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Does anyone out there believe that some people get

to the point where they have been unhappy and miserable for so long that they can’t function unless things are going bad? If that makes any sense… Its like I don’t know how to be happy or accept love from anyone, I complain about being bitter, miserable ect.. but if thing were better could I even accept them? Sometimes I think I make myself miserable.. Is anyone out there going through this or just understand what Im saying?

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Leslie63 4 #
Weston, MA, US | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (2 minutes after post)

i completely agree with that because being miserable all the time is where you feel more comfortable feeling happy is new and you have no control. its nice to feel happy but its terrifying because at any moment you could have it ripped away from you so you feel safer always being unhappy. or at least thats my theory on it.

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amber205 3 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

Thanks I like that theory.. actually it make alot of sense and describes me exactly

veg_head 6 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (20 minutes after post)

Sometimes being unhappy is familiar and the familiar is more comforting to us than the unknown.

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tjwoods 26 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (46 minutes after post)

I think what Leslie63 said is true. It happens sometimes in relationships, where a person who has been burned before unconsciously sabotages the relationship. I think that part of it is fear of putting trust in something — trusting other people, trusting yourself, trusting the world. When you have been hurt enough your reflexes kick in before anything actually goes wrong.

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An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 15 minutes after post)

I understand. I’ve been lonely and unhappy for years. While I still want to be happy and have fun, I think that some people, like you, may tend to come to stay unhappy because of what Leslie63 and veg_head said.

It’s even tougher for someone like you, I imagine, when people so very easily will shun you if you’re not happy. So it’s also easy to feel like you’re “on your own”. So very few people seem willing to understand the complexities and subtleties of other people, and detract from a sense of community and solidarity.

I’ve been lonely for most of my adult life, because of not having a girlfriend/wife for most of the time. Women say they want good guys who are emotionally available and fun, and also want equality. I’ve always agreed that women should be equal, am emotionally available, educated, professional, attractive, and very smart, but not one woman in my demographic has ever struck up a conversation with me (until one woman finally did, -this year-!) ! I want to be liked and pursued, at least a little, too. A small number of women, many who I would LOVE to date, based on appearance alone, have flirtatiously smiled at me, but they never actually talk to me.

It’s NOT FUN! But they still expect me to be fun. So I’m in a related but different situation than you. While I want to have fun, and still take steps to try to have fun and be happy, I have this huge blockade against having fun with women because of how they treat me, how they make me feel. (Yes, some straight guys, especially some of us “smarties”, have actual feelings just like women.)

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An Unknown Location | 10 months, 2 weeks ago (1 month, 1 week after post)

I know what you are talking about but for me there are so many other ways to describe bad feelings and being hurt. I was excluded from my friends because I lied to them about shoes that they were copying….and another girl wanted my old boyfriend and the other girl was just mad at me cuz she was stalking me on the phone…….anyway, I was ganged up on and they all turned on me and I was told to go home and that it was teir land and their town and that I am too mean to my old bf…and that I should be killed and crippled and decapitated… other girls grew into the fight/mishappen I had gotten into with these people, and they mad it even worse by excluding me from the cafeteria, powder puff games,high school festivity week happenings, going to basketball games, going to parties,drinking,halloween, new years, birthday parties…….it just kept me down and paranoid and “unpopular”….I played soccer since i was little too and I was deciding at that time if i wanted to play for a better team in detroit wich is a seven hour drive after school for 4 days a week with games and tournaments on the weekends…i ended up not playing for the team and just stayed with my hometown team and stil played odp…anyway all this snowball effect of thesde friends i had made me lie hide and be frustrated and avoid them and run off when they would spit on me and hide and stuff….they went so far as to even buy my pre-ordered shoes under my name and wear them in front of me like stupid jerks….so anyway this ditching they did to me made everything normal in my life not so normal. everyday I would come home from school crying and would just stare at the t.v….i also drove a honda passport which was funny to them…and they would see me flying by them when they would be in the parking lot drinking, and they would be like hey whre have u been??? and i was like well no where..just outside flying around……it was very hard how they are so mean to me and they make fun of my car….i havent even had a bf since then cuz they r liked to disclude me and having a bf i thought was cute was out of my leagye cuz i wasnt into anyone new cuz they closed down my communication with new people coming into my life…i went to out dances but i didnt dance anymore cuz they would stand in their circle and dance all night long then go to their after party…just seeing them made me turn around and be scared of them and made me paranoid of me dancing around or near them in their high school…i wasnt on their agenda…then i crashed my car cuz it was icy out and i hated it cuz people always made fun of it flying by and looking funny….it was hard for me there socially cuz i was always tortured and told down and that i was sued and scrounging around for a penny……so i ended up sleeping after school and was gaining weight from stress and overload of emotions…..i liked other guys who played soccer over at a dif high school but they didnt care that i didnt have friends so they told me i was bad at soccer and to not play no more and to go to depaul and go carpet munch and to take my olympic bag off cuz it looked hilarious to them…i was using it for a sleep over bag cuz i had clothes with me………….so i ended up going to depaul university in chicago..and it wasnt a choice i confidentily made but i went anwyay for only a year..it was hard cuz i was so detached and cut off from myself that it was like i was having to learn again…..it was very hard and still is b/c someone could have told me i had to end soccer instead of dragging it out….they didnt even have to exclude me in the first place but they had it in for me and wanted me scroungin for money……even though they bought my shoes under my name and wanted my boyfriends and copied everything id say.. so i know what it feels like to be urt by people…..it was like once i was ditched by these people, they kept screwing the knife in deeper and twisting it just following these potty girls rules which isnt even fair, they dont do that to anyone else around town….they just assummed i was being oiled up by them…

