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Back in the Fall of 2005 I met this wonderful boy.

We started dating, and despite the world and some awful people working against us we were together for nearly 3 years. We broke up a month before our 3rd anniversary. We were making each other stressed out and depressed as times got rougher. I don’t know if I was even thinking clearly at the time we broke up because of some medication I was given by the hospital a few months earlier after a brief stay there. It was a mutual separation, but we still love each other, we even got a dog together two months before the split. That was about 4 months ago. I had a short rebound which he understood and mocked me for after the fact. We’re still best friends. I’ve since started dating a mutual friend of ours and we’ve been together for about a month and a half now. I love this guy, he wonderful, a little older, he’s sweet and his life is pretty much together. His career is set but he’s stuck working 3 states away at the moment. He comes back this way at least once a month to hang out with me and the rest of our friends.

My problem, I’m still in love with the first guy, and he still loves me, but he’s convinced that the love we share isn’t the makings of a positive future. Meanwhile, I’ve started waking up each day and instead of thinking “I love my current boyfriend” I wake up with the thought “I love my old boyfriend”. I don’t know what to do, I love them both, but I have 3 years of history and good memories with the first guy, and the new guy is very similar to him except older. I feel like I’m lying to my current boyfriend even though he knows I still have feelings for the previous guy. My current boyfriend is constantly terrified that I’m just going to up and leave him without an explanation or warning of any kind, so I can’t talk to him about any of this.

I don’t know what to do, I guess I’m asking for advice, I just don’t want to end up ten years from regret either not going back to the first guy, or leaving the second one. I don’t know what I will regret if I regret anything at all.

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linuxya 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (2 minutes after post)

Current boyfriend is still a rebound.

First boyfriend is still off limits.

Go out on your own and learn to be independent emotionally. Find yourself. Socialize with lots of people without chasing a romantic relationship.

You need to figure yourself out instead of jumping into a new relationship.

You’re obviously not ready for this.

Current boyfriend is still a rebound. First boyfriend is still off limits. Go out on your own and learn to be independent emotionally. Find yourself. Socialize with lots of people without chasing a romantic relationship. You need to figure yourself out instead of jumping into a new relationship. You're obviously not ready for this.

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Sasuke Chibi 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (6 minutes after post)

is the second guy always going to be traviling? becuase that can be hazertus to a marrage and stressful for children. but the first guy dosn’t seem to think that anything good can come of you and him, so i think that the best thing to do would be to either stay with the second guy, or dump them both, wait a while like linuxya said, and then go after someone else entirely.

is the second guy always going to be traviling? becuase that can be hazertus to a marrage and stressful for children. but the first guy dosn't seem to think that anything good can come of you and him, so i think that the best thing to do would be to either stay with the second guy, or dump them both, wait a while like linuxya said, and then go after someone else entirely.

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Kalorok 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (11 minutes after post)

you are reboundingh on your current. stay best friends with the first, its lucky u salvaged a friendship with him because most relationships end tragically, and find someone else who you can share with

you are reboundingh on your current. stay best friends with the first, its lucky u salvaged a friendship with him because most relationships end tragically, and find someone else who you can share with

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