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! so let’s say a two days back I went to the movies with a guy who asked me out (I mean he didn’t specifically mention it was a date, we just sort of went). He put his arm around me and I didn’t want to be awkward and stiff and sit up right so i kind of leaned in towards himm. i’m totally unexperienced with things like this but I didn’t want to throw my entire body at him but my head was in a REALLY awkward position and my neck started to hurt like a ************ because i didn’t want to squish him with my head. At the same time I knew he was kind of shifting under neath me but the whole time he was holding my shoulder and elbow in his arms and kind of rubbing them in like… a “comforting” way or something like that. BUT THE THING WAS. AFTERWARDS when the movie ended he was liek “my arm is killing me” and i was all like “hahaha well my neck is killing me so we’re even”. i tried to play it off and we laughed about it and had normal conversations for the rest of the night, so i didn’t feel like anything was wrong. i mean we didn’t really touch each other afterwards but it’s not like he was blowing me off or ignoring me…

but after i told a friend what happeend shes acting like its sooo awkward that i basically squished his arm/shoulder haha. so now i’m freaking out. i texted him to wish him a happy new yaer but he hasn’t said anything back or contacted me since that day. should i assume my lack of uhhh… cuddling skill leaves me with no chance with him? what do i do? freaking out here even though i’m tryign to tell myself it’s not that big of a deal. help!! what do i do? and what ARE you supposed to do when someone puts their arm around you while you’re both sitting somewhat far apart?

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louise offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 19 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (12 minutes after post)

the movies is the worst place for this to happen
it use to happen to me all time time.. it sucks
i think i would just grab there arm off of me and just hold there hand instead??
that way they dont get the immpression that you dont want any contact.. because you are still holding there hand!
the town where i live jsut got a new movie theatre where the arm rests fold up.. this will never happen to me again:) ha

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Stunna offline Verified User (10 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (34 minutes after post)

i wouldn’t worry about it
i’m a guy, and if we feel like you are interesting and pretty, a sore arm isn’t a big deal. AT ALL. if he isn’t talking to you, it would be for some other reason, such as he’s not attracted to you, or he’s busy.

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An Unknown Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (42 minutes after post)

Aw, that seems kind of cute, actually. But I wouldn’t think it would be any kind of problem, if during the movie neither of you made an effort to right yourselves into a more comfortable position.

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skyy offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (50 minutes after post)

Awww i think its cute too lol. This is normal because i went through dates like this when i first started dating. I thought everything i was doing was uncomfortable and i thought the guy was uncomfortable too.

He did ask you to go with him and he did put his arm around you which means he’s some what interested in you. Both of you were sore so he could be thinking the same thing you are thinking. Just give it time. If he doesnt contact you then there will be plenty of other boys, believe that. And if he do then good luck next time!

Oh just a heads up, if you are uncomfortable tell him or move to another position. Usually people move throughout a movie because a comfortable position can get uncomfortable if you are in it for a hour or two lol. Just like how some people hands get sweaty if they hold another persons hand too long, they simply let go. That doesnt mean the person isnt interested anymore it just means the person dont want their hand to be sweaty.

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An Unknown Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 12 minutes after post)

Maybe he never got the text message on new years.

I was sending people texts early at 1130pm to make sure they got to their destination on time and even those were not arriving at peoples phones until 230/3am.

The networks are so clogged up some texts expire.

Or maybe he’s ran out of credit and he has no other way to contact you?

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