i am in love to the point its blinding me from the cold truth that i will never be with this guy what can i do to get over him? - Help.com

You can’t change your feelings. You didn’t decide to fall for him and you can’t decide to stop falling. But just like falling off a cliff, you need to start looking for problem solvers.

Distance yourself, don’t be rude or anything, but don’t go out of your way to spend time with him like is instinctual to do. Have a good night out with a bunch of your close friends, check out all the cute guys in town and enjoy chick flicks with all your favorite heart throbs. Have a good, solid cry, if you need to.

i have the same exact problem! what i did was a big mistake.. i wrote our names together like we were married and even walked to his house on halloween to see if he would answer… he didnt. i just stopped talking to him altogethr because i fainally figured there is no possible way we could be together… or even be friends, because i would love him and he would like me. so i tryed looking at cute guys at parties and talked to them.. i still have a bunch of love lettr to him in my draw, but i never look at them anymore… i still love him… no matter what but now i am forcing myself to kinda get over him… and its sooo hard becaudse i see him eevery day! what im saying is try to get over him, as rude and hard as that sounds its what you to do… dont wait untill your stuck on him like i did… forget about him soon…

I haven’t been able to get over my first love, and it’s been almost five years. I’m with someone who makes me very happy right now–the first man I’ve been with that I’ve actually been able to love since my first love–but he still haunts me whenever I see him. The easiest way to get out of it is to not put yourself in situations that force you to deal with him. Things get better over time–he’ll no longer be your normalcy, and other things will slowly start to take his place (or at least, the place of parts of him). You absolutely will love again. Unfortunately, it could take years. But it’ll happen. Just don’t put yourself in situations that can produce nothing but pain.

ageed… i did that and i am still getting over him… then again i am only 13,but you have to take evryone seriously…

persephone.in.blu wrote:
I haven’t been able to get over my first love, and it’s been almost five years. I’m with someone who makes me very happy right now–the first man I’ve been with that I’ve actually been able to love since my first love–but he still haunts me whenever I see him. The easiest way to get out of it is to not put yourself in situations that force you to deal with him. Things get better over time–he’ll no longer be your normalcy, and other things will slowly start to take his place (or at least, the place of parts of him). You absolutely will love again. Unfortunately, it could take years. But it’ll happen. Just don’t put yourself in situations that can produce nothing but pain.

try not to think about these things… i think of him every single day. and then thoughts like that came in my head and thats why its been taking this long to get over him… istill love him and i now i will…always even when i am married with kids i will still love him… but i have to face the fact that we werent really meant to be. this is hard for me just saying all this stuff to you but… i just dont want another lady to go through all the bads of getting over some one you LOVE

In the same boat friend well kind of. We will have to fight are wy to happiness one step at a time. You will thank God for unanswered prayers when you meet mr right. have a good day think positive

awwwwe, dont worry, i love this guy too… but just give it sometime, talk to him and just act as friends, and then you guys then can decide together if you guys should move your “friendship” forward :)