boyfriend help: My boyfriend and I have been having some problems lately. - Help.com

You have other options. Get a boyfriend you like. No one’s forcing this guy on you.

I have been having similar problems with my man, although talking to him has helped and he was very upset I was feeing this way. The other thing you need to do is give him space, let him miss you for a bit, go out with your friends make yourself unavailable to him for a week or so, I realised I was answering calls from my boyfriend at 2 in the morning after he had been out for the night, so I stopped that and he started to chase again, I realised I was calling him the second I left work not leaving him a chance to call me then getting upset that I always called him and he never called me, try getting really busy and letting him call you for a while

If he’s not willing to compromise, then he’s not worth the long term. I’m sorry to say this, dear, but you need to break up with him if he’s not willing to be a man about things.

I have to agree with Cakes first and foremost. If you really care for the guy then give it one last attempt. If he doesnt change then just leave him because he’s only going to hurt you more in the long run. It’s not the easiest thing to do if it must be done, but its the healthiest for your sanity and life.

don’t ask your boyfriend to change because he won’t . Nobody changes because of others .

The person who cares less controls the relationship. Been there. He’s not worth your effort. : (

i am sad to agree with all of these replies - they are dicouragingly true. men do NOT change. they may put on the act for a short time but, at the end of the day, they are as they were when you were most enraged. definitly busy yourself with something other than him. it is also true that they don’t know what they have until it is gone. best of luck to you, but most of all be confident - you CAN do better than this. allow yourself, believe in yourself, as we do.

-julie*

Hi Guys please help me with your advice,
I have been dating this guy since 3-4 months and he was the one who always asked me out.We both are at the marriageable age and I was very clear that I am not looking out for physical intimacy but the one who I see future with. He quiet agreed to all I said with our physical limitations.I also discovered that he never ever expressed his wish to spend even one whole day with me.He has always been busy with work but he use to quiet go over nite with his female and male friend and I gave him lot of space but I soon realised that his physical expectations increased and thatsy I parted my ways gracefully and we became friends on a good note. I could not trust him too much since he never had special or even 24 hrs for me. We always met for 2 hrs in a week.
He also quiet expressed his unconfirmed future with me but he was not sure. I obviously did not expect commitment at the start but he was unsure of lots of things.
After parting ways, I started to miss him hence I started messaging him casually to see, what he was upto and he yet again expressed his strong liking and Unconfirmed future together which melted me and I met him for 2 date dates again. i again realised that he was expecting too much out of me without him even removing’special time for me’ which was UNFAIR since I realised he use to hang out with his other female and male friends much more than me. I told him again that we could still be Just friends and see If we can have any future together.He was all quiet and did not want to discuss this hence I left with a good note and affection just as a girlfriend departs from her boyfried.
thereafter I text him which he never replied and just replied one small messae saying, That he is very busy and bye after 2 days.i was concerned If all is well and I called him after 2 days many a times which he never replied but his phone was all busy hence I felt really bad and sent him a little rude message saying, Just called to check If all is well and gud bye since I find him uncaring at times and Its annoying. I am astrong person and would not want to spoil my state of mind. He has neither replied nor called since a month. I have seen fro other sources that all is surely well at his side to inform you..What to do GUYS..???I really want him to call since I cannot call him now at all??..WHAT IS YOUR SUGGESTION??Will he call??

while i am certain that it is HE whom has lost the most in the wonderful person that YOU are, i think your misimpression of actually having dated 3-4 months is the real issue. if this boy spent more time with friends, both male and female, than he did with you then, perhaps you weren’t truly “being dated”. it seems that he never gave you the courtesy of the true labeling of this relationship. he was obviously not as invested emotionally in it as you were. therefore, i am sad to say i do not think he will call. unless only out of morbid curiousity in the next year or so just to see whatever became of you.

sweet child, do not ever let anyone have the satisfaction of always knowing you are available. change you phone number. change your hairstyle. become someone he could have had - not someone whom he did.

Hi, Thank You so much for your kind reply.
Its really hurting to know that guys could change like that.Believe me, I was very clear from the start that, we should be friends first but he almost forcibly got close to me. I am traditional hence I realised soon and distant myself. I also want to add that we use to talk a lot through phone messages and chat since his busy schedule so techincally he did remove time but was too busy to remove time even for dinners. We must have gone for dinner only once. I also want to say that I was the one who held my self-respect and told him again that we could be friends again a month and half back but his face was small and he said that he is too busy too discuss this now.I then kept calling and he messaged just once and has never called till now.He again also expressed “Unconfirmed Future” together with me.I have seen him online secretely and It seems he is travelling for work and must be enoyiing too. I do not think I will ever wish goog for such a DOG.Do you think, I am at mistake.I am a strong person but i really want him to learn a big lesson out of this since this is BETRAYAL. I thank my stars that I did not get too close to him.Can you guys please recomend as, SHOULD I REMOVE HIM FROM ALL MY CONTACTS ON NET ETC SINCE HE WILL KNOW MY PRESENT ACTIVITIES?.MY FRIENDS TOLD ME “NO” AS HE WILL KNOW THAT I AM AFFECTED?I REALLY, BUT WANT HIM TO CALL ME SO I CAN ALSO BEHAVE THE SAME WAY?I have never hurt anyone till now and have always been honest about my feelings.PLS ADVISE PEOPLE AS I AM HURT FROM MY HEART AS I NEVER WANTED TO GO OUT WITH HIM BUT HE FORCED ME TO TRUST HIM.Not to be proud but i am better than him in all respects and he know that.He always told me that he really likes me a lot but cannot remove more time due to his work which is his first priority??PLS HELP??

Hi, Thank You so much for your kind reply.
Its really hurting to know that guys could change like that.Believe me, I was very clear from the start that, we should be friends first but he almost forcibly got close to me. I am traditional hence I realised soon and distant myself. I also want to add that we use to talk a lot through phone messages and chat since his busy schedule so techincally he did remove time but was too busy to remove time even for dinners. We must have gone for dinner only once. I also want to say that I was the one who held my self-respect and told him again that we could be friends again a month and half back but his face was small and he said that he is too busy too discuss this now.I then kept calling and he messaged just once and has never called till now.He again also expressed “Unconfirmed Future” together with me.I have seen him online secretely and It seems he is travelling for work and must be enoyiing too. I do not think I will ever wish goog for such a DOG.Do you think, I am at mistake.I am a strong person but i really want him to learn a big lesson out of this since this is BETRAYAL. I thank my stars that I did not get too close to him.Can you guys please recomend as, SHOULD I REMOVE HIM FROM ALL MY CONTACTS ON NET ETC SINCE HE WILL KNOW MY PRESENT ACTIVITIES?.MY FRIENDS TOLD ME “NO” AS HE WILL KNOW THAT I AM AFFECTED?I REALLY, BUT WANT HIM TO CALL ME SO I CAN ALSO BEHAVE THE SAME WAY?I have never hurt anyone till now and have always been honest about my feelings.PLS ADVISE PEOPLE AS I AM HURT FROM MY HEART AS I NEVER WANTED TO GO OUT WITH HIM BUT HE FORCED ME TO TRUST HIM.My eyes are watering and I will never look for some one as this is betrayal.Not to be proud but i am better than him in all respects and he know that.He always told me that he really likes me a lot but cannot remove more time due to his work which is his first priority??PLS HELP??