my sister and her marriage.

sahara

my sister and her marriage.

HELP!

my sister and her husband have been married for 12 years. they have one child of their own and my sister has a previous child, whom her husband has adopted.

a couple of years ago she began obsessing over this gay actor, like a teenager almost. she would go to plays he was in and stuff. she got all into the gay rights stuff — which was all kinda cool. but she was like not spending time with her family and shutting out her husband.

i saw that she might be mid-life crisising - and i mentioned it to her husband. he laughed it off - because she wasn’t really cheating.

within the past six months she has developed an online relationship with someone and her husband noticed that the phone bill was off and she has been calling him for like five hours at a time in the middle of the night.

her husband has come to me - which is weird… he is very angry and sad and hurt and has nowhere to go. he is afraid he will lose his kids.

i am just worried and i wish i could do something.

any advice??

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Barbyman 5 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (7 minutes after post)

you could comfort him and the Kids .Maybe than your sister will take notice..

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juicymave #
An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (10 minutes after post)

Well he should know that if he and your sister he will not lose his kids if he legally has parental custody of them with his wife then the court has to allow him to spend at least 2-3 days a week with them if they are over 18 he has nothing to worry about but if he can provide evidence of her cheating on him then the court will most likely find in his favor and award him more custody than your sister as for the cheating he needs to do what ever he feels right if he needs to confront her about how his feeling it might be good to have the kids and you and your parents or anyone else in your imideate family there to talk to her about how you feel too but it private thats his choice to just make sure he knows your there for him but if you are with your sister on this one or are uncomfortable helping him let him know dont lead him on if you need any more help just let me know!

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SoulRising 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months ago (1 hour, 25 minutes after post)

Maybe you should talk to yer sister?

heartbroken13 0 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (1 day, 10 hours after post)

SoulRising wrote:
Maybe you should talk to yer sister?

I agree with this. Are you close with your sister? Because you could just point out to her how much she’s hurting him and tell her to think about everything she would be losing if this didn’t stop…all over an online relationship? You probably won’t be able to convince her that what she is doing is wrong, just tell her to think about what effects this could have on her, her husband, and her kids, and tell her to ask herself if it’s worth it. Good luck, that sounds like a tough situation.

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