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Maybe girls just don’t see how amazing you are?

Well, it depends on the girl, I guess.
But I know when it comes to me.. I have a really stupid habit of liking the guys who are awful to me. I don’t know why. It’s dumb.

Girls will realize we really want you nice boys. :)

Just be who you are when you meet girls dont try to hard to impress them, Act cool

There are a number of things that can give you a little bit of bad luck with girls, but I think it passes with time…..I am just coming out of a 3 year phase where I was in the same situation, and the only 2 girls I DID attract were completely mental and had problems and hurt me a lot…..so I felt even more hopeless and disregarded. I am ‘’Mr nice guy'’ too, and that often does not work to well to start off with…..but it pays in the end….You just need to bide your time and keep trying, but don’t try too hard. Keep an element of ‘’I don’t care'’ in your personality and it will make things easier…..It is also the age you are dealing with. I have found that older women from mid-20’s are attracted to ‘’nice guys'’ because they already have experience of the selfish ones and have gotten bored of the challenge and the tendancy to play and look for the wrong guys.
Just go about with confidence and don’t press anyone who you like too much..Drop the hints and then let them work on YOU if they want, rather than the other way around. Be laid back and slightly cheeky. Speak your mind, and leave romanticism aside until you are actually with the girl….it is all about the right first impressions, and sometimes it pays to be casual, open, and up-front

Another factor is the TYPE of women you are going after….find some new places to meet a different ‘’breed'’ of personality and priorities

go back home to God? what are you implying there friend?

believe me…..I know exactly what you are talking about. The problem is that once the negativity is there, the girls see it, and the girls your own age will see you as being too sensitive and lacking the dangerous spark that the other boys have (the ones that don’t care as much as you do)..

I have been through exactly what you are saying mate. I have some pretty dreaful stories, and I tried to do what you are talking about….I did not succeed and it did not help one bit. The negativity and hurt and impacience with the world and its people got in the way of me finding the happiness and company and love that I felt I needed. And then I sank too low and tried for your option 1….don’t do it. There are many many things you can do to change the situation.

It just takes courage to hold out even when you are hurt and rejected and lonely time and again..And it is courage that is sometimes only born from time and survival and endurance. Yes, you will hurt. But you CAN change it and let go. It is a big world with lots of people remember.

If you’re a nice guy, you will get the girls who have had hell from the bad boys. You’ll be the one they marry and have kids with… not the bad guys.

girls like it when you compliment them…. say something nice… they will blush and whatnot