My Ex is threatening Suicide! - Help.com

I’ve had 2 ex’s threaten suicide if I don’t take them back. It’s a threat made in desperation, but generally it’s just that. A threat. Don’t let him hold you hostage like that. Thats is so unfair. I’d explain that your not seeing anyone else, and that you just said that to try to convince him to move on, but that you have no intentions of reconciling

When you say he has changed his ways, does this mean he was abusive in some way or another in the past?

Threatening suicide is very manipulative, although when people are hurting from broken relationships it can be hard for them to see straight and think clearly. Be compassionate to him, but if he has been abusive in the past or manipulative in the past, I would not take him back.

Can you call a suicide hotline and talk to someone who knows more about this? They might be able to suggest the best thing you could do in this situation. When people threaten suicide, they say it should be taken seriously even if no one believes them. Maybe you can encourage him to get help.

Try to talk to someone who knows more about this sort of thing and encourage him to talk to someone.

If he attempts suicide, you can always call 911. If the police come and think he is a danger to himself, they might take him to a facility where they can hold him and give him help.

Here’s my 2 cents:
While I think it is fairly common for a love lorn guy to proclaim he will die without you; I don’t think it should be treated lightly. How do you feel about his mental state? You broke up with him for a reason; was he abusive/manipulative? If so, I would be slightly more worried, since this might indicate he is slightly unstable in his rational. Remember too, that his threats of suicide are HIS doing, he is doing this to YOU, not the other way around. You shouldn’t be shy about seeking outside assistance.

Do you have a friend of his to talk to, or a family member of his that you can alert to the situation? Definately, call 911 if things get too heated.

He was never abusive but he does have issues. Ive urged him for years to get help and he always promised he would but never did. In fact it’s one of the reasons I broke up with him. His father suffered from depression and it’s becoming apparent that he probably does too.I want to call his mother but I’m afraid he will get angry if I do.

Honestly, don’t worry about whether or not he gets angry.
Call his mother.
Or even better, next time, call the cops. They won’t arrest him, but they may have him baker acted, which means that he will be institutionalized, and evaluated by medical experts for a couple days.
He may hate you for it, but if its for the best, then he’ll one day realize that.

yah, definately tell someone. Depression is STRONGLY hereditary. If he is depressed, he is not thinking rationally. Again though, you need to tell someone who has more power over him than you do. Talk to his mother. She will know the signs from living with her husband who suffered from depression. And definately call a helpline. No matter what eventually happens, you have to remember, that nothing he does or did is your fault.

I agree that he is probably being manipulative, my point above was that she should “hand him off” to someone who can deal with him and get on with her life. If he is serious, then she can rest assured that she has at least gotten him the help of someone more qualified then herself, if he is is not serious, then having his mom or friends or someone call him on his **** should make him knock-off the melodrama.