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Do you not want to like him or just not want him to know?
Wow! What a question?
Why do you want to hide your feelings from him?
Both. A) 10 year age difference. B) He has a girlfriend. Who is awesome.
It’s a pretty messed up situation. I’m not stupid enough to try and stop liking him, that never works, as much as I’d like it to. So I’ve accepted that, and am now trying to just survive it.
Well if he has a girlfriend, then you’d best be on your guard.
There’s nothing wrong with liking the guy, obviously.
You can never help those kind of feelings.
What’s he like as a person out of curiosity?
Just be friendly and cordial and avoid unneccesary contact. He will know, anyway. There’s no hiding it. But, you can keep it to yourself and refuse to act on your feelings. Eventually, you’ll meet someone who is right and that will be the end of it.
*sigh* I really just don’t want him to know, because currently he is super nice to me, complementing and encouraging me all the time, and I don’t want him to freak out and for us to stop being friends because he happens to be ridiculously gorgeous and awesome.
i would assume he already knows, so just don’t act on it
I would stop spending time with him/avoid him. And be rude to him until he thinks I don’t like him and stops talking to me. That’s what I do when I begin to develop romantic feelings towards a guy.
I wouldn’t be rude -ever. I’d just be cordial and kinda distant. Talk to him the same way you would talk to someone you don’t have feelings for.
Cell wrote:
I would stop spending time with him/avoid him. And be rude to him until he thinks I don’t like him and stops talking to me. That’s what I do when I begin to develop romantic feelings towards a guy.
I really don’t want to be rude to him, we are now fairly close friends, and he’s a sweet guy.
Dragon_Lady wrote:
I wouldn’t be rude -ever. I’d just be cordial and kinda distant. Talk to him the same way you would talk to someone you don’t have feelings for.
And there’s the problem. It’s been true “holy crap that guy is really hot and ooh, funny too” since first sight. I don’t know how to interact with him without that element. I dunno, I guess this is such a weird situation.
telapathic.metacarpu wrote:
*sigh* I really just don’t want him to know, because currently he is super nice to me, complementing and encouraging me all the time, and I don’t want him to freak out and for us to stop being friends because he happens to be ridiculously gorgeous and awesome.
Ridiculously gorgeous?
You mean physically attractive, or in other ways? ;)
I don’t mean to sound rude, but it sounds a bit like a crush, or puppy love, rather than deep feelings. Especially if your feelings have only recently developed.
I wouldn’t be too worried about it.
Take him down off that pedestal in your mind, and then he won’t seem so overwhelmingly attractive to you.
Perhaps part of the attraction is because he is taken.
The lure of something unattainable!
Your feelings betray you young Jedi ;)
No, not rude at all.
My feelings do betray me. I am usually a very rational person.
See, I can deal with gorgeous guys. 75% of attractive guys are just plain idiots, 15 % are gay, and 9% are neither but taken. This here, this is a new species.
He’s quite apparently that 1%. Sorry if I don’t want to do specifics, but he is very, very intelligent, ridiculously nice (I helped him out over the summer (meaning I spent a lot of alone time with him) and he still thanks me regularly 4 months later), and you know, very just plain awesome. At first, that’s exactly what it was, puppy love. And I could deal with that.
By recently developed I meant May or so. By now, we’ve spent so much time together, and have had so many inside jokes and awkward moments and just plain a lot of fun together, that I’m beginning to be unable to deal.
But honestly, what am I doing defending my feelings? They are stupid, I know. They’ll pass with time, but I want us to still remain friends through my hormones stupidity.
i would call him the 9%, since he has a girl friend?
Liking someone is NEVER stupid!
You shouldn’t feel bad about your feelings.
Anyway…. stick them on the back burner…
In a year or two, he may be all yours :)
AlphaKnight wrote:
i would call him the 9%, since he has a girl friend?
Yes, I realized that after I typed it. Maybe that 9% are more the types who are so distant and out of reach that it doesn’t matter.
If you’re really rude it’s easier to get over it.
Okay, so the general feeling I’m getting is just to stay put, don’t do anything stupid, and maybe distance myself a little bit?
Well, thanks so much for listening to me rant =D
Michael Leibman wrote:
If you’re really rude it’s easier to get over it.
But, see, I do you know, actually care about the guy. He’s never been anything but kind to me, and he hardly deserves that.
telapathic.metacarpu wrote:
AlphaKnight wrote:
i would call him the 9%, since he has a girl friend?
Yes, I realized that after I typed it. Maybe that 9% are more the types who are so distant and out of reach that it doesn’t matter.
i would make that the one percent.
either way, it only helps my case that the ungly guys are the way to go XD
Happy to listen to a good rant :D
AlphaKnight wrote:
i would make that the one percent.either way, it only helps my case that the ungly guys are the way to go XD
I have always had relationships with ugly and sweet guys before! This guy threw me for a loop!
Surely they must have been attractive to you, these other guys?
So therefore they weren’t ugly ;)
uhhhhh…attractive in many ways, but not really physically. I mean, one grows fond, but….
I got used to the attractive and idiotic situation by the time I was 8, and have always been much more comfortable with nerdy, awkward people in general.
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