Love help: The Reason Why Something is Wrong is Because You Have Failed to Create the World the Way You Want It - Help.com

Not everything is within your control, so by definition not everything can be traced back to some sort of failing on your part.

Its questions like these that make me wonder why people follow religion.

Well, I tell you what, lets compare notes.

businessstartupsmall wrote:
I don’t get what you saying, ADad… (?)

The assumption of a god created world is that everything was made in perfect balance. If you have to ask this question, it clearly isnt.

I think its a case of creating your own atmosphere (not world), manipulating your circumstances to work for you and not against you. Finding that balance between accepting that overdue bills will arrive, yet working out some sort of budget to overcome them, that sort of thing. Well thats my two cents worth.

Whilst there is some truth in the idea that you can, to a degree, sort of make your own luck, there will always be too many things outside of your sphere of influence to stop you from really being fully in control of your life.
The world is chaotic, so why do we somehow think we can control our own little bit of it?

businessstartupsmall wrote:
I think, Step666, that the argument goes something like: True, we cannot control circumstances — but we can accept them as given and then make decisions and work with what we have to make “the best of it” — or to move in the direction that we want to go from where we are, or something like that… (?)

I get that, what I meant before was more that I bet we can all come up with one fairly big, fairly recent example of something that’s gone wrong for us that we couldn’t really avoid.

Well, yeah, ‘wrong’ is a subjective term - what I see as something having gone wrong will not necessarily strike someone else has ‘wrong’, in fact some people might see things as having gone ‘right’ instead.

But if we’re talking about ‘creating the world the way I want it’, that’s subjective as well.

I think we’re starting to talk across purposes.

My wanting to do something is very different from having the world the way I want it.

As I said before, I do agree that there is a certain amount of truth to the world is what you make you - a person’s attitude and outlook on life alone can make a huge difference to things as other people react to the way you behave, if you’re positive/friendly/helpful/etc then other people are more likely to respond warmly to you.

But, as I have also said, we can’t control everything. A positive mental attitude will only get you so far.
I mean in a world were any one of us could get run down by a car tomorrow, how can we ever truly be in control?

It’s science - chaos theory.
The world is chaotic, it cannot be controlled or forced into any sort of order. All we can do is try our best.

“…the world is what you make IT”

Damned typos…

I would say the opposite is true.
Accepting the world the way it is is NOT saying that nothing is wrong, it’s just having to deal with the things that ARE wrong.

If you have to ‘accept’ something, then it cannot be perfect - if it was, you wouldn’t have to ‘accept’ it.

Well, ‘wrong’ IS a subjective word ;-)
I’m in the wrong job but I accept that’s what I have to put up with for now, ’til I can find something better.

And I know that accept doesn’t mean perfect, I was in fact saying it meant the opposite - by accepting something you’re settling for it, which means it’s definitely not perfect.
You don’t settle for perfection, it things are perfect they just are and you don’t worry.

Your world is your own, so the quote is the absolute infallibility.
We each have a unique mind, we are born the same yet so very different.
When you hear or read something that truly captures your eye, clasp the words in your own way, you’ll never understand completely because it’s from a different world.
Worlds collide/life.

Spend less time speaking words, and more time living them.