhat excited, but all my worries are overpowering that excitement, causing me to be depressed.

u need to budget your money you if you make 1000 a month ur bills need to be maximum 850 and save the rest, u need to save enough to pay your bills for 6months in case of an emergency, just be prepared and you cnt fail

J.J. wrote:

*lilies wrote:
Maybe they just want you to be independent? I still wonder what their real reason is but anyway the most important thing is you are going to try to do it on your own.

What makes you scared to be on your own? most teenagers like to be free and do things by themselves.

Well, I am afraid of possibly getting into debt and getting kicked out of the appartment and then having to live on the streets… I’m somewhat excited, but all my worries are overpowering that excitement, causing me to be depressed.

Proper budgeting and management would help a lot. Plan ahead if ever you’d get some stuff from shops and make sure you’d save for the rainy days. I was 20 when i had to leave home and went through the same process like you are doing now. You are not alone in this.

When it is time, then it is time.

Set your sails high! :)

hey search net if you want to plan your things……..
one thing before you go out… believe yourself…
this will make you pass out of hardest times..
wishing you best luck for your future….

u can make 480 go a long way, u just need to start clipping coupons and looking for bargins, u dont need to worry you have a job and you can make it, but you need to pay all your bills first even if it means you cant eat, like i know that sounds horrible but you need a place to stay and build good credit, cut down as much of your costs as possible, and dont get anyone pregnant, you cant go wrong with that

work over time or reduce your spendings…
i think you should look for other transport system cos your car is taking about 40% of your income….

thats not bad for gas, but like swapnil said try public transportation or car pooling, the best alternative to lowering your bills is getting a responsible roomate tht way your rent gets cut in half even if it is a studio one of you needs to sleep in the living room, i know people who live in a one bedroom apt and share it with 3 people so like you need to make sacrifices, are you going to school?

Hey, guy . . . just march down to the military recruiter’s office and join up! You will have a place to stay for the next 2 - 3 years, depending upon your term of enlistment.

Your aunt and uncle probably just want their privacy back.

And it looks like you’re running out of options, fast.

Go and find yourself a room or a kitchenette. That is all that you need to start out with and will not cost that much to rent monthly. Your friends probably don’t hang out with you because they are not sure about your Aunt and Uncle, they will probably come over more if you have your own place. More than likely they want you to take more responsibility for yourself and get out on your own. Hope this helps :-)

Maybe one of your friends at work would want to share a place or has an extra room?

One thing you will find out when you need a place to live is that your friends and relatives are NOT going to be very accommodating. Go ahead, give it a try . . . and you will see what I mean.

You’ve already run the numbers . . . and it looks pretty grim, doesn’t it? You would have $480 for utilities, food and gas. And what about health insurance? Do you have that? What about car insurance? What about any kind of emergency?

I think your estimate of $250 for a flat is very, very optimistic. Oh . . . those utilities. Get ready to plunk down hundreds of dollars on deposits. And you should know that the utilities really like to stick it to apartment dwellers.

And what about college, J.J.? Any plans? Is lack of money holding you back?

You know, J.J., in your shoes I’d just go down and join the military for two or three years. You’d get the GI Bill for college, you’d get a place to stay, and you would make really decent money. You could save a lot of it. I would do this in a heartbeat before I would stay in a deadend job, live in a fleabag apartment, or scrape by from payday to payday. And, if you joined the Air Force, you would have decent quarters and meals everywhere you went.

Just think about it, J.J. It’s going to be cold in January!

“I’m 19, I got a job and all that. My aunt and uncle aren’t mad or anything at me. They said it to me calmly and they said they will always be here if things don’t work out. But my head is spinning and I wonder if things didn’t work out if they actually would be there for me. I’ve never moved out on my own, and I’m scared to death of it.”

Honestly, you have to stop being so fearful. Everybody goes through exactly the same emotions and everyone copes. If you have a job you have nothing to worry about.

“Let’s see, I make about 1100/month my car insurance is 220/month and car payment is 150/month. My bills are already 370 a month as it is. A studio here is like 250, without utilities. So without utilities my bills would be 620. Thats 480 leftover for utilities, groceries, and whatever else. That’s not much. “

That’s more than enough unless you expect to be powering the whole state with your electricity and dining out in fine restaurants every night.

You’re hardly in a unique situation. In fact, being at home at the age of 19 is quite unusual. Everyone else has already left home before then.

“Well, I am afraid of possibly getting into debt and getting kicked out of the appartment and then having to live on the streets… I’m somewhat excited, but all my worries are overpowering that excitement, causing me to be depressed. “

Welcome to normal life.