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what do you do about a guy who tells you all the time
about how people tell him to marry me, give us their blessings and drops those statements often, but never asks me to marry him ??????? very confused
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Yes but I always look away when he sas those things , for example, he sais how his kids wanted us to get married and have a baby, then he said his sister in law said she would give us her blessing , I mean I see whatyou are saying about dropping himts but for crying out loud ….ask me!!!!!!!!!!!!! you know ?
Do you want to marry him?
okay I see that could be an option but I want to be still asked and not have to put my feelings out there first, after all I took on two great kids deal with a crazy ex wife and all he can muster up is what other people say!!!! that is his best shot at a hint , this man is a writer for a living !! I am getting a little angry about it and now we live together, he said he wouldn’t mind if I was pregnant.Huge step for him as he was badly damaged by relationships, but I do like your idea
If he’s afraid to ask you, this is a huge red flag. Do you want to be committed to some spineless coward? What else will he be afraid of? Getting a job? Staying faithful? I’d say keep looking for a real man.
really? well any other suggestions other than waiting for someone to tell him to marry me so I can say what you suggested? Even his daughter showed him rings she knows I like , he said well keep those incase,
dear anonymous he is a fantastic man , who is a great father and boyfriend or I would not be wantng to know the answer
aaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhh that could be death. I am going back to Europe for two weeks to visit my family, maybe he will do as he always does and pine without me , then he may be more reciprocating??
thanks for your help, I appreciate it xoxox
how old are you ?
35, we have both been married
Say, “I would love to marry you!”
This. If you would indeed love it.
you know next time I will !!!! It can’t be a shock to him if he keeps hinting
do you have a great recipe i see you like cooking , me too
I gotta go, thanks everyone I will wait for another hint try not to look petrified and say “I would love to marry you”
Men do not understand women’s way of communicating. If you expect him to read between the lines or sit and think about what you want or have been insinuating…then you are wasting your time. Men expect you to communicate like their buddies do…directly!! What you fear most is a negative reaction and rejection…
The most important thing in your life is what you really want. If you want your relationship to continue as it is then just say it ‘we are just fine as we are’. But I’ve got the feeling this is not what you want… At the moment you are only spending time (that will never come back and will never be kind to us women!!) hoping he feels the same way. Do yourself a favor, if you love him and want to marry him (and you are absolutely sure that HE IS THE ONE, this time) then next time he hints just reply “and what do you think?” or ask “so, when will you?”
He will be in the hot spot and not you!! He is the one that will have to come up with the answer!! And he will most probably answer with a question i.e. ‘are you thinking of marriage?’ or ‘we both tried it and failed, why do the same mistake twice?’ You should be prepared to openly state your opinion on marriage. Do you see marriage as the ultimate act of love, then just say it!! If he doesn’t believe in marriage then why did he marry before?
But before going through with this conversation you are advised to do the following:
Buy yourself a lovely bouquet of flowers, write to a card “I will always be there for you lovely lady” and send them to you! Put the flowers at a central spot in your house and the card…always keep it in your wallet!! If he asks who sent them just say ’someone very special to me, who will always love and care for me’!! Let that be your secret motto in life…
wow, thank you so much , that was really very helpful and I appreciate the time you took to write to me, Happy New Year oxox
Happy New Year Natjames!!!…I wish to see your wedding photos posted!! lol xx
hahaha, thank you xx
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