girl help: How do girls ask guys out? - Help.com

Well, plan the words into a sentence, puff out your chest (not literally, for females, it send the wrong signals. Lol) and just have confidence.

Hey, want to grab something to drink with me after work? (Simple and straightforward is best.)

noskool4m wrote:
just hang out and do w/e u need to do for him to see you like him..

Hehe, while that sounds easy, sometimes guys just don’t get the hint. Either that, or they ignore the signs because they believe they’re over-thinking.

just don’t over complicate it. ask if he’d like to hang out sometime, if he’s up for it. go with the flow.

Well, if he says no, then he wasn’t meant to work out. Or at least maybe not yet. When you first learnt to swim, did you think “what if I drown”? Sure, but you still tried, and you’re still here.

Yes, the vibe might be a little off balance, BUT what if he says yes? You’ll never know if you don’t try. ;)

be casual, blow it off.

Cupid strikes again. ;)

Good luck!

Say…. hey want to catch up outside of work?
It would get me ;)

Be specific. Don’t just say, “Do you want to go out some time?” Say, “I have tickets for the Four’s Company concert Saturday night, and I was wondering whether you would like to go with me,” or whatever you have in mind for your date. Say the event and the time.

That makes it easier for both of you. If you say, “Do you want to go out some time?” and he says NO, then he is rejecting you overall, and he will feel like a heel while you feel like a reject.

But the other kind of invitation saves face. He could say, “No, I’m busy that night” or “I hate Four’s Company” or whatever, and then you don’t have to feel like it’s YOU he rejected.

Or he could say, “No, I have a family wedding on Saturday, but I’d like to go to another concert some time,” in which case you know he IS potentially interested.

Believe me, this is a lot easier on BOTH of you. In this scenario, you get to let him know YOU are interested, and he is able to let you know whether HE is potentially interested, and no one has been insulted outright.

Good luck—I hope he goes.

joannesjone wrote:
If i ask him out, Is ‘hang out’ too casual - will he think i mean friends?

Well, that’s a good start if something is else meant to be, wouldn’t you say?

ok,start by asking him what movies he likes
then find out whats on the pictures
tell him youve got a spare ticket
&your friends let you down
this way you get his attention&his sympathy

works everytime :)

jus be confident. flirt with him, and make it obvious. after a while if you feel a connection, he might just ask you. just get him to like you a lot so that he has to do all that stuff (asking you out, etc) that’s what i’ve always done.

…stephanie… wrote:
jus be confident. flirt with him, and make it obvious. after a while if you feel a connection, he might just ask you. just get him to like you a lot so that he has to do all that stuff (asking you out, etc) that’s what i’ve always done.

make him adore you, so he has to do all the work? hahaha Gold.

hey now, it works…
:]

Never eliminate yourself!!!

And maybe he mentioned his ex twice because he wants you to know that he’s not with anyone anymore.

For heaven’s sake, girl, the worst thing he can say is NO.

You can survive that, can’t you?

I hope you can, because we ALL hear “No” many times in our lives. Might as well get used to it.

On the other hand, maybe he’ll say yes.

You never know until you try.

Also, I looked at your picture, and you do not look fat and ugly to me. I don’t know where you got the idea that you are.

True, you do not look like a movie star or a runway model, but MOST guys are not looking for movie stars and runway models. Most are just looking for lively, normal-looking people whom they can have fun with. Confidence goes a long way toward making someone look beautiful, and for CONFIDENCE’s sake, no other reason, you might think of treating yourself to a mini-makeover with new make-up, new hairstyle, etc. If it increases your confidence, that will light up your face and lighten your attitude.

Also—and I know that this sounds corny, but I mean it LITERALLY—I think the absolutely BEST beauty aid there is is a great big SMILE. The face in that photograph would look extremely pretty if it were animated by joy and laughter. Honestly, it would. Try it—look in the mirror and flash a 100-watt grin. You’ll find that you become instantly GORGEOUS, and very appealing.

You’re halfway there already. The smile will close the deal.

theresape wrote:
MOST guys are not looking for movie stars and runway models. Most are just looking for lively, normal-looking people whom they can have fun with.

Only insecure guys need model girlfriends. Sure, its a plus if your lively fun person is also a aesthetically stunning, but it’s not that important.

That said, your face has an old school beauty to it. Get your self happy and healthy and decide which guys are good enough for you.

A UK size 16 is not fat. And, GOOD, that you smile around him already. Smiling makes you pretty. Give it a shot, sweetie. If he says yes, that’s sweet. If he says no, that’s still good practice for the next time. And there WILL be a next time!

crazy12345 wrote:
if a girl asks you to hang out does that mean she likes you…or is starting to like you?

what do you think? Seems the likely answer yeah?

first off flirt a little bit see if his interested like stare at him see if he stares back and if he does for like 5 secs giggle a lil and turn ur head and see if he smiles after. Go up to him and drop something see if he picks it up for you. Talk to him be like… hi smile and be like nice weather and ask umm I was wondering wanna hang out sometime….? Go out but don’t think it’s a date, flirt more, tell him your cold and he’ll give u his jacket or put his arm around you… and then at the end lightly kiss his check and if he ask tell him it’s because you had a wonderful time and you’ll like if it happened again… and he’ll eventually be like a date and you’ll be like ok : )

the main thing don’ play mind games and just take it slow and just see where it heads and the whole ex-girlfriend thing. he might miss her and she might of broke his heart for him to keep talking about her. he might not be over here.

Just ask him out not that hard