Hi -I am a 45 year old mother of a troubled 15 yr old -recently he was in trouble for shoplifting a fifth of Jack Daniels ! - Help.com

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Hi -I am a 45 year old mother of a troubled 15 yr old -recently he was in trouble for shoplifting a fifth of Jack Daniels !

!! While already on probation for damaging public property… today he was caught and charged with criminal tresspassing -Aughhhhh!!! I feel I am failing as a parent any advise?

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Anonymous #
11 months ago (5 minutes after post)

There’s probably an underlying problem for why he’s acting out.

That’s all I’ve got….sorry =/

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signmycast offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
Dublin, 07, IE | 11 months ago (10 minutes after post)

How can you rob a fifth of jack??
of anything!??

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AllHeart offline Verified User (2 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Quimby, IA, US | 11 months ago (13 minutes after post)

He stuck the fifth under a coat he was wearing and told the clerk he didnt have anything-

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AllHeart offline Verified User (2 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Quimby, IA, US | 11 months ago (15 minutes after post)

My husband and I dont even drink -My son said he just wanted to try it

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signmycast offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
Dublin, 07, IE | 11 months ago (18 minutes after post)

No, see, a fifth is called a fifth because it’s the height of one finger’s width.
When you hold the glass, you level the bottom of your pinky finger with the bottom of the glass and then you pour until it’s level with the top.
It’s not possible to rob that much.

Maybe your son really did just want to try it. Kids are curious.

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signmycast offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
Dublin, 07, IE | 11 months ago (20 minutes after post)

I think you might be over thinking this. Unfortunately the whole Dr. Phil generation thing is going on. Just because your child misbehaves doesn’t mean you have failed.

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signmycast offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
Dublin, 07, IE | 11 months ago (21 minutes after post)

I think you should just talk to your son about this. But trust me. You haven’t failed. Cheer up. Relax. Things will be fine. Just talk.

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AllHeart offline Verified User (2 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Quimby, IA, US | 11 months ago (27 minutes after post)

He has to go to court over these things he has done–this has all been within the last 3to4 months I am worried that the courts will intervene and put my son in a boys home. I am not sure what will happen and I dont feel I am in control over this

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AllHeart offline Verified User (2 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Quimby, IA, US | 11 months ago (29 minutes after post)

He is my only son and he is breaking my heart…

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signmycast offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
Dublin, 07, IE | 11 months ago (30 minutes after post)

Has there been any major changes in his life, it sounds like he is acting out because of an event.

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AllHeart offline Verified User (2 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Quimby, IA, US | 11 months ago (33 minutes after post)

None that I am aware of

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signmycast offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
Dublin, 07, IE | 11 months ago (43 minutes after post)

Maybe you should talk to him or arrange for him to talk to someone he feels comfortable with talking to and see if there has been an incident or just why he is suddenly acting so different. It could just be that he is getting older and going through a phase

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AllHeart offline Verified User (2 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Quimby, IA, US | 11 months ago (48 minutes after post)

I hope that it is just a phase-
He was kicked out of the regular high school because he refused to do any detentions now he goes to a behavioral school and it has gotton worse since…he never got into this much trouble before he started to attend this behavioral school…they dubbed him trouble -now he is !!!

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signmycast offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
Dublin, 07, IE | 11 months ago (52 minutes after post)

As unfortunate and extreme as this may sound, is moving an option?
It’s a lot like prison. You go in knowing how to steel a volvo and come out knowing how to rob a bank. It’s very likely the influence of the other children at his new school.

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AllHeart offline Verified User (2 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Quimby, IA, US | 11 months ago (54 minutes after post)

The kids he attends school with are moderate to severe cases anything from gang violence to assults they cant even take a pencil to school they are provided there. I dont know where to place the blame …so I blame myself for not knowing what to