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Please help me leave behind my terrible thoughts

Three nights ago I was arrested at the lil wayne concert because my girlfriend and I were intoxicated and she ended up gettting sick from drinking too much. I was detained and my parents had to come pick me up after which i had the first true emotional breakdown of my life in front of them. The situation is extremely embarrassing and I am truly ashamed by my actions. I ruined christmas and Thanksgiving for my family, I am just embarrassed to be around them and yet they have put me on house arrest so i don’t even have a choice. I can’t seem to escape them or my own terrible thoughts. How do you suggest I can beat this situation to find a purpose for myself in the next few days, hours, minutes

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sooooomebody offline Verified User (11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months ago (11 minutes after post)

They are your parents and they love you. They can probably sense your embarrassment and are uncomfortable around you because of that. Man.. you are just gonna have to face your fears on this one and trust that your parents love you. Snap out of it… put on a happy face.. and go about life at home like nothing happened. Make jokes to your parents.. try and be comfortable. If you show positive energy they will treat you normally again and it will help you recover from what happened. That’s what I think anyways. Hope that helps.

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An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (34 minutes after post)

Everything that sooooomebody said I agree with….oh and why did you have so much to drink? I seriously don’t get the idea of getting completely smashed! Just have enough to get merry and stop there: You wouldn’t be in this situation if you had…..:P

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lindavanbemmele offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (38 minutes after post)

I used to cheer myself always up with, ‘No matter what, there’s always tomorrow. If not, they can’t take yesterday away from me.’

Life isn’t about having either good, or bad cards. It’s how you play the cards you have that matters. Give it your best shot, and good luck.

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An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (42 minutes after post)

thank you for all of your kind words. you are totally right liv 192, i drank too much and it was an incredibley irresponsible thing for me to do, if anything that is the lesson that i take away from this situation.
everything that happened happened so i have to move on, i have to work with the cards that i have, i will take that analogy with me now wherever I go, thank you.
Any advice on how i should handle the situation with my gf and her parents.

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lualei offline Verified User (11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (52 minutes after post)

oh yeah you totally have cards, however some people wind up with crappy cards, and from a poker stand point, keep your ace, simple as that…what is the ace in this situation, when speaking to yourself and your family, all of the other cards you can throw back, and get all new cards, and unlike poker you can choose the cards you get, as long as the cards you choose are best for everyone….a healthy level of guilt is good, it will keep you from ******* up, and help you make better choices…..however getting off of your own back is great idea right now….letting go of the terrible thoughts now, that is something that you will tailor to yourself, and when speaking to accepting the ace the other thoughts will fade, some slowly, some quick…..and work to give up being pissed at the police, and everyone else that was involved, see what love they were trying to communicate…go through the anger without trying to hurt someone…ask any questions you may have.

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