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I think I love my best friend.

So I have been really good friends with this girl for about 5 years now, and in the last several years she has become one of, if not my very, best friends. The problem is, I think that I have fallen in love with her.

I am afraid that if I tell her, and she doesn’t feel the same our friendship will be over. I would rather continue just being friends with her than not have her in my life at all.

Any thoughts or advice would be appreciated

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brittany. ;D offline Verified User (11 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (3 minutes after post)

Hm.

If you tell her, she might like you back, or not.

If you don’t tell her, she might love you and you lost out.

I’m pretty sure YOU have to pick what you want to do.

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Kanabi offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (16 minutes after post)

The same thing is happening with me and my best friend…except its flipped. I’m the girl and I dont know how he feels. If your not sure, test it. See what she says to certain things, how she reacts to certain things, and stuff. If she reacts in a more “friendly” way then a “love” way, stay friends. Us girls though, we have a thing for falling for our best guy friends. Good luck ^^

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*country girl* offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (56 minutes after post)

one of my friends and i were in this position and we both told eachother how we felt…it turned out good and we had a great relationship for a couple of months till out of the blue he decided he didn’t like me anymore and it ruined not only our love life but our friendship as well

what im getting at is sometimes friends are better than relationships, which only complicate things

however it’s your choice to make…you know her better than we do and you can make the best choice.

the best of luck to you :)

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iknowudigginm offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 23 minutes after post)

I dont think that if you tell her how you feel and she doesn’t feel the same that it would ruin your frienship. It would make things awkward for awhile but eventually things would go back to the way they were. I really dont feel that you have anything to lose by telling her. If you dont, you will just wonder what could have been. Go for it!

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11 months, 2 weeks ago (5 hours, 16 minutes after post)

I have had this happen. I told her how I felt and got shut down. She doesnt really talk to me anymore besides the cordial Hellos and so on. But it may seem bad but it feels good to have tried and given the chance out there. I say go for it.

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gd offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (14 hours, 46 minutes after post)

Go for it, i have been there, and I only regret not telling her how i felt sooner.

You should tell her, your not getting any younger, shes not getting any younger. be truue to yourself and let her know.

forget about where youve been and where you are going. whats important is where you are

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aarcieri2 offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (22 hours, 11 minutes after post)

Ok, here’s the thing: it’s definitely a possibility that your friendship can be altered if you tell her about your feelings. I don’t think it would completely end, but if she doesn’t feel the same way, it will definitely be awkward for her and she might act differently around you for a while.

If you’re willing to take the chance, explain to her the same way you’ve explained it here, and assure her that if she doesn’t feel the same way, you’ll understand and won’t try to push the issue.

Hope this helps!

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hodgimsxybst offline Verified User (11 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (1 week after post)

ok the same thing with me i love my bestfriend but im in a different situation im gay yes… but before you ask her out or do anyhting that might ruin your friendship you should sit down with her and ask her how she feels about you if she likes you like you like her then ask her out unless she is ging out with someone…if she doesnt like you like that you should stil ltell her how you feel and say you still want to be friends even though you love her you have to let her think about everything before you are all over her….me my guy i like has a bf so its hard for me

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rawe offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (7 months after post)

Go for it..even if you fall its worth it 3

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zack.theise offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 2 weeks, 2 days ago (11 months after post)

I love my best friend. But I have told her how I felt, many times, sober and not. We talk about someday being married and what not but I don’t know for sure. Either way we r still best friends and nothing will change it. i say go for it, if ur meant to be together or just friends it wont change ur relationship.

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