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how old is she? her period may not be regular yet.

has she tried a test? just a storebought one from the drug store?

or you can look for the free womans clinic around, they give free check ups.

My mom always said not to borrow trouble..wait to worry. The very worse thing that can happen is a baby and a baby is, indeed, a gift from God.

I think it should be; she’s 16 and on birth control.
And she hasn’t tried a test. (Neither of us have out license, so chances to go somewhere like that is greatly hindered.)

if she’s been using birth control correctly, you two should be fine. but there’s always that small chance. if you can’t drive yourself find an older friend or adult you trust to get her a test.

Start practicing your lamaze coaching technique. It will come in handy in about 8.5 months.

2 weeks late, she should test. Just be there for her, if you’re scared, she must be twice as much. Good luck.

If she is with child she shouldn’t stay on the pill so you really should find out.

beelenk wrote:
My mom always said not to borrow trouble..wait to worry. The very worse thing that can happen is a baby and a baby is, indeed, a gift from God.

This is true, but at the same time… Well, 16 isn’t a great time to be over encumbered with taking care with a baby, and I don’t want to be forced into a shotgun wedding and a hard place.

The real question is, is it at all possible that a period could be delayed two weeks from sickness?

Has she ever been late before?

possible, yes it is. But I still think she should test, to be sure. If she’s not pregnant, she would then need to talk to her doctor about this. If she is, you and her need to talk and make decisions.

The sooner you find out, the better.

In addition, it’s that time of the year for me to be applying for Universities and scholarships. I’m already overstressed by that and grade 12…

beelenk wrote:
Has she ever been late before?

Yes, a couple of times, but not two weeks.

Sickness can delay a period, and so can worry, tell her to relax and not to worry too much. If it doesn’t show up then get a pregnancy test.At 16 your periods can be a bit haywire, but if shes on the pill chances are she’ll be pretty regular is she ?

Did her mother put her on the Pill ?

Sasha101 wrote:
Did her mother put her on the Pill ?

She is on the pill, but I’m not sure if her mother did. What does it matter?

Well Im a Mother of an 18yr old girl, and if Id put her on the pill, it would seem reasonable that she would come to me, if she was worried about a missed period.

How is her relationship with mum, could she tell her ?

Has she missed any pills at all ?

Well… it’s in between… I think her mom knows she’s sexually active because this has happened before and she told her about it, but she is hesitant about it.

Sasha101 wrote:
Has she missed any pills at all ?

That’s a good question. She hasn’t mentioned it, and I didn’t think to ask.

If it’s happened before, you have more reason to be calmer. Still, a test would help clear up doubts, right?

get her tested. dont worry till shes tested.

It is a good idea for you to keep applying for schools and scholarships. Even if you do become a dad education is pretty important, but your doing way too much worrying at this point. Just do the next right thing today.

If she takes them every day like clockwork she should be fine, but if she misses more than one, then it may be different. Id ask Mom to get her that test if I were her, better to find out sooner than later ,but if shes been constant with them she should be ok. why dont you ask her if shes missed any, it would save a lot of worry.

yacare wrote:
If it’s happened before, you have more reason to be calmer. Still, a test would help clear up doubts, right?

I’d like her to, but she’s with her dad right now, and she’s not really close with him. (She lives with both parents separately.) I think she’s waiting.

caligirl wrote:
get her tested. dont worry till shes tested.

beelenk wrote:
It is a good idea for you to keep applying for schools and scholarships. Even if you do become a dad education is pretty important, but your doing way too much worrying at this point. Just do the next right thing today.

I’m trying not to worry too much, but I really can’t get my mind off of it. (Hence posting here.)

HOw long is she going to be with her Dad ?

i understand. not from experience, but its something that could be life changing.

of course, if she plans on abortion (which isnt really something i believe in) or adoption, you dont really have any worries at all.

Sasha101 wrote:
HOw long is she going to be with her Dad ?

