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Hi…just plain and simply tell her to minimize the contact with him cause it makes u uncomfortable, if she is a friend she’d do that. Also you can tell ur bf to ignore her. At some point its not right, but it also isn’t wrong unless they hook up

Why are they not together? Did it just not work out?
If she was okay with it before, did you have her blessing?

I’m not saying you needed permission, but if she was okay with it before, then it’s too late to go back. I agree with Djove, you are three individuals.
Unfortunately it may mean the end of a relationship with one or the other. I’ve experienced this, I chose my husband over my best friend when she started getting jealous. We changed our lifestyle to work around her but in the end we still couldn’t make her happy. If she really cares about you she won’t get in the way.

It wasnt working out with them because she wasnt spending enough time with him. she was basically avioding him ? so when he left her … and he asked me i did of corse ask her first if she wouldnt mind and she said it was ok with her. I cant understand her because when they were together she didnt appreciate him and she acted like she didnt love him ?! :/

hayleyjunior. wrote:
It wasnt working out with them because she wasnt spending enough time with him. she was basically avioding him ? so when he left her … and he asked me i did of corse ask her first if she wouldnt mind and she said it was ok with her. I cant understand her because when they were together she didnt appreciate him and she acted like she didnt love him ?! :/

Well there’s not much more that you can do. If he left her, and you asked her and she was okay with it then you have respected her feelings. She’s not respecting the two of you. It’s time for her to realize that she let a good thing go. Again, she’s the one being childish about this.

yeah ;/ thanks. i want to know if she still has feeling for him … but i dont know how to tell her…

I’m going through the same thing, almost exactly.
My best friend is trying to make me choose between her and my boyfriend and I’m starting to think choosing is the only way the situation will be resolved. She’s also very childish about it and I don’t see any way other way out. I hope things work out better for you.
I kept asking my best friend why she was making hassle and eventually she admitted that she did still like him. I think the ‘why, why, why?’ approach is one of the best ways to unveil that info, because you come across as concerned and trying to address the problems you’re having instead of as nosy.

i am NOT going to leave him because she cant handle it. she didnt love him. but why does she now decide she loves him …? its unfair. i had a massive crush on him the whole time they were going out but stayed away cause i couldnt trust myself… she just cant leave it :/

hayleyjunior. wrote:
yeah ;/ thanks. i want to know if she still has feeling for him … but i dont know how to tell her…

Well at this point it doesn’t really matter unless he has feelings for her. He’s moved on.

Tyranid is right. Her bahviour is wrong and you’re in the right. You’ll just have to wait for her to accept that and as long as you two are happy stay strong and don’t let her get to either of you. Good luck :)