life help: I cant be alone with my own thoughts….. - Help.com

hmm I think you should try to go to a therapist again as they usually know how to give advice to deal with that type of thing. Sorry i cant be of any more use.=/ good luck.

Eventually you have to learn to face your problem eye to eye and you need to overcome of your emotions. Nobody can help you do that, no matter how many times you go from one counselor to the other. When you are ready to face it by yourself and be able to accept the fact that it is long gone, you would be able to move on. YOu are very lucky, do you know how many men out there have abusive partners and they take it for decades, or even longer? Tell yourself it is not your fault whatever happened and you can’t change it either. Just be content that she is not abusing you anymore. Imagine if you have clinical depression now after only two years of abuse, you would have been in a much worse case if it continued longer. Face it and move on. Don’t hide behind friends and TV and distructions. Though they are helpful in the surface and for a short time, you are looking for a longer result and that can come only if you are ready.

{{HUGS}} It sounds like your still in the healing process which is ok, these things take time.The struggle your having with your thoughts is probably due to trying to avoid them.We cannot get away from our thoughts,nor avoid them ,they are a part of us. Once you accept this fact and begin facing the issues of the break up with therapy preferably the struggle will diminish . When they are dark and bring us down they are lying to us and its imparitive not to listen to them when this happens. If they are good you know its the truth and should listen and follow since this will be beneficial and healthy.Hers some options,take a min and think about what your trying to avoid, it will most likely be a re-occuring thought,then do what you need to do to knock that off your list,per`sa. Then the smaller ones will be easier to tackle. re-read your original post replies , they will give you some perspective and encouragement.Talk therapy is like what we do here but by seeing a professional odds are you will benefit greater and heal faster.Either go back to that therapist or find another.There’s nothing to fear b/c depression,especially clinical is treatable and managable. You din’t have closure with your last relationship this is probably a big part,if not all of the struggle. the same with me,it was out of your hands,out of your control.unfortunate but it it what it is.You tried,you did your part and sometimes that all we can do.you can have some closure By making a choice to not take it personally b/c it IS their problem,NOT yours ,simply put she would not meet you half way and that was unfair to you.Injustice brings anger so I know there’s got to be anger in there somewhere.Journaling and forgiving will do wonders.Especially since forgiving is the hardest and last part of closure.so tell her,in a letter how it wasn’t fair to you.let it out then forgive her so you can have freedom.the forgiving is not for her,it is for you.You only have to do this within yourself,not necessarily in a letter to her.in your heart.It doesn’t matter if she knows it or even hears it , just that you try to do it.This may take time so dont rush it.Also to rush into another relationship will hinder the healing process.you need to be alone with you.So I strongly suggest a break,a separation. It will be healthy for both of you. If the relationship has soured b/c of it -it wasn’t meant to be.But most times it energizes and enhances it.Yes, its a risk but it will get you out of this rut you see yourself in……..Can u tell us more about these thoughts?

go live with someone if you live by yourself that is not good for your situation and make sure that person is compatible to you so that you can on the lowest level tolerate that person 2 people would probably be good but dont recommend immediat fam like brothers sis mom dad gma gpa they’ll just be too concerned and make sure that person actually uses the living space so you wont feel like your the only one there wheni other belong there ..just a suggestion

{{HUGS}} This is wise advice from our very own Richard Lyon http://help.com/post/211805-get-over-it . Dont let the title put you off,its really goo:)

hugs thank you kim

im trying bit by bit