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Death is never the awncer.
to anything, you have so much going for you, life, friends, family the Future.
if nothing is going right. then stop, think and start again.
today will never be like tomorow, no day is the same.
you could wake up tomorow and decide to be a painter, drummer, Poet.
Don’t give up, never give in, if everything around you if to terrible to bare, then you know it can only get better.
and why do you feel like that?
When I was younger I guess I couldn’t be happy, never smiled my parents took me to
therapy but It just made me feel worse for some reason I told my parents I diffident want to go anymore. I really don’t know whats wrong with me. 21 no relationships no real friends and just dead weight to my family.
Where you diagnosed with anything?
It sounds like you are having a really tough time, but you don’t have to go through it alone. Trying to understand and reason through depression (like by reading about it) can be helpful sometimes, but sometimes a person just can’t break out of it alone. I’ve been there, and my wife has been there too.
Some therapists are better than others — there are some really lame ones out there, and it is really hard to comparison shop when you are depressed. Would you be open to trying a new therapist? It sounds like you are struggling with some new things that you weren’t before.
My doctor said he might start my on anti depressants, but I think my father talked to him I know he used to take them. Maybe he asked the doctor not to prescribe them I don’t know.
And you’re saying that you feel incapable of being happy…right?
Hopelessness is a horrible feeling. People tell me “look at other people in the world they suffer more and still live”. That just makes me feel worse who wants to live a ****** like. Besides whats to bad about dying it happens sooner or later.
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And you’re saying that you feel incapable of being happy…right?
I can’t see things being better no matter how hard I try I can’t.
Well, maybe you’d like to go to see a psychiatric or a psychologist…even if you don’t like it…
Sometimes you’ll have to decide between something that you like, and doing the correct thing…the latter has the greatest advantages in the future, maybe some years from now…
You should talk to you doctor and find out the story. There are a lot of anti-depressants and it can take a while to find the right ones for you. One way that a therapist can be really helpful is in monitoring your response to medication — people aren’t great self-observers at the best of times and tuning medication takes good feeback.
Hopelessness is really painful, but there really are ways to get out of it and feel better. It is hard to see it when you are in it, but I know my wife was suicidal to the point of being hospitalized, she didn’t see any way out, and her recovery has been wonderful. Since then she has gone back to school, finished college, gotten a masters degree, gotten married (to me), and now we are planning a family. I thank God she didn’t kill herself, and she is really happy today. Even when things are really dark, there is always hope.
Are there events that have been especially bothering you lately, that have made you feel self-destructive?
K.C., I need to go offline for a while, maybe for the night. Please don’t hurt yourself. If you will go ahead and post a little more about what is going on with you I will be back to read it.
Effexor takes a long time (weeks) to take effect, and the dosage has to be tailored to the individual. In addition, antidepressants do not make people happy directly, what they do is shore up parts ofthe b rain that are not working so that you are able to make behavioral changes that may not be possible without medication. For example, one thing that happens in depression is that the executive control centers don’t work as well because of a lack of norepinephrine. Changing this will not make a person feel better directly, but they may find that they are able to make and keep plans and focus better, and this helps them feel better. This is part of why therapy is important to go with any pharmaceutical treatment: you need to know what the drug is supposed to help with so that you can try the things that it is supposed to support.
I don’t want to feel like this how should I go about talking to my doctor about getting medication?
Well, you should talk to your doctor about what is going on with you. Sometimes a therapist is useful for identifying what kinds of things are causing trouble for you, since doctors don’t always take enough time for getting to know a patient. A good doctor will meet with you regularly (at least once a month at the beginning, or more often if needed) when trying a new medication to guage the impact and watch for any side effects.
I’m not a doctor and I can’t tell you what medication, if any, is appropriate for you. I can tell you that you will only find good medical treatment by making your doctor aware of what is really going on with you.
In the meantime, there are other things you can do that can help get past tough times. Exercise is a really effective short-term treatment for many people. When we are unhappy or under stress our bodies prepare for physical exertion as though we were going to be chased or something, and running or doing some other intense physical activity can really take the edge off. It is a healthy activity anyway and I always feel like I have done something useful and productive.
You also need to watch out for side-effects if you are put on any medication. I was on Cymbalta (an antidepressant) for a while and it made me really tired and sluggish. I thought it was still the depression, but when I finally went off the Cymbalta I got my energy back. It was probably worth it because I did function better when I went on the drug, but I wish I hadn’t had to go through six motnhs of being sleepy by 8pm every night.
You have a good point Cell. No matter what someone does, someone can find fault with it. The real question is whether we can see the value in what we and other people do. It is too easy to compare ourselves to an imaginary ideal, and then to be disappointed in ourselves (or others) for falling short of it.
If you think about it, that is really silly behavior (despite being universally human). It’s like thinking that you see a hundred dollar bill on the sidewalk, and then being sad and disappointed when you realize it’s only a ten dollar bill. I mean, you just found $10, why mourn the “loss” of the non-existent $90? It was never real, and if you allow yourself to become upset about something that was never there you miss out on the real value of what you do have.
We all have inifinite failings, and we can count them forever. However, it is much more fruitful to focus on the value that does exist in ourselves and those around us. A good exercise is to practice seeing the value in people you don’t like. It is hard at first, but it really brings a new light to how you see other people and yourself.
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