I think only a day or two.

caligirl wrote:
i understand. not from experience, but its something that could be life changing.of course, if she plans on abortion (which isnt really something i believe in) or adoption, you dont really have any worries at all.

Not necessarily. My family’s the judgmental type, so even if she was going to adopt/abort, they’d never see me the same, kinda thing. (Plus, I don’t think she’d do either.)

Ok it that period doesn’t show up, Id tell her to highly consider telling mum her worries. You probably have nothing to worry about if shes been regular with that pill, do you call or text her while shes with Dad ? Can you ask her that way ?

caligirl wrote:
i understand. not from experience, but its something that could be life changing.

of course, if she plans on abortion (which isnt really something i believe in) or adoption, you dont really have any worries at all.

I sort-of disagree here. Not because of what your family will think/do, but because you would (hopefully) be supportive of her during the process of adoption/abortion or whatever, which would still mean time and money for you.

But really, don’t stress. Once she’s with mom again, test. In the meantime, try to be calm and reassuring to her. Whatever will happen, has either already happened (or hasn’t and you have NOTHING to worry about).

yacare wrote:
I sort-of disagree here. Not because of what your family will think/do, but because you would (hopefully) be supportive of her during the process of adoption/abortion or whatever, which would still mean time and money for you. But really, don’t stress. Once she’s with mom again, test. In the meantime, try to be calm and reassuring to her. Whatever will happen, has either already happened (or hasn’t and you have NOTHING to worry about).

getting an abortion at planned parenthood, or somewhere similar, is free
and if you find adoptive parents months in advance before the birth, they normally will agree to cover all medical charges.
not to mention, if you have insurance, that will cover a lot of it too. and most people have insurance.

even though the baby, if it exists, is exactly half of your DNA and your gfs DNA, the baby is more hers because it is inside of her, it would change her lifestyle more than yours, and if she chose to keep or adopt, it would be her duty for 9 months.

let her make the decision and try your hardest to support it.

Which is why I’m only half as worried as I would be if I found out she was.
But I have been as supportive as I can be, and I definitely don’t plan on leaving her.
I’m also not going to try to get her to change her mind if she is.

You seem like a good guy. Good luck.

caligirl wrote:

yacare wrote:
I sort-of disagree here. Not because of what your family will think/do, but because you would (hopefully) be supportive of her during the process of adoption/abortion or whatever, which would still mean time and money for you. But really, don’t stress. Once she’s with mom again, test. In the meantime, try to be calm and reassuring to her. Whatever will happen, has either already happened (or hasn’t and you have NOTHING to worry about).

getting an abortion at planned parenthood, or somewhere similar, is free
and if you find adoptive parents months in advance before the birth, they normally will agree to cover all medical charges.
not to mention, if you have insurance, that will cover a lot of it too. and most people have insurance.

even though the baby, if it exists, is exactly half of your DNA and your gfs DNA, the baby is more hers because it is inside of her, it would change her lifestyle more than yours, and if she chose to keep or adopt, it would be her duty for 9 months.

let her make the decision and try your hardest to support it.

Sorry for my ignorance :) not in the same country, but it’s good to know that should things come to that, she’d be fine.

Nice to hear!you are responsible , very refreshing these days :-)

yeah good luck :/

keep us updated !

yacare wrote:
You seem like a good guy. Good luck.

Sasha101 wrote:
Nice to hear!you are responsible , very refreshing these days :-)

caligirl wrote:
yeah good luck :/keep us updated !

Thanks, (But not responsible enough seeing as the situation I’m in) and I will try to update you.

Your going to be ok,and yes keep us updated, try not to worry to much because she’ll sense it and that period will never show up, just try to relax.:-)

youre welcome ;]

I’ll try to stay relaxed, but I can’t make any promises.
It’s getting late (2AM here), so I guess I should go to bed.
Thanks again for calming me a bit. Hopefully I’ll be worrying about nothing.

She still hasn’t had her period yet.
Well, the other day she was 90% sure it was going to start (her stomach was bothering her) but then, I guess it didn’t. It’s starting to really worry me and I don’t know what I’ll do if she is.

she refuses to be tested?