I know what you are talking about but for me there are so many other ways to describe bad feelings and being hurt. I was excluded from my friends because I lied to them about shoes that they were copying....and another girl wanted my old boyfriend and the other girl was just mad at me cuz she was stalking me on the phone.......anyway, I was ganged up on and they all turned on me and I was told to go home and that it was teir land and their town and that I am too  mean to my old bf...and that I should  be killed and crippled and decapitated... other girls grew into the fight/mishappen I had gotten into with these people, and they mad it even worse by excluding me from the cafeteria, powder puff games,high school festivity week happenings, going to basketball games, going to parties,drinking,halloween, new years, birthday parties.......it just kept me down and paranoid and "unpopular"....I played soccer since i was little too and I was deciding at that time if i wanted to play for a better team in detroit wich is a seven hour drive after school for 4 days a week with games and tournaments on the weekends...i ended up not playing for the team and just stayed with my hometown team and stil played odp...anyway all this snowball effect of thesde friends i had made me lie hide and be frustrated and avoid them and run off when they would spit on me and hide and stuff....they went so far as to even buy my pre-ordered shoes under my name and wear them in front of me like stupid jerks....so anyway this ditching they did to me made everything normal in my life not so normal. everyday I would come home from school crying and would just stare at the t.v....i also drove a honda passport which was funny to them...and they would see me flying by them when they would be in the parking lot drinking, and they would be like hey whre have u been??? and i was like well no where..just outside  flying around......it was very hard how they are so mean to me and they make fun of my car....i havent even had a bf since then cuz they r liked to disclude me and having a bf i thought was cute was out of my leagye cuz i wasnt into anyone new cuz they closed down my communication with new people coming into my life...i went to out dances but i didnt dance anymore cuz they would stand in their circle and dance all night long then go to their after party...just seeing them made me turn around and be scared of them and made me paranoid of me dancing around or near them in their high school...i wasnt on their agenda...then i crashed my car cuz it was icy out and i hated it cuz people always made fun of it flying by and looking funny....it was hard for me there socially cuz i was always tortured and told down and that i was sued and scrounging around for a penny......so i ended up sleeping after school and was gaining weight from stress and overload of emotions.....i liked other guys who played soccer over at a dif high school but they didnt care that i didnt have friends so they told me i was bad at soccer and to not play no more and to go to depaul and go carpet munch and to take my olympic bag off cuz it looked hilarious to them...i was using it for a sleep over bag cuz i had clothes with me.............so i ended up going to depaul university in chicago..and it wasnt a choice i confidentily made but i went anwyay for only a year..it was hard cuz i was so detached and cut off from myself that it was like i was having to learn again.....it was very hard and still is b/c someone could have told me i had to end soccer instead of dragging it out....they didnt even have to exclude me in the first place but they had it in for me and wanted me scroungin for money......even though they bought my shoes under my name and wanted my boyfriends and copied everything id say.. so i know what it feels like to be urt by people.....it was like once i was ditched by these people, they kept screwing the knife in deeper and twisting it just following these potty girls rules which isnt even fair, they dont do that to anyone else around town....they just assummed i was being oiled up by them...

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