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I was wondering How I can get my ex-girlfriend back?

We dated for eight months. I found out her ex-boyfriend came back
and begged her to take him back. Of course, she never told me. I felt something
was wrong. So one night, she checked her email at my house, and never signed out.
I came home after work and thought I would go and check it myself, sure enough ton’s
of emails of them talking back and forth. So, I told her I know your secret. She did not
deny it. Then she said she needed space. I said I think that would be good for both of us. Well, she
still emails me; and say’s I miss you, I am crazy about you and so on. Then sometimes she calls; say’s she don’t know what to do? She feel’s torn, and she don’t know who to pick me or him? Do I ignore her? Do I not answer her calls or emails? Tell her I am dating someone else? I know what not to do; like beg her to come back and so-on. I did not spend Christmas with her, cause she said she had her kid. yesterday, I got home. By the door there was a huge box with 15 present’s in it all wrapped from her. I just don’t know what to do. I also don’t know what she is doing by all these mixed signals.
Please Help…. Thank you!

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prttytrisha offline Verified User (2 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 28 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (2 minutes after post)

If you really want her back, talk to her… that is all you can do! Communication is def. the key! If you do not want her back tell her that she needs to stop and just let it be. I’m sure if you really talked to her about it she will probably come back. I mean she did leave you presents! lol

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I want out offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (3 minutes after post)

She is Ex for a reason, let her go. Some things are best left alone. You are cute, I am sure there is another better girl out there for you :)

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winterrail offline Verified User (11 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (5 minutes after post)

Thank you, You to…

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businessm offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (5 minutes after post)

Leave her alone immediately! she will be the disaster of u. she is playing games and does not know what she wants. she will break your heart and leave u destroyed. listen to ur inner voice.

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Victoria Sponge offline Verified User (2 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
Fritwell, K2, GB | 11 months, 1 week ago (5 minutes after post)

She can’t decide between you and him? Make the decision for her, take yourself out of the equation and let him have her, why oh why don’t you want to wait for someone who wants you with her whole heart, for a girl that is over her ex, for someone who doesn’t need to think twice about whether she wants to be with you or not, let her go for your self the doubt will always be there for you, you will always wonder and so will she if she made the right

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prttytrisha offline Verified User (2 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 28 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (7 minutes after post)

Sometimes you have to have your heart broke before you will learn. But remember if that happens dont sit around and cry about it… get up and get back out there. Dont give up on what you really want. Its all about what you want and what you NEED!

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me,myself,and i offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 26 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (8 minutes after post)

she’s not worth it mate…go find some one who deserves and wants your luv

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Katiebug637 offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (17 minutes after post)

You should definitely move on. Don’t sit around and wait for someone who obviously aren’t willing to give you their 110%.

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michelle.myal offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Reading, K7, GB | 11 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 47 minutes after post)

i think you need to be careful about how you approach this one
if she doesn’t know what she wants she needs to figure it out before she can expect you to run back to her
i would say that you need to stop talking to her for a while even if you speak to her and explain that until she has figured out what she wants you want to have no contact with her,
it is a hard situation to be in and i speak from experience but you just have to be strong and have the courage of your own conviction to stand by what you say and not cave into her just because u still feel strongly about her xx hope this helps xx

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eagleeye4042 offline Verified User (11 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (3 hours, 49 minutes after post)

Well because this is completely not your fault, the choice is in your hands. You have to let her know that she cant be stuck in they gray, its either the light side (you) or the darkside (the ex). You have been a nice guy (right? lol) and its unfair that she put you in this situation. You should talk to her in person and let her know that its time to choose between the two and that you dont deserve teh confusion. Give her one day or two to make up her mind and whoever she picks stick with it or move on. I have been in a situation just like this and u just gotta push her to make a choice, otherwise she will keep stalling. If she doesnt pick you then its time to move on and if she tries to contact you after she didnt pick you stay away.

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Adaku199 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (7 hours, 55 minutes after post)

Well,there is 1thing you could do try to make her jealous of you and some other hot chick with really big boobs!!!!

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