Love help: A little over three months ago, my live-in girlfriend of eight months announced that she was leaving me because she didn’t love me anymore. - Help.com

A little over four months ago, my live-in girlfriend of eight months announced that she was leaving me because she didn’t love me anymore. I was completely shocked - I had no idea this was even close to happening. I am quite sure it wasn’t because she met someone else. From our conversations, it was my moodiness and controlling character. I was aware of some of my behaviour that bothered her and I had been making an effort to change, but it was not enough. I do have issues from my relationship with my mother, and I can be insecure. But I also was very open about my feelings, but my ex just didn’t ‘get’ me and after a while my faults overshadowed my qualities and she gradually lost her love for me. Unfortunately she was not as communicative so things between us seemed okay to me. By the time she told me it was over, she had made up her mind and I was unable to convince her to give us a chance. Within three weeks she was gone and move into a new apartment. Since then, her life has been very happy and fulfilling, while mine unraveled. I’ve been slowly feeling better, but still have her constantly on my mind. We’ve kept our distance, but still communicate once in a while. I am able now to not talk to her about us, but omtimes I regress. The last time this happened, she told me that my best bet would be to try to be friends and then who knows, maybe one day if we are meant to be together it might happen. I think she just wants me to move on and not talk to her about relationship issues anymore. She has, from the beginning, been very careful not to give me hope, so I don’t understand why she would say what she did about being friends and ‘who knows …’. We have friends in common and so it is difficult to avoid hearing about her. And I have been feeling isolated and have avoided social gatherings where I know she will be present. I now feel I’ve enough to perhaps see her a little at a time and have little hope of anything more than friendship. Still, I would like to know if anyone out there has been on the other side of this and ended up reconciling later on. I’d also welcome any advice or thoughts on this. My ex is very emotionally stable and has a very strong and resilient character. I find that she is perhaps not the most empathic or forgiving person, but she is not knowingly hurtful or spiteful.

A little over four months ago, my live-in girlfriend of eight months announced that she was leaving me because she didn’t love me anymore. I was completely shocked - I had no idea this was even close to happening. I am quite sure it wasn’t because she met someone else. From our conversations, it was my moodiness and controlling character. I was aware of some of my behaviour that bothered her and I had been making an effort to change, but it was not enough. I do have issues from my relationship with my mother, and I can be insecure. But I also was very open about my feelings, but my ex just didn’t ‘get’ me and after a while my faults overshadowed my qualities and she gradually lost her love for me. Unfortunately she was not as communicative so things between us seemed okay to me. By the time she told me it was over, she had made up her mind and I was unable to convince her to give us a chance. Within three weeks she was gone and moved into a new apartment. Since then, her life has been very happy and fulfilling, while mine unraveled. I’ve been slowly feeling better, but still have her constantly on my mind. We’ve kept our distance, but still communicate once in a while. I am able now to not talk to her about us, but omtimes I regress. The last time this happened, she told me that my best bet would be to try to be friends and then who knows, maybe one day if we are meant to be together it might happen. I think she just wants me to move on and not talk to her about relationship issues anymore. She has, from the beginning, been very careful not to give me hope, so I don’t understand why she would say what she did about being friends and ‘who knows …’. We have friends in common and so it is difficult to avoid hearing about her. And I have been feeling isolated and have avoided social gatherings where I know she will be present. I now feel I’ve enough to perhaps see her a little at a time and have little hope of anything more than friendship. Still, I would like to know if anyone out there has been on the other side of this and ended up reconciling later on. I’d also welcome any advice or thoughts on this. My ex is very emotionally stable and has a very strong and resilient character. I find that she is perhaps not the most empathic or forgiving person, but she is not knowingly hurtful or spiteful.

A little over three months ago, my live-in girlfriend of eight months announced that she was leaving me because she didn’t love me anymore. I was completely shocked - I had no idea this was even close to happening. I am quite sure it wasn’t because she met someone else. From our conversations, it was my moodiness and controlling character. I was aware of some of my behaviour that bothered her and I had been making an effort to change, but it was not enough. I do have issues from my relationship with my mother, and I can be insecure. But I also was very open about my feelings, but my ex just didn’t ‘get’ me and after a while my faults overshadowed my qualities and she gradually lost her love for me. Unfortunately she was not as communicative so things between us seemed okay to me. By the time she told me it was over, she had made up her mind and I was unable to convince her to give us a chance. Within three weeks she was gone and moved into a new apartment. Since then, her life has been very happy and fulfilling, while mine unraveled. I’ve been slowly feeling better, but still have her constantly on my mind. We’ve kept our distance, but still communicate once in a while. I am able now to not talk to her about us, but omtimes I regress. The last time this happened, she told me that my best bet would be to try to be friends and then who knows, maybe one day if we are meant to be together it might happen. I think she just wants me to move on and not talk to her about relationship issues anymore. She has, from the beginning, been very careful not to give me hope, so I don’t understand why she would say what she did about being friends and ‘who knows …’. We have friends in common and so it is difficult to avoid hearing about her. And I have been feeling isolated and have avoided social gatherings where I know she will be present. I now feel I’ve enough to perhaps see her a little at a time and have little hope of anything more than friendship. Still, I would like to know if anyone out there has been on the other side of this and ended up reconciling later on. I’d also welcome any advice or thoughts on this. My ex is very emotionally stable and has a very strong and resilient character. I find that she is perhaps not the most empathic or forgiving person, but she is not knowingly hurtful or spiteful.