Love help: Someone very special to me has died.

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Someone very special to me has died.

My partner of 12 years was killed by a drunk driver while walking in a store in Chesterfield County VA. She was hit and ran through a brick wall. Her name was Carol Thomas Cooper. We did many interesting things together and many different jobs. We were over the road truck drivers for six years and we love doing that together. Carol loved music and writing, she had written a book about love and she wrote several children’s stories. We met when we worked in law enforcement and became to fall in love. We had so much in common. We loved history music, and traveling. We hated the injustice that go’s on in this world and she just loved driving and the freedom of it.

I miss her dearly as her daughter and grand children do also. I just guess I’m having a hard time believing she’s gone and feel like I need people to know who she really was. WE had been through so much it’s a story in it self, I just don’t know where to start.

Can anybody give me some advise on how to feel about this ? I’M having flash backs about us all the time and I just don’t how to handle it all.

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THE INTERNET 8 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (6 minutes after post)

holy ****.
i feel for you, man.
you know, life is like a really big donut, you start and end at the same place, and it can look and feel like it will be endless, but once you eat that last bite, you realize how great it was and how it is now over.
time will heal it partially. just keep moving forward and enjoy your donut for her

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Chicago, IL, US | 11 months, 1 week ago (18 minutes after post)

I don’t know how you feel about prayer but try it, then just one day at a time.

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (31 minutes after post)

I’m sorry to hear that ,man. But you know things will get better.
I remember I had some flashbacks too… cherish those moments you had with her…
Things will get better, trust me.

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An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (1 day, 17 hours after post)

My heart goes out to you my friend. Life is an ugly beast at times. Although this is an awful time for you you must remember that Carol would never want you to continue to feel pain. She would want you to be happy and live your life.
Some of us are lucky enough to have such wonderful people in our lives that touch us and make us who we are. Some are not so lucky. You are lucky to have had her, and unfortunate to have lost her. Your dreams are just giving you a way to continue to be with her.

The pain will eventually subside. For now, charish the memories, as they are what is keeping her alive.

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chiefva 0 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (6 days, 17 hours after post)

Thanks everyone!

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An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (1 week, 3 days after post)

I feel for you. I lost my father a year ago in a tragic accident. It was very sudden and my world was shifted into a life of uncertainty and depression. My advise to you is let the waters flow. Cry and cry and talk about her with everyone. Keep her alive. Make a scrap book, write poems and stories of memories. I promise that time will eventually heal your heart. It will simply take time.

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chiefva 0 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (1 week, 3 days after post)

Thanks for everyone’s help and comments I really do appreciate them and it helps .

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An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (1 week, 3 days after post)

not a problem, you go and enjoy life now

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An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (4 months, 1 week after post)

Hello im only a thirteen year old girl and my granny died of cancer. Me and her were unbelivably close two peas in a pod. she called me her angel..I was about 11 and a half when i found out she had cancer and it hit me like a ton of bricks i started to get depressed because alot of people in my family have died with cancer and then one day it goes away so we think its ok to go on holidays one night i hear my mum crying i knew it was about my granny i still hadnt told anybody that i knew she had cancer back and it had spread big time. so we came back from holidays and i squeesed her glad she was still there. she had lost ALOT of weight and stuff. then my mammy got married on the second of august 2008. then in september my granny died and my mammy was pregnant. I felt like i was going to kill myself i saw her lying there not moving so peaceful my granny was in her 50’s i was devasted because the last time that i saw her was more that 4 weeks before and the last thing what happened was i had an argument with her and that was the last thing i saidi see flash backs and hear her in my head you are probably think im crazy..

But if i was you i would talk to your grand children and children about her my mum doesnt to me but believe me it would help alot for you and for them because it would of helped me to let it all out i hope this helps

yours sincerely

Nicole

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An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (4 months, 1 week after post)

best199
Thank you very much for your story, I am sorry for your loss. Don’t worry I am sure she loves you and is with you now. I have been talking with Carols grand children and all, you are right it does help. Remember that the pain will sneak up on you sometimes when you lest expect it and that is normal. Also please try not to let your memories be affected by the pain of your loss. She is still with you and I believe can feel your hart and thoughts as I am sure you feel hers. Carol use to say “Follow your hart” you can not go wrong.

Thanks
Tony

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (6 months, 1 week after post)

My kids lost their dad june 4th of 2009.It is devastating.We were divorced but he was at my house everyday and we always forgave each other.I miss him so much,my little boy who is six is taking it hard and i have a ten year old girl,and its hard to see them cry.I feel like its just hard to go on.we loved each other so much.I think it is hard,so hard.I am trying to be strong but at the same time the kids hurting kills me,crying for there daddy.My little boy crys and says why did daddy have to go so quick it’s not fair he says.My heart goes out to anyone going through losing a close loved one.Please give us some advice.

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (6 months, 1 week after post)

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