i have an 8 month old baby and he isnt sleeping during the night.
he doesnt sleep in the day but he never sleeps for more than 20 mins without waking up. iv tried everything i know of but nothing is working. im staring to resent him and i know that i shouldnt because he doesnt know its half 4 in the morning. im starting to become depressed and im crying all the time. im short tempered and exhausted and im taking it out on the people around me (who arent much help anyway and are nicely tucked up in bed as i type this) i dont have a husband or boyfriend to help me and i really need some advice! xx
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swaddling works. check it out in wikipedia.
My Grandmother used to put me and my other 3 siblings to sleep, by the vaccumm, I know it’s weird but hey it worked. It even worked for my nephew. My grandmother recorded the vaccum’s sound on a tape and played it when one of us wouldn’t go to sleep when we were just babies.Try it, it might help. If not sorry I tried. Good Luck.
My oldest was the same way….20 minutes of sleep at a time. It was hard and it was a year and a half before he started to sleep through the night.
Do you have a pediatrician who will help?
Also, try to do the EASY thing: Eat, activity, sleep and yourself….if you feed him and he is active for an hour afterward, he might be tired out and sleep.
Also, my great grandmother had a great “old wives’ tale tip” She said that whenever baby is asleep during the day, you should walk by and pick up an arm or leg….just the act of not letting them sleep too peacefully (not to wake them up), will make them want to sleep later.
I tried EASY and non-relaxed sleep with my last 2 kids and it worked well. They both slept through the night at 4 months or sooner.
There are things you can do to help him sleep through the night. first thing I can think of is, why does he not sleep during the day? Daytime naps would actually help, I think.
Find out what soothes him,
See if he’s not hungry still,
Use the “bore you” technique: if he wakes at night, soothe him back to sleep but do NOT entertain/cuddle/sing/etc.
Babies don’t really know night from day, they slowly get used to our adult schedules.
Oh yes, a bed time routine will end up helping a lot, too.
so far what im doing is giving him a light breakfast then we go for a walk round the park. we feed the ducks play on the swings then go shopping. come back he has a bottle and we play together watch some t.v then have some lunch. i then get on with house work while he plays with his “noisy” toys then by about half 5 he has some dinner. my sister will then take over so i can have a bath then i give him a bath and try to put him to bed at about 8. he has a really active day and has enough stimulation to knacker him out but it isnt working. iv tried to bore him to sleep iv tried swaddling iv tried giving him extra milk before bed so he has a full tummy. iv tried slowing down his days so he doesnt have alot of stimulation. iv tried to let him just get on with it and let him tire himself out iv tried sleeping when he does but getting no more than an hours sleep in 24 hours is starting to take its toll. i have a weekend job im trying to hold down but im just so tired that im making silly mistakes and im worried im gonna lose my job over it. i dont have anyone to talk to about this either
yes. he refuses to sleep in a cot. he doesnt cry usually but if i put him in a cot he screams and bangs his head on the bars
Maybe the day is too active? Just a guess. I do remember reading that if babies took naps it actually helped them sleep better at night.
Are you feeding him any solids besides rice cereal? Because that is not going to keep a growing boy full throughout the night, but an actual feeding right before bed worked for my sisters son whan he was 7months old.
So. Here is my perspective….babies need to be taught to sleep just like they need to be taught what to touch, what to eat..and so on. The natural rhythm for an 8 month old is at least 14 hours of sleep - if not more. The more sleep deprived he is, the more adrenaline is shot through his system, the more he can’t sleep.
Have you tried letting him cry himself to sleep? Check out this book - Healthy Sleep habits, Happy baby. It is really awesome..although be warned - some refer to the doctor as the sleep nazi. Anyway…I was in the same situation as you with my baby - now 8 years old and sleeping fine.
As an aside….TV is the devil!!
iv tried slowing his day down almost to a hault but that just makes him restless and bored which makes him harder to handle. wouldnt be so bad but all everyone says that im so lucky to have such a delighful little boy. as i said he doesnt cry rarely even whinges. only time hes ever fussy is when hes in pain. he laughs all the time and smiles at everyone and everything but even that little smile isnt working with me now. he is weening at the moment with rusks and milk for breakfast vegetables for lunch and a full dinner and still has bottles during the day but not as much as his size would say. i limit tv to an hour a day and we only watch educational programmes - no soap operas or anything like that. i read to him and iv been told he quite advanced for his age physically and mentally. iv tried leaving him to cry but then he gets wind and then crys coz hes in pain. im really stuck!
p.s thats for the book reference - will definately check that out!
He never sleeps more than 20 min? has he always been like this? if so he needs a doctor. as you can see there are many things yu can try but its just a matter of finding what works for your child.letting it cry is good for their lungs .for a short period of time and checked on of course.Wahtever you do dont take it personally b/c im sure its not anything your doing wrong.And you need support.we are here for you but also local support,if your in the states theres something called ‘parents without partners’ to name one.For now keep googling to see what you can find.
You don’t want to slow down his day…you need to find his natural rhythms! If you get him to bed at the right moment…all will be well..well, eventually. 8 month olds still need two naps a day. The first one should be within 2 hours of him getting up in the morning…you need to have lots of activity in the morning before that. When he is starting to get tired, he will rub his eyes maybe…get a little cranky. He really should only be up for 2 - 3 hours at a time.
And…it doesn’t matter what you are watching….TV is the devil…especially to kids before the age of 8.
thanks everyone for your help. gonna try and get the monkey to bed now - im in london, england and its 5 o’clock in the morning here! so very tired!!!!! thanks again! xxxxxxxxx
Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child
by Marc Weissbluth
That is the book….check it out!!
And if you try all that and it fails, take him to a doctor.
i dont agree with the tv thing, my lil one watches t.v for an hour a day and hes only 8 months old. do wat ever works. my lil one wasnt sleeping either and i know how tough it is on your own. i got him into a routine. i make sure hes in bed by 7 every nite. he used to cry but when the know you wont pick them up they fall asleep. doesnt work for everyone. think you need a break. maybe try day care a day a week to giv yourself a break. some babies just dont sleep. but mums need time out so maybe just look into that??
How about putting him in a baby sling or carrier? It works for my baby; he will sleep really soon once he’s on it
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