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Does he still like his ex girlfriend?

There’s this guy i work with. We get on really well and I really like him. We were talkin about everyday things and he mentioned his ex girlfriend twice in conversation. For example if we were talkin about reading, he mentioned how his ex could read 4 books in a week. Does he still like her? I’m so confused!!

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linuxya offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (4 minutes after post)

Never date someone you work with. It will screw things up. Why? You don’t have a break from seeing them. You see them every day. You can’t get away. You think you know them better than you do. When things go wrong, there’s no escape. It can cost you your job.

I know from experience. Twice. yes I learn slowly!

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I want out offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (4 minutes after post)

maybe

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dark_light offline Verified User (2 years) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Manchester, I2, GB | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

linuxya wrote:
Never date someone you work with. It will screw things up. Why? You don’t have a break from seeing them. You see them every day. You can’t get away. You think you know them better than you do. When things go wrong, there’s no escape. It can cost you your job.I know from experience. Twice. yes I learn slowly!

Its volunteer work so i only see him once a week for two hours and its not permenant

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littlenick offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 130 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (11 minutes after post)

If he still mentions his girlfriend, he might still like her or is harboring hopes of getting back with her. You are just going to put yourself in a bad situation if you start dating him now. Don’t do it on the rebound otherwise it will come back to bite you on your cute behind! I say forget him until you are sure that he is not thinking about his ex and he can concentrate on only you!

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jcd offline Verified User (2 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (11 minutes after post)

He might just be friends with his ex.

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bradmaste offline Verified User (12 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (42 minutes after post)

I agree with littlenick, he sounds like he still has some feelings for his ex. If he keeps it up at all, he definitely does. Proceed with caution.

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dark_light offline Verified User (2 years) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Manchester, I2, GB | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (47 minutes after post)

Is there ever any chance that he’s tryin to make me aware that he’s single or is that just wishful thinkin??

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littlenick offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 130 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (53 minutes after post)

joannesjone wrote:
Is there ever any chance that he’s tryin to make me aware that he’s single or is that just wishful thinkin??

I think it’s just wishful thinking on your part. You are looking for every avenue to make him available for you. You need to let him go, for now, and do something else or see if you can meet someone else. But, you need to look out for yourself so you don’t end up with the short end of the stick and in a whole lot of hurt because you hope he is still not thinking of his ex. As long as he keeps on mentioning her, he still has feelings for her. You need to watch out for you! I would keep him at arms length until you are sure he is free of her spell! I would not even mention it to him. I would just talk to him when you do and wait to see what comes out of his mouth. You need to check your own reality and truly embrace the fact that maybe he is not the man for you right now. Maybe in the future when you see that he has actually liberated himself from his ex then, yes. But even then you want to be cautious about any move you make to be his girlfriend. Good luck to you!

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