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Married 21 years, each year getting worse than before…

have two wonderful beautiful children, ready to get out but my faith doesn’t let me. My husband has always had issues however I’m finally feeling as if I can change my life - don’t think he ever really wanted to marry me? He loves his home we’ve created, loves our kids but we are a by product, seems as if he is always searching for something else to make him happy. Tired of trying, my daughter is a junior in high school and hoping that once my children are gone I can find some happiness. I have been a wonderful wife! would like some self satisfaction and are hoping that the next 5 years will help me find a way out without any guilt. Or what will this do to my children? At any age will it affect them? I lost my best friend this year to her maniac husband who shot her three days after her birthday and it is haunting that when she finally got free and was happy it was her demize. In no way do I feel as if my husband would do anything like that, however I’ve waiting so long to be happy, I feel like he has become a man I do not know. We have no interests together, he is aware of my feelings and he has caused me much pain. We were raised completely differently. I find such pleasure in raising my children and are a big part of their lives they are wonderful, smart and vibrant young individuals. looking for someone to talk to

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Captain K offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (6 minutes after post)

You know its really funny how women like to not take responsibility its like they are wired for denial and you sound just like that. It really sounds like your the one with the issues. Try looking int he mirror and taking some level of responsibility for your life and what its become instead of finger pointing. Its up to both of you to make a good life or a bad one start with that little probelm I just pointed out to you and I think you’ll see that things can change for the better.

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WHATABIGNICKNAM offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
GB | 11 months, 1 week ago (8 minutes after post)

i would love to tell you to get up and leave but i think it should be your husband that should go is the pain he gives you physical or mental

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Sasha101 offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (21 minutes after post)

Im sorry for the loss of your friend hon, you’ve been in this situation a long time and I think in your heart you know what you want to do. Id spend the next few years building a nest egg, so that if you decide to divorce you will be ok. Id maybe try some counseling, I don’t know how old your hubby is, but they like us change with age and have their own issues mid life crisis and such. Id give it the benefit of doubt, seek some marriage guidance maybe, that way at least you know you tried and so does he. :-)

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