Do you think that I have a problem because I dont want to be married anymore? - Help.com

that is a serious problem.
but it happens
talk to your husband
maybe you guys can work things out
don’t think about this until you 100% sure this is what you want to do

No, but this is not a healthy feeling in a relationship.
You should probably talk to your husband.
Communication is essential, but do not tell it to him like he’s doing something wrong. It could be something wrong on both sides.

What is the reason for this?

Care to tell us the background?

You never intended to start a family?

Yes. Kids is a big issue. If you don’t want to then you need to make it absolutely clear to him. After all you did tell him before the marriage.

I wouldn’t say leave the marriage. I would just tell him in no uncertain terms that I am never having kids. Period.

If he feels he needs to leave, let that be his choice. The kids issue is a deal-breaker, for sure.

if you do not want kids, and there is nothing that will change your mind, stand for it. and if he does not back off, get divorced.

Why not just adopt a pet? :/

you are not happy in this marriage and you did not sign up for a sucky life either! so do yourself a favor and leave him. there are other men in the world besides this guy. you obviously do not love him anymore.

Dark needs AA wrote:
He is a corrections officer so his schedule is hectic. He is neve home. I get lonely and drink. Im not happy so I dont want to bring a kid into my life. I dont know how to approach him with my concerns, he has no clue how I feel. I put on a happy face for everyone.

That’s the problem, then. You need to tell him exactly how you feel. He’s not a mind-reader. Leaving the marriage won’t improve your communication skills and you will continue with that issue into the next relationship.

Your family has nothing to do with it, it is yours and his decision although the family says things a lot that affect the marriage. But you should not think too much about what they say (i know it is not easy), but it should be your decision and no one else.

Try to repair the communication gap. Don’t start leaving just yet.

If he won’t cooperate, stay calm and walk with a gracious exit. Just away from each other. Then see how things work.

and forget what your parents and family says because its your life you are living, not theirs. so do what is good for you, not for your family….

Your family will ultimately stay with you, but you have some real compaints and you guys need therapy fast. I don’t understand one thing though, isn’t a corections officer a 9-5 job? and if he’s working a late shift can’t he put in for a transfer? What do you do all day? Anybody who is stuck alone all the time whether their spouse is a corrections officer or lawyer or janitor at McDonalds will be miserable, are you in school, you say your 28 and focusing on your education do you intend to stay in school the rest of your life or do you have a carreer

its both.

But its normal to have these feelings.I went through it and it took years to finally happen> i felt liberated once we seperated and started a new and exciting life.I do not regret the time he and I had I just regret that i did not do it sooner.