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What is this emptiness?

The more I go to a club or pub with my friends, the more I get lonely. The more I try to entertain myself, the more I get sad.

I look at people at a pub having fun and wonder if I used to be like that and if I can smile like them. I look at people and wonder what makes them happy and smile. When was the last time I really smiled? I do not remember. Why do people laugh and smile? Are they really happy? I cannot smile if I don’t feel so and I know people would think I’m boring. But it makes me really tired of pretending I am having fun. I feel something is wrong with me. What’s this emptiness? When can I smile again?

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An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (6 minutes after post)

You aren’t doing something that makes you happy…
Maybe you’ve expectations that are too hard to please, maybe you don’t know what you want or perhaps you just need some fresh air in your life =P

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An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (11 minutes after post)

I agree with maybe you arent doing something you enjoy.. More going with the crowd more than anything.
In order to smile and laugh and mean it.. You need to be doing what you enjoy and be with people who -know- you.
Sounds like its time to get in touch with YOU.
Emptiness its not.. Just a lack of knowing whats there.

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An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (23 minutes after post)

I agree with the other replies. You aren’t having fun because that isn’t fun for you! You’re not boring just because you don’t like to tear it up at the bar every night! Those people may not be having as good a time as they are pretending to.

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An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (59 minutes after post)

i wish i knew, i seem to go about my days doing what is expected of me. i keep tring new and different things hoping to find anything to put a smile on my face. i know it can be done because people do it everyday. i guess some people are harder to please.

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An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (1 hour, 7 minutes after post)

Ha maybe you need to listen to some sadistic music as in scarry… sometimes you need to be reminded how scarry things can be so you can be releived it isn’t that way…. that in itself is contentment… Being happy its not worse… suggestions “mary magdalin “rage” or hrm.. anything by ICP makes u go uhhh what? just try experiencing something new…

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11 months ago (1 hour, 45 minutes after post)

thank you everyone.
I might not have enough social skills.
sometimes you have to talk about something you arent interested in, right?
But recently I am so tired of it.
I used to do more volunteer works but now I am also tired of it(physically).

I want to be more social person (I go out every weekend with my friends) when I meet new people. But do i need at a club or bar?
I see people and wonder what they want here.

I know i just should stop going those places but feel im left behind if i don go out…

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An Undisclosed Location | 11 months ago (20 hours, 47 minutes after post)

not that you aren’t social enough but that it may not be your social scene

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An Undisclosed Location | 11 months ago (20 hours, 49 minutes after post)

if they are your friends they might try new places with you also you might find other friends at these places that share similar social scene its not a fault in you

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10 months ago (1 month after post)

You’re at a pub! They’re not truly happy, they’re drunk! It’s not a problem you have- it’s theirs’!

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 4 weeks ago (1 month, 1 week after post)

The only reason I smile and laugh and don’t feel empty is because Jesus is in my life and he gives me love, joy, hope, and strength to endure everyday life.

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (1 month, 2 weeks after post)

been there, done that. i feel u. in my case it i found that i’m sick of the normal social scene that i always go to. same faces and same friends every weekend. and yeah, like what was suggested by the other replies, u need a new scene. something more well….different with new ppl. i found my smile back when i started playing tennis. i started meeting new ppl and have fun at the same time. anyway its always good to have more than one circle of friends. :P

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (7 months, 1 week after post)

I went through that same phase 5 years ago. Now I am dead on the inside. I work for a giant retail corporation that has no moral conscience. I’ve learned to forget myself and just do a job that keeps me busy and that’s all I need to keep myself going. As long as they don’t fire me I am stable.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (7 months, 3 weeks after post)

I guess the answer begins with a good question. Why are you going there…no really, just for fun? Could it be you want to feel a part of something, you want to feel significant, you really are looking for the “filler” for the emptiness you actually walked in with. Don’t we all just want to be loved and feel significant just because we are who we are? What if someone walked up to you while you were in the club (looking for whatever you were looking for) and told you that He knows you, and that He loves you and that He has a future for you that is more than you could ever dream of. What if He told you that He’s been looking for you, not for the “smiling” I’ve got everything going for me person - you, plain and simple. He’s got answers to your questions, healing for your hurts, future plans (good plans), a clean slate to offer you, a new beginning, and a love that will fill you up (so much that it will overflow)? You won’t be empty anymore, ever again, guaranteed!

Of course it’s all up to you… If you want to know more check out the Billy Graham official website, or google Jesus Christ has a plan for my life, or what is salvation. There are answers, go for it! As I press send I will say a prayer for you to the One who knows your name!

Sounds pretty amazing, doesn’t it? Well all of it is true even down to the part that He’s been looking for you…Jesus Christ is looking for you, He’s calling your name (you are not anonymous to Him), He has a plan, a purpose, for your life.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (7 months, 3 weeks after post)

or NeedHim.org

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An Unknown Location | 5 days, 19 hours ago (11 months after post)

if youre friends dont make u happy u should try something new or find new freinds that you can relax with???

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