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Richard Cor de Lyon

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Peace out

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Richard Cor de Lyon edited this post 11 months, 3 weeks ago. Read the previous text »

The Big Fish…

What risks did you take… lets talk about it.

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danbo513 5 #
Milwaukee, WI, US | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (38 minutes after post)

good post richard. i’m an easily stressed person so i rarely go outside my comfort zone.

Richard Cor de Lyon 20 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (51 minutes after post)

Thanks for the reply danbo… you obviously would not be the only one. So many people will stay in their comfort zone. But what ends up happening is we tend to do the same things over and over (that’s why it’s so comfortable). Well… if we are doing the same thing over and over… the same responses, reactions, consequences are going to happen to us. If we want different things in our life, we have to DO different things to get those different responses. That means stepping out of our comfort zone - and growing :)
Bright blessings ~ Richard

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danbo513 5 #
Milwaukee, WI, US | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (55 minutes after post)

thanks richard, bright blessings to you also.

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*Dougie* 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 4 minutes after post)

Outdone yourself again Richard :)
I really liked this one.

I think I’ve become a bit frightened and complacent recently.
Time to jump in the deep end again :D

SPLASH!!!!!

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Richard Cor de Lyon 20 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 14 minutes after post)

lol… excellent Dougie… in honesty, I’ve recently rediscovered this as well. There was soooo much stress in my life. I have school and some testing… I am out of work, and about to loose my home… If I have to move into my folks house I might loose my kids, and end up in jail (my ex’s family is fairly powerful and vindictive). So lots of stresses that were overwhelming me… and I felt frozen. Easy to stay in the comfort zone when we’re feeling like that. But it doesn’t do anything for the stresses… is was only when I started moving, especially outside of my comfort zone did things start happening… and amazingly, the stresses seem lighter.

I find the breast stroke most relaxing Dougie.

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~Shie~ 9 #
Gloversville, NY, US | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 22 minutes after post)

Did you take any risks yesterday? I’m not asking if you jumped out an airplane with a parachute attached to your back (although that would count if you did), but I’m talking about those more subtle risks, those things that merely take you out of your comfort zone.

no i didnt.. i find it extremely hard to be out of my comfort zone… ~my house~
i feel like when i go out, people are judging me… bad judging… and it bothers me… shoot, i cant even walk down the street with out my head hanging low… i watch the ground as i walk, never looking up.. i carry great shame in myself… so being home, im comfortable and can be me… but outside in the world… im ashamed and embarrassed… and dont go out unless i absolutely have too..

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littlenick 152 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 23 minutes after post)

I think that when we come to that comfort zone, we try to not to venture out too far because we are afraid of the unknown. I try to take risks with people. Like sometimes I ask a person just sitting outside a coffee shop if somebody has offered to buy them a coffee and more time than not, nobody has. So I buy them one and maybe something to eat. Even though my finances are stretched to their limit right now, I try not to hoard it because I know and think that maybe if I am generous with other people, even when I don’t have enough, someone along the line will think of generous with me in some way that I may not be expecting. Not that I am expecting people to be generous, but I think in certain ways you are compensated back for the good deeds that sometimes you do for other people.

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Richard Cor de Lyon 20 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (3 hours, 4 minutes after post)

Of course many of us do not venture out of comfort zone. That’s why it’s called a comfort zone. And as I indicated in the original post…if we DO venture outside that zone so we can grow some, we certainly can always return to that zone.

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*Dougie* 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (5 hours, 6 minutes after post)

That or the zone expands, urging us to seek new frontiers ;)

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babacup 8 #
Indianapolis, IN, US | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (10 hours, 8 minutes after post)

Hi Richard. Very nice post. I have moved out of my comfort zone recently (with moving). I have to say it has turned out to be a nice experience. I am meeting a lot of nice people. Even having a little Christmas party with neighbors. The move has forced me to go outside my comfort zone, if I didn’t, I would not have met anyone and would have been very lonely here. I am not a real social person so it is uncomfortable for me, but It is paying off. I definitely feel like I am going through some personal growth.

I hope things come together for you and your girls.

