girls help: How do i tell a girl i like her and want to be with her in a relationship if we are best friends? - Help.com

can i ask you something? what is both of your astrological signs? i’ll give you a love reading

Well personally i don’t believe in star signs but our birthdays are only 2 weeks apart.
I’m a Cancer and she’s a Leo

Go for it. I just went through that same thing with my best fried. Literally not 4 days ago. I didn’t straight out tell her i liked her we both kind of tip toed around it for a few hours and then next day we’re dating. If she doesn’t feel the same way try to accept it and just keep trying to be friends.

You know how you think about this at night, and you close your eyes and think about exactly what you would say to a girl if you had the time/guts to? well, get her on her own and just start talking, and say exactly that. If it feels wierd, you got it rite. Just say what you feel, its the manly thing to do. pour your heart out and if she doesnt take to it, then she isnt worth it.

And if your already best friends you gotta do it soon. Or it cld get in the way! ( noone wants to be admitting their secret pornography stashes to a furute girlfriend)

Well i would, but i fear that if i did ask her and she replies no and i can’t get over her (she literally is the only girl i can think about) if she’s around i’m distracted.
The thing i fear is if we fall out because she doesn’t want to go further i fear it might ruin my school work being as we have the same options in school which means we share every lesson together, even sports.
I want to try and identify some of her feelings towards me before i blert out my feelings for that reason, she’s such a mysterious girl (which is probably why i like her) that i can’t spot any emotitions that she’s giving off.

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Well i would, but i fear that if i did ask her and she replies no and i can’t get over her (she literally is the only girl i can think about) if she’s around i’m distracted.
The thing i fear is if we fall out because she doesn’t want to go further i fear it might ruin my school work being as we have the same options in school which means we share every lesson together, even sports.
I want to try and identify some of her feelings towards me before i blert out my feelings for that reason, she’s such a mysterious girl (which is probably why i like her) that i can’t spot any emotitions that she’s giving off.

Well, if you dont have the guts to do it, may aswell give up.

true :\
any practical ways i could get the message across being as i haven’t seen her for 2 weeks due to examinations and holidays? I believe i’m going round to hers in a few days time, but i’m aware her parents will be around and normally when i’m there its either only 1 parent or no parent.

oh i don’t know how to tell her :(

life is about making risk. If you have a currage to change somethig in your life - do it and talk to her… be onest ad tell what you feel.

cancer is a water sign and leo is fire - try it if you feels ballsy. cancers are very sensitive and leos are very showy, you may not understand where the other is coming from some of the time - especially if you get in a relationship.

So basically each one cancels the other out?

no, not at all. they’re just really different personalities…

and yet me and her get on so well and have such similar likes and dislikes which doesn’t really match the star sign criteria does it?
what would you do if you were in my shoes?

i’d go for it anyways.

it matches the criteria man, star signs don’t assign likes and dislikes, they assign the way you like and dislike. anyways… i’d go for it. nevermind me. your whole birth chart(s) have to be taken into account anyway. well… for someone who “believes” in that kind of thing.

True true.
I just think if i did loose her though my heart would be broken.

Do you think the fact that she’s invited me to go shopping with her in the main city (like 30 minutes away on the bus rather than 5 minutes walk into town) means she likes me and the fact she wants to show me her new dresses and play against me on the Wii says anything?

ummm… probably not romantically, unless you get that vibe. it says she wants to be friends, obviously, but if she comes on to you (which she will if she wants to) you’ll know straight away what she wants.

you should flirt with her and see how she reacts :)

well i already do i guess.
I always compliment how she looks (she really is amazing) and she doesn’t seem bothered if i put my hand on her back etc…

mmm… maybe she does like you. i know personally as a female who gets hit on a lot by her guys friends it’s hard to tell them to stop because i don’t want to hurt they’re feelings.

how old are y’all?

maybe just be flat out: “hey, i like you. i was wondering if you feel the same way.”

their*

we are both 15 and in our last year of high school before college next september

oh man. i thought y’all were adults haha

well idk what to say…

you should use the verbal approach: tell her you dig her and ask if she has those feelings towards you.

how are you in your last year of high school at 15? just wondering. i was barely starting it when i was 15 haha

I’m from England

Primary School (first school) goes from age 4 - 11
High School (Secondary School) goes from 11 - 16 with last year being 15 year olds going on 16.

and because me and her we’re both born July + August thats after the end of our school year.
So we go to college for 16 - 18.
But they’ve just changed it and this years current first years will have to stay on in high school till 18.

