Love help: How do you make your mother love you as you are? - Help.com

I do understand. I have almost the same relationship with my father. It’s hard to depend on someone’s opinion that much. Try distancing yourself mentally from her, at least a bit. It will make your relationship a lot healthier.

my mom hates me for being untidy she wont accept thats how i am and she wont accept that i forget things.i remember birthdays and numbers and license plates bit i once forgot to tell her i was home when she was gonna pick me up from school.but when she forgets stuff its ok.

Why not sit down and tell her that?

weres your dad
is your dad high profile?

You can’t MAKE anyone love you.
Your mother needs to learn how to live her own life, and stop living vicariously through you.

evansent wrote:
weres your dad
is your dad high profile?

the reason why i ask this
your mum might be living her life,through you
like shes missed a certain oppertunity
therefore your the next best thing :)

Parents are a burden.

not all parents are burdens
you need to understand your kids
me..im a mother of 3 boys,i understand them well

always remember children learn what they live :)

your welcome lv :)

You can’t make anyone do anything. All your can do is to live your life and hope that she learns over the long haul to respect your own choices, tastes, and decisions.

If she doesn’t, she doesn’t.

Ir sounds as if her approval is very important to you. I guess that’s true of all of us, to a degree.

you shouldnt feel that you HAVE to succeed for the love of your mother. knowing that you love her is enough but you dont have to show that love by HAVING to date high profile people. by all means if you can succeed in work do it but for your own benifit and not for the love of you mother because she will love you no matter what happens

i see what you mean
my mothers like that :/
but the fact is its really hard for them to change
they want their children to excell and they want to be a proud mother.
but you need to tell them that you are their daughter and no matter what you do, you’re still yourself.
and you need to tell them that its hard for you to get everything perfect.

i think your mom had high expectations for herself when she was a child, and now that she failed to achieve them, she’s trying to live them through you. try to realize that she just loves you and wants the best for you…and kinda herself…

just be yourself, and if she still bothers you, try to tell her that’s all you can be

*Dougie* wrote:
You can’t MAKE anyone love you.
Your mother needs to learn how to live her own life, and stop living vicariously through you.

Right. She doesn’t really love herself, so don’t let that influence your life. Tell her she can get the high profile people and jobs or whatever it is, but that is not what you do. I have no problem telling my mother she doens’t know what she’s talking about. Sometimes that’s what you have to do. I know it’s mother, but they don’t always know best like they think they do. So have a talk with. U may even need to walk away for a while. You only get one life, and it’s yours, so you have to live the way YOU want to, not the way others want you to. You will be miserable and end up resenting her in the end. She’ll wake up, and if she doesn’t then oh well. My mom still loves me, but she gave up on telling my what I should do with my life, because I never did what she wanted. I do what I want, and I’m happy, and actually more successful than she is. Do you baby.

You shouldn’t have to [i]make[/i] her love you as you are. Just do what you feel is right for you, and let her know that though you love her and want to make her happy, what she wats you to do just doesn’t make you feel right as a person.

tbh, she does love you the way you are.
but she wants to pursue further. the way all mothers want their children to do the best.

just try your best at things, i am what more can she ask for?
x