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Ask her why she did that and tell her how you feel about this guy and say exactly what you wrote up there about choosing her over a boyfriend.
But are you sure she’d do the same for you?
Competing for a guy with your best friend is never going to be pretty you know… Not really sure how to help on that one.
You’ve definately not been a bad friend though (actually sounds quite the oppoisite) you can’t help who you fall for after all

she sounds pretty immature. maybe the friendship is coming to an end anyway. she probably wants you to look like the bad guy though. i’d cool things off with your friend and, to make sure she doesnt blame you for going out with the guy, avoid him for a while.

my best friend and i have been mates for 10 years, and once a guy did come between us. he liked me and we have been together 5 years now. she got over it once she met his friend, and they have been together 5 years too!

like anon5 said it isnt going to be pretty by any stretch but you cant just bow out every time somebody likes somebody you do. how can you really think about them first ? its not like your giving them the last drink of water in the desert or giving them the clothes off your back or something noble like that this is something where if you see what you want you get it. dont be a petty jerk try to be a little classy about it dont stoop to a level you will regret. but you gotta be happy love and relationships can be competitive by nature it happens and if she is a true friend and after the smoke clears she will still be your friend.

An old saying comes to mind ” all is fair in love and war ”

I agree. And what’s to say this guy is even interested? You could both be falling out over nothing. Perhaps a little humour with your friend would help her see she’s being a little too hasty.

yeah actually i agree, if she was a good friend she truly wouldn’t care. in a year, or even a month, neither of you will care about this

haha so i’m going to try to reply to everyone, starting from the first comment.
i have told her exactly this, there’s really just no getting through to her sometimes. and she told me that she’d say yes to him in a heartbeat, because she feels her life is so horrible now (which it really isn’t, she was just called back for a show at a good playhouse, she has so many loyal friends, and it’s not like this is the only guy that’ll ever come her way) she needs just this one thing. and i told her i’d be happy for her. and i would.
and i did suggest, why not let the best girl win? because, and i guess it doesn’t really matter, but i had the gut feeling, back in March when i started liking him, that he liked me. and i guess that’s what’s kept me here so long.
i don’t want to lose my best friend. but i’ve liked this kid for so long and so much, i do not want to have to make this sort of decision, even though in the end i will chose my best friend! and i guess that was worded wrong, i should be chosing her now, i’m just. ugh.
but thanks for helping me out. :)

If she said she’d do it to you I’d personally do it right back. If he likes you go for it the sooner you get rid of her friendship the better

wow haha ive been in the same position
not even kidding, its one of my posts ;]

it all comes down to who you care about more.
i told her id stop talking to the guy for our friendship, but then she was over him even more than before, and i realized she wasnt really a true friend.
all pointless in the end, because now the guys just my friend, even though im in love with him.

if shes your best friend and you would choose her no matter what just repeat it over and over to her. and if she continues to fall all over him ask her why she isnt doing the same thing for you that you did for her.

as for the guy, stay friends with him, and when your best friend becomes interested in another guy, try it out then.