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I have been married for 21 years, my wife and I have

had a huge row and for 10 weeks she has not been herself, she says she does not love me and hates me, I do not want to lose her, but she says she is happy without me. I love her dearly, but she wants nothing to do with me. Any suggestions would be welcome, more from women and men that have been in this before

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starwolf135 offline Verified User (11 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (6 minutes after post)

maybe something happened around 10 wks ago that you didn’t notice, or she didn’t tell you about. a problem at work, with a friend, or with another family member. if everything was fine and happy up until this point, something must have triggered it. try and retrace the past couple of months and try and figure out what’s upsetting her. maybe she really needs you right now, but is afraid to ask for your help. don’t give up. if it happened out of nowhere, like it seems it did, there’s still a chance to pick up the pieces and regain your happiness. let her know you’re there for her, but give her space if she needs it. Best of luck

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Tyranid Tamer offline Verified User (12 months) Long Term User Shouts: 18 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (28 minutes after post)

MENOPAUSE.
My aunt went through this at a very young age and she just went crazy. She changed completely. But nowadays there are so many more solutions. Maybe this is it?

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (41 minutes after post)

I do not mean to be cold yet, someone professing hate is best given space and take some for yourself. i> small>(email removed) /small> /i> may feel like you are the best person to help her although, you’re the last one she can hear right now. This may be her loss my friend, haters are nothing nice.

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