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Richard Cor de Lyon 20 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (10 hours, 12 minutes after post)

Thank you Babacup for sharing your personal experience, it’s so great to hear, and I’m so happy for you! I am very hopeful for myself and the girls thank you…. all will be fine :)

Bright blessings ~Richard

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Sans 57 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (21 hours, 58 minutes after post)

I like your analogy of the goldfish going to a bigger tank.

I’ve been trying to smile more at people I see out shopping. My smile isn’t very beautiful, but so far no one has punched me out, and several have smiled back.

Richard Cor de Lyon 20 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (1 day after post)

:D always remember that Faces need exercise too :D

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Victoria Sponge 5 #
Fritwell, K2, GB | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (2 days, 2 hours after post)

Hey Richard it wasn’t untill I read this post that I realised I have not ledt my comfort zone for a good year or so, just not sure what to do now to step back outside it again, I was always the sort of person that didn’t have a comfort zone, now I have one and I’m trapped, now to break free of that trap hhmmmmmm……..

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Richard Cor de Lyon 20 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (2 days, 2 hours after post)

yep.. our comfort zone can be like that big over stuffed easy chair. So warm and comfy… and nearly impossible to get out of! I’m not worried about you though Cakes… I KNOW you can do it.

Bright blessings ~ Richard

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Victoria Sponge 5 #
Fritwell, K2, GB | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (2 days, 3 hours after post)

Thanks Richard, I am sure I can get back out, I have conquered much bigger and more comfy chairs before
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2greeneyes 3 #
Midvale, UT, US | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (2 days, 21 hours after post)

Yesterday I hugged a very hostile person. This person comments about everything negitively. Never is happy for anyone, from newscastors with a happy story, to a neighbor suffering a loss, to an injury to an ex girlfriend. Simply a very mean spirited person.

I looked at him and said “well here is a glimmer of sunlight for you, please try and pass it along to someone, ok?” He was quiet and surprised, He said “Thanks, I needed that”.

Later on that day, I saw him kiss his dog! :)

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Richard Cor de Lyon 20 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (2 days, 21 hours after post)

Have you seen the Free Hugs video on youtube?? :)

A great thing to do. I’m going to do one day. Maybe for the New Year.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vr3x_R…

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2greeneyes 3 #
Midvale, UT, US | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (3 days, 1 hour after post)

I have, and it is great. Made me cry. You could actually see it affect people. A must see if you haven’t.

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The Big Fish…

When you soar with the eagles, you tend to have their vision too!

~ The Big Fish ~

Did you take any risks yesterday? I’m not asking if you jumped out an airplane with a parachute attached to your back (although that would count if you did), but I’m talking about those more subtle risks, those things that merely take you out of your comfort zone.

Did you speak to the stranger waiting in front of you in line at the grocery store? When you asked a friend in passing “How ya doing?” and they responded “ahhh… OK I guess”. Did you take the time to see what was perhaps bothering them?; to find out if OK was really OK? Did you go to work yesterday driving a different route? Or did you offer to take your boss out to lunch? All of these things can be things that can take you out of your comfort zone.

Why would you want to be out of your comfort zone? I mean after all, it’s fairly uncomfortable out of your comfort zone, and why would you want to be in that place? Because being out of your comfort zone is the best and perhaps only place big enough that will allow you to grow. Have you ever taken a goldfish out of a 2 gallon aquarium and put it into a 20 gallon aquarium or bigger? Have you ever seen how BIG that darn fish can get once it has the room to grow? The same is true for you. Think of being out of your comfort zone as being put into a bigger aquarium. The nice thing you have over a goldfish is that you may always return to your comfort zone – where as the fish pretty much has no choice as to where the owner puts it.

Now here’s the twist at the end of the story. Have you ever flushed a goldfish down the toilet? That fish is really out of its depth now, but if you think about it, it can introduce the fish to a whole new world of possible and exciting opportunities. So next time you say, “my life is in the toilet right now”… just remember these words, and try to see the possible and exciting opportunities that very situation can bring!

Take a risk today!

Bright blessings ~ Richard