No, she plans to soon. I think she may tomorrow.

thats good
just to let you know, you forgot to mark anon
i wont tell ;]

Heh. My bad. =P
It doesn’t matter. I’m no less anonymous like this than when I posed anonymously. It’s not like I filled out anything in my profile.
But I really don’t know what to do if she actually is.

I’ve been looking up signs of pregnancy, and it doesn’t exactly look promising, but most could be attributed to a flu (there has been one going on, and when she gets the flu it really effects her), like the fever, fatigue… and that and stress could cause for the delay of her period, but I really don’t know if that would delay it for ~3 weeks.

i dont know what to say…i mean, ive gotten my period like a week and a half early before
and being on the pill can really change when you get your period
im only 13, but my older sister is on it and her cycles all messed up from it…shes 22.
and a lot of people go on the pill so theyre periods are delayed and they have fewer a year (that depends on which brand i think)

Yeah, but she stopped taking them and it didn’t come. (I’m not sure how they work, but I think when you stop it should start, and then you start taking them again)
I did a little more reading and apparently stress can delay it for quite a while.
And it’s okay if you don’t know what to say; I understand.

i went on progesterone and it screwed me up
my doctor had me cuz im low on it…
that messed me up A LOTT
and if you stop taking it, its not magic just like that
did she ever get a store bought test?

I know it shouldn’t start magically, but shouldn’t it start at some point after you stop taking them when it’s that time?
And I think she’s getting one tomorrow.

okay, well thats a start.
professionally done pregnancy tests are free at planned parenthood, or other places like that.
id make an appointment asap if i were you

Out of sheer curiosity, What’s the difference between a professionally done pregnancy test and a store bought one?

Hiya, no period show yet then hon ? a theres not much difference between a store bought and a doctor office one, if you have insurance its not a worry. Store bought will cost around 5-10 dollars I think.

She said tomorrow last time we spoke, times ticking yanno :-)

Sasha101 wrote:
She said tomorrow last time we spoke, times ticking yanno :-)

What do you mean? =S

Time is edging past hon, she needs to get a test done and soon, wasn’t it before Christmas we spoke ?

a store bought one detects hormones when you pee on it, but you can have some of those hormones in your body from supplements, things you ate, etc.

one at the doctor actually looks to see if you are indeed pregnant.

its a lot more accurate

3 days ago, may have been just after then, scroll back, I was talking to you about it remember ? :-)

You still give a urine sample at the docs,but they at times do an Internal exam yep .

I more and more think she’s putting this off because she may be scared,but she really needs to find out soon hon. :-)

I do remember, I think I said I’d ask her tomorrow last time.
She is scared, but she did say earlier today that she did plan to get one ASAP.

Ok that’s good, keep me updated, she’ll be fine you both just need to know hon :-) If she isn’t great, if she is , she needs to start taking care of her and the baby.

At your age, if you both fear her getting pregnant, the old condom usage wouldn’t go amiss just to be really really sure lol

well did you use a condom or no?
proabably not cuz you didnt say so before.

Sasha101 wrote:
At your age, if you both fear her getting pregnant, the old condom usage wouldn’t go amiss just to be really really sure lol

Blargh. If she isn’t, *never again without a condom.* (I know I’m an idiot. >. )

well keep me posted ;]

It takes two to tango hon, after this worry Id use both, better safe than sorry eh :-)

Send me a shout hon, and let me know, Im keeping my fingers crossed for you both :-)

I will, and thanks.

I have good news: She isn’t. =D
She only missed her period for that month.
Thanks a lot for all your help; It really… helped. =P (And sorry I didn’t post on here when I found out, I just went back to school and I havn’t been online.)

hahahahah!!!!!BEELENK is my mom!!!! i thought it was at first but then i thought she was the one who posted. That is my hero, she is the one who gives me such great insight, and had i listened to her more when i was younger i would be much better offf…cool. sorry this is not relevant AT ALL.