So i should just be honest with her?
In past relationships i’ve spent the day with the girl i like then after i’ve left asked her through text and it worked with my last GF of 2 months before it ended. But i guess now i’m older I need to do it in person.

Any other methods i could use?

mmmm… probably the straight approach face to face would be best, that way the ice will be broken straight away. there’ll be no awkward “first-meeting” after you guys are officially together.

are you just shy? it is much easier to do it via electronics but it’s waaay better to ask her how she feels in person.

Yeah i am quite a shy person when it comes to this but i’m really loud when i’m with my friends.

I don’t like being in front of people.
I guess i’m quite selfconcious about what others think of me which is why i don’t do well in these sectors.

And yet i could do both couldn’t i? If i can’t get the nerves to say it with words text her from next to me and then she’s with me?
Would that work being as nerves almost definatly get the better of me.

I was almost wetting myself when i asked my (now) ex even though i knew she was really into me as her friend had told me and she was always hugging me etc and actually telling me.

that would be actually really cute if you did that :)

good idea! haha

aaaand… you’ll get over your nerves. just know you’re awesome ;)

I guess the major difficulty is the fact that unlike a lot of people we go to a small school of 700 and the pupils are from villages as far away as 20 miles away and its the fact we live in the middle of the countryside.
I live 5 miles from her house (luckily)and my dad works and my mum lives else where in a town 15miles away so the lack of transport doesn’t help. So on holidays like i am now i rely on a bus to get over that way and that only runs once every 3 hours so i have to hope for decent weather so i can cycle the distance, i just fear my saftey on that road :S

But i’m sure if it goes well i’d brave the elements anytime.

oooo well be careful if you take your bike down there.

I hate trunk roads and the EUs 40tonne limit for lorries. There is a footpath but its narrow and going towards oncoming traffic. I’ve done it before but the bushes and grasses havent been cut recently.

I don’t know how im going to get to hers on monday actually because my dads at work :|

But i will most certainly do the texty thing.

yeah, well over there where y’all are you might not have that many options, haha

better than being over here in cali. perhaps

maybe.
the buses are expensive as well. I believe £1 is like $1,40 or something like that atm.
To go 4 miles up the road it costs me £5,60 and being as i only get paid £4 an hour thats a lot!

Oh well, true loves comes at a cost, literally in my case.

haha

well figure out if it’s worth the effort first. of course it will be either way but if your intentions aren’t reciprocated then at least you’ll know.

If i can ask.
What does reciprocated mean? i may have good english but there are words which blank me.

Oh yeah, i guess thats a point i didn’t put in, i work for 2 hours after school on a tuesday and friday so i loose time there.

reciprocated means… mirrored. returned.

I’m just like writing down a list of what could happen if its plus and what could happen if its con and also what might be signs.

On bebo (i dunno if im allowed to mention websites like that) i am like number 20 in her top friends but im only the 2nd lad mentioned in there and vice versa on the other social networking sites we are both part of etc…
Im mentioned in her list of friends called “the best” and so on, and we ’share the love’ (which is where you give loves to people every day and the more love you have the more loved you are) everyday.

Okay.
I’ve decided i will ask her in person next time i am with her.

But now i have another dilema.
How should i react if she says yes, what gestures/actions would be normal?
Normally i never know what to do and say ‘Cool’ which i don’t really think is the best.

What are normal reactions when a girl accepts your offer of a relationship?

How about just letting it develop naturally? What are you going to ask: “Will you be my girlfriend?” Why don’t you just try holding her hand when you’re walking, or something like that. :)

In other words, just begin. (Or just continue.)

It’s much more thrilling that way :)

I can imagine :) And i’d love to do it that way
But somehow i don’t think letting it develop naturally is going to work because i’ve known her a few years.