friendship help: i just told my friend i cut myself..ahh - Help.com

Anonymous wrote:
Yes mogiladli, I totally agree. Good response.

dimmingstar1376 wrote:
text probably wasn’t the best idea its something face to face you need to do she is probably processing is and figuring out hoew to respond correctly. when you tell her you might be bisexuual tell it to her face you will have immediate reaction though you may not like it if she is your friend she will put her opinion aside till the enviroment becomes comfortable again and be there but do it face to face and send her a text it will prompt her to respond on whether she is still there. i told my friend face to face and i think it was easier than waiting for a text message you hope will come through

well she just called me emo and changed the subject to her and her boyfriend.
:(
if you were to see me at school with my friends, emo wouldn’t cross your mind.
you would never imagine me cutting myself.
idk tho this just makes me want to keep things to myself even more.

dimmingstar1376 wrote:
now you have three problems 1st you call her a friend, this is actually important and she changes it to her and her boyfriend 2nd you are going to keep everything in leading to the 3rd you are still self destructing and telling someone you thought you could trust didn’t go so well..

well there is a bright side.. you’ve acknowledged your outlet may not be the best so now you can make the decision to stop, tell someone who will be more supportive and helpful. and also i am not big on school counselors but they seem to be better with kids that they dont expect thats with my school anyways oh and journalling is good

yeah like i feel i help her out a lot but i don’t get nay help back in return when i need it.
our school counselors are kinda lame and my counselor is one of my teachers aunt. shes not really my teacher since i aid for her but shes really cool with me and we talk about a lot of stuff (best teacher ever). my counselor knows i talk to her about stuff and i think she would go off and tell her. (i’m very sure she would)
i find it hard opening up to people sometimes.
this “friend” is starting to surprise me.
but thank you for everything

dimmingstar1376 wrote:
can you talk to your teacher but remember by law the are obligated to tell the guidance couselor and your parents if you are self harming so dont say to much use metaphors that could help i got caught in a trap dont want same to happen to you

yeah i know i almost got caought in that web once before.
i actually thought about talking to her about it once but i’m a bit scared.
she’s really cool and helps me out when i have friend and family problems butthis might be different.
in a way i think i can tell her about the cutting because she has scars on her arm that i have seen and i know they are from cutting. shes told me that she had it hard through high school. someone asked her about those scars once and she just said “The past.”
i just have to know how to use my words around her i guess