Parent help: How do u keep your parents from divorcing? - Help.com

to tell you the truth theres nothing you can do

There may not be much if anything, that you can do to prevent your folks from divorcing.
Marriage is between two people, so even though you’re their offspring (and likely a beloved one at that)
they must decide between them if they want to stay together or not. It’s simply not your job or responsibility
to fix them or keep them together. I hope you have some friends to connect with and be supported by during this difficult transition!

Best of luck to you!
MM

There is next to nothing you can do. My parents separated when I was 5 and I was obviously distraught. But now I’m 20 I can see that it was for the best. If they had stayed together for my sake, I would have been living in a house where there was constant arguing and hatred.
Even though it doesn’t seem like it right now, it will probably work out for the better if they get divorced. If they do, you will get the best from two happier parents rather than fighting for them to stay together and them being unhappy.
As painful as divorce is, in the long run it tends to work out better not just for the parents but also for the children involved.
Good luck honey, try not to be too upset by it but remember there will always be people you can talk to, friends, family and people here on help.com.
x

There’s the point that parents should stay together for the kids, then there’s the opinion they should part for the kids sake. Two ways of looking at it, as Jamiee said, if they stay together your life likely wouldn’t be happy amongst the arguing and upset. You deserve both parents in your life, so as long as they make a point of doing it where both will continue to be parents to you, I think this will be better for you in the long run. If their minds are made up, I really don’t think you can stop it hon.

If you were to talk to your parents about divorcing, express your concerns that you may not be able to see both of them, as I’m assuming this is one of the factors upsetting you most?

Hate to say it, but there isn’t anything you can really do.
If there is no love there, the worst thing for them would actually be staying together. :/

jjlove wrote:
Our son was 5. …Following the divorce, we made a conscious choice to be the best parents we could be, because we felt our son deserved that. To this day, our son (now 24) still thanks me for the decisions that we made.

I know this is off subject a little bit, but that made me smile. :)
It’s really nice to see divorced couples who put their child before themselves and don’t argue/fight/place blame ..but get along nicely. I wish there were more people smart enough and willing to do that, then their children would feel as though they were to blame.

Wouldn’t feel*

Oops, sorry.

I applaud you jj greatly. You are the perfect example of how a divorce should have been. I just wish more parents could do the same, it would have saved myself and alot of my friends a great deal of crying. Both my friend and I have divorced parents, only our cowardly fathers moved to the other side of the world to get away from their problems and settle into their new lives.
I hope that your parents (anna) don’t go to such lengths to avoid each other. But at least jj can give you living hope that divorce doesn’t have to ruin families and is often the best thing for the children.

Unfortunately I rarely have contact with him. I still very much blame him for what happened, he cheated on my mother several times and was unsupportive of her after my brother died. I tend not to refer to him as my dad, I call him his name as I feel he was never really a father to me, and the title of dad should be earned, as far as I’m concerned. I am considering visiting him next year (from the advice of my friends) to meet him, not as my father but as a friend as I feel that this is the only way I can have a relationship with him now.

Just also want to add that my bad views of my father were made comppletely on my own, my mam did not influence me to feel this way, he did it all on his own. LOL.

My brother died when I was 2, it was shortly after his birth, so I sadly don’t remember him but I do miss him, even though it sounds odd as I never really knew him.

That is kind of strange but then also not. I can’t explain why because I’m not sure but I don’t tend to find many things strange anymore LOL. I suppose I believe that you can feel a connection to someone even after death and even without knowing them. It’s those kind of thoughts that comfort me when I feel lonely.

My best friend and I are like that. She always seems to know when there is something wrong with me, even though we often don’t have time to speak for months on end. I live in France at the moment and she is is the UK, it was the other way round last year. But she will randomly call me sometimes just to check I am ok, as she gets gut feelings that something is wrong with me, and usually something has happened either that day or the day before.