anger help: how does bottled up anger effect u, and people who u are angry at? - Help.com

It can take a long time to come to the surface, but you can tend to let things build up an react in an extreme way to individual stressful moments. it makes it awful for the people you are taking it out on

Exercise and/or Working out is a good way to naturally release anger/stress. While actually helping you..

Has worked for me, i suggest you consider it.

After a while, bottled-up anger can often lead to depression because of the sense of helplessness associated with it.

The best way to deal with anger depends on the circumstances, but forgiveness is one of the best ways to deal with it in many circumstances. If you can forgive the person you are angry at, you can release the pent-up energy without hurting anyone and get on with the rest of your life. It often helps to examine one’s own role in causing the problem, however small, because it helps us escape from the sense of self-rightousness that often accompanies anger. Often times we are angry because we have unrealistic expectations of someone close to us such as a parent or a spouse — we want them to be something they are not, and will never be. Once this becomes clear, it is easier to let go of the anger and forgive.

What is the situation that is making you angry?

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jjlove wrote:
It is best not to keep it in because it can adversely affect your health, …

What does it do to your health?

It can cause all of the adverse effects that chronic stress can cause — weight gain, cardiovascular problems like high blood pressure, heartburn and indigestion, headaches, sleeplessness, … the list goes on. Many of those are not obvious or directly attributable through casual observation, but they add up over time and you pay in the long run.

its just theres loadsa things making me angry, and i feel as if i cant deal with them, alot of anger is towards my mum , alot of anger is at my self, situations which i cant change.

oh yea i left that post .didnt realise it was anonamous

Anger about situations that you cannot change, especially directed against yourself or towards parents, is the classic example of anger that can harm you by eating away at you and making it hard for you to trust other people. It is really hard to forgive yourself, especially for things that you do repeatedly. However, a lot of this anger can be due to unrealistic expectations, and realizing this can be very freeing.

I have been angry at myself for failing at things (especially some things in school)that I thought should be easy, but which were actually very hard for me. Once I realized that my expectations were wrong, and that these were in fact very difficult things for me to do, I was able to forgive myself and to focus on getting help with my difficulties. Addiction is another area where people can be paralyzed by self-recrimination. This kind of self-blame is really destructive, because blaming and beating up on ourselves solves nothing while preventing us from getting help and seeking real causes.

What kind of things are you angry with yourself for? What kinds of things make you angry toward your mom? I’m also the adult child of an alcoholic, so I can relate to resentment toward parents for their shortcomings.

im angry about my self for the way i am, that i never trust anyone, how low my confidence is, the way i feel in certain situations, i feel as if im just stuck in a rut always fighting against my self which is increadibly frustraing and makes me angry, I feel as if i cant cry in front of people because i feel embarassed and a sign of weekness. My mum and me dnt have a good relationship like my lil sister and the rest of my siblings,and she always seems as if she is avin a go at me.Me and my dad are close but only get to see him a few times a yr, plus hes had major heart surgery which gets me worried about him constantly, and the fact they dnt really tell me anything because of the way i react, like crying and being upset this all makes me angry. ad the fact that i feel like im nt clever enough to do certain things despite being told im quite clever by teachers.

Anger is mostly pent up from higher people who give it to you. In situations like that you can’t do anything about it and must accept the anger. What are you going to do argue with the people who are right, argue with your parents? They often think spoiled people never have the right to be angry. Therefore you pent it up and don’t say anything. Similarly people don’t outlet anger because they always think of the future.

However generally speaking anger pented up in you are always settled by the universe in the long run, people will realize your actions before are correct now, as you grow older more anger is released. The more anger you have pent inside the longer you live. As you die you lose anger and energy. As a kid you have much pent energy and anger, and you can’t take it out on anyone because all you have are superiors who don’t listen to you. Instead you are force fed information which leads to anger and no one listens to you.

Who knows, dogs could be very intelligent, all they do listen to people and observe humans, They could have the answer to the meaning of life or how to resolve arguments. Unfortunately they can’t talk or release anger. They can bark and bite though, and you might try to back them down but when you look into their eyes you know they mean it.

So as you grow older life can only get better for the pent up angry person because you grow older and you have more and more inferiors to you who you HAVE THE RIGHT to lecture and take out anger on because it’s simply accepted that you’re superior to them and have more right to lecture them because you’re their elder and have more anger.

Conversley, the people who made you miserable most likely the people and bullies who flourished in childhood only did so because they had an outlet in childhood and the energy of childhood so therefore they flourished during that time. Conversely as they grow up and become independed they become more miserable because their aren’t more people to tell them what to do.

More than half the world is like this.

In the end the people who made you miserable in childhood as they grow older as well as your parents or anyone for that matter, become more miserable. And die a miserable ******* death.

And you grow happier every day and die happily.

It’s called redemption, karma, etc. All those people will eventually learn how wrong they were, and how you were right, and then they’ll die miserably. ******* them. **** for them.

But for now, take it out say whatever, if you have anger and you talk, everything that comes out of your mouth is good. **** them up.

Even after you die people might hail you as famous.

That’s how the universe works, you can only become happier.

See you later.