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Is it reasonable to expect someone to recover quickly from a traumatic incident in their lives without the support of friends and family?


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Sasha101 offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (1 minute after post)

It would be hard for the person, without back up and support from others. It can be done, but it depends on the emotional strength of the person concerned.

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Neutra offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 19 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

No, even if they do have help it would still take them along time to recover. They may get over it but don’t completely recover from it. So on their own, not saying it’s impossible, but they will be going through pshycological trauma for a long time to come.

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (9 minutes after post)

To recover quickly no…to recover maybe…anyways, most time professional help is needed as the mind’s structure is threatened…

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*Dougie* offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (11 minutes after post)

“Reasonable” and “expect” seem to be the key words here.

Reasonable seems to me to one of those words that is often used as a loaded word to back-up statements of supposed fact.

I think it is completely possible and achievable.
Expectation is another thing again.

There are so many stigmas in society about illness and psychological trauma.
And sadly these continue to perpetuate.

The sorts of expectations that peers put on us are beyond ridiculous at times.
And sometimes we just need to say no to those expectations, and do things in our own time.

Best of luck sorting out whatever is bothering you :D

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Dr. Wilson offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (16 minutes after post)

We are all different. Things affect(effect?) us all differently so we can’t expect anyone to recover quickly, if at all.

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Cell offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 57 #
Winnipeg, MB, CA | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (23 minutes after post)

No.

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (24 minutes after post)

Cell wrote:
No.

That was direct lol

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 19 minutes after post)

Thank you so much everyone, for your replies. I’m sorry to have been vague in my wording, but given the tendency of some people to attack others online, I felt it was best to post it that way.

True, I’m going through a bit of a hard time, and don’t have much support around me, so I’m going through it as best I can, but it’s very difficult, and I’ve been wondering whether it’s right for me to listen to anyone who would just say, “can’t you just get over it and be happy?” I feel as though I can only go as fast as I am able with this right now, is all.

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 34 minutes after post)

No prob…
Trying professionals ALWAYS helps…

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (8 hours, 8 minutes after post)

if something is that traumatic with or without support around you it can take a very long time to get over.

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borisyeltyco offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (8 hours, 8 minutes after post)

ooh and people who just say get over it, are being impatient because they don’t know how to help you. ignore them.

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