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I think I love my best friend.
So I have been really good friends with this girl for about 5 years now, and in the last several years she has become one of, if not my very, best friends. The problem is, I think that I have fallen in love with her.
I am afraid that if I tell her, and she doesn’t feel the same our friendship will be over. I would rather continue just being friends with her than not have her in my life at all.
Any thoughts or advice would be appreciated
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If you tell her, she might like you back, or not.
If you don’t tell her, she might love you and you lost out.
I’m pretty sure YOU have to pick what you want to do.
The same thing is happening with me and my best friend…except its flipped. I’m the girl and I dont know how he feels. If your not sure, test it. See what she says to certain things, how she reacts to certain things, and stuff. If she reacts in a more “friendly” way then a “love” way, stay friends. Us girls though, we have a thing for falling for our best guy friends. Good luck ^^
one of my friends and i were in this position and we both told eachother how we felt…it turned out good and we had a great relationship for a couple of months till out of the blue he decided he didn’t like me anymore and it ruined not only our love life but our friendship as well
what im getting at is sometimes friends are better than relationships, which only complicate things
however it’s your choice to make…you know her better than we do and you can make the best choice.
the best of luck to you :)
I dont think that if you tell her how you feel and she doesn’t feel the same that it would ruin your frienship. It would make things awkward for awhile but eventually things would go back to the way they were. I really dont feel that you have anything to lose by telling her. If you dont, you will just wonder what could have been. Go for it!
I have had this happen. I told her how I felt and got shut down. She doesnt really talk to me anymore besides the cordial Hellos and so on. But it may seem bad but it feels good to have tried and given the chance out there. I say go for it.
Go for it, i have been there, and I only regret not telling her how i felt sooner.
You should tell her, your not getting any younger, shes not getting any younger. be truue to yourself and let her know.
forget about where youve been and where you are going. whats important is where you are
Ok, here’s the thing: it’s definitely a possibility that your friendship can be altered if you tell her about your feelings. I don’t think it would completely end, but if she doesn’t feel the same way, it will definitely be awkward for her and she might act differently around you for a while.
If you’re willing to take the chance, explain to her the same way you’ve explained it here, and assure her that if she doesn’t feel the same way, you’ll understand and won’t try to push the issue.
Hope this helps!
ok the same thing with me i love my bestfriend but im in a different situation im gay yes… but before you ask her out or do anyhting that might ruin your friendship you should sit down with her and ask her how she feels about you if she likes you like you like her then ask her out unless she is ging out with someone…if she doesnt like you like that you should stil ltell her how you feel and say you still want to be friends even though you love her you have to let her think about everything before you are all over her….me my guy i like has a bf so its hard for me
Go for it..even if you fall its worth it 3
I love my best friend. But I have told her how I felt, many times, sober and not. We talk about someday being married and what not but I don’t know for sure. Either way we r still best friends and nothing will change it. i say go for it, if ur meant to be together or just friends it wont change ur relationship.
I think i love my best friend, shes one of the coolest, most easy going people i know and we are very close! Nothing has ever happened before except a long time ago when we were kids we had a kiss but nothing else. Problem lies in the fact that she has just had a child with someone else i know but who isnt exactly a close friend although i do see him a fair bit… Im really confused att he moment as regard to what i should do! I have never felt this way for this girl before and is only in recent wks if felt this way! I am so afraid to say anything tho as we have been grat friends for a long time and if i ruined that by opening my mouth it would be worse then never having a relationship with her! I need help!
just say that i dont want this to ruin our friendship but i think i really like you and i just want to know if you feel the same
Don’t do it. If she hasn’t shown that she likes you by now, she probably doesn’t. I just went through this, and it blew up in my face. She got umcomfortable and it will probably change, if not ruin, your friendship forever. Be happy with what you have and that you are not in my boat where I have not only lost a love, but my best friend.
fuckk dude i feel the same wya with my best friend, im ******* horrible im gonna ruin it but man i ******* love her
like i said just tell her you want to know if she likes you because you like her, but say if u dont it wont ruin our friendship easy as that
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I don’t know how I feel about my best friend. I used to like him, but I’ve been ignoring my feelings for so long I don’t know what they are anymore. Honestly, I think I still like him. My point is, that not everyone will show it if they like someone. I liked him for ages, but I really didn’t want him to know, so I was the first person to say that I concidered us siblings, and this was when I was drunk. I concidered telling him how I feel before he left, but I never did and I’m happy I didn’t. I’m just not willing to lose my friendship with him. All I know now is that I miss him like crazy, and the fact that I might not ever see him again is killing me.
Bottom line is that every case is different, and that you should just decide if it’s worth it for you. You might not even lose the friendship if you tell her, so just do what seems right to you
I think I’m in love with my best friend but I dont think he likes me the same way ! I dont know how to feel better I feel so stupid ! And when he docent text me back I start crying ! I’m only 13 help?
IM in lovve with her i get a bonner ween i c herr
Go for it and tell her how you feel. I’m only 14 but I’ve been best friends with this one boyy for 3 years and i’ve always had a huge crush on him, but lately my feelings have gotten stronger. Hes all I ever think about and I can’t concentrate on anything, I can’t even sleep. I don’t think he likes me back, but all of our friends think he does. And everyone always says we would make a cute couple. Just a few minutes ago I got the guts to txt him and tell him exactly how I fell. Sadly he’s sleeping so I’m left to wonder what his reaction will be till morning. I’m pretty sure that your friend will have some feelings for you, us girls seem to fall for our best guy friends a lott. I wish you the best of luck(:
I think the best way to know if she loves you back is to find out if she gets jealous if you talk about another girl :S
Dude , I literally M in the EXACT situation , (that’s why I’m on this site) I love her but we have been friends for many years , GO GOR HEE , out of people helping you….. I have gained courage myself , tommorow is valentimes day I a think I’m just going to make my move , I’ll tell u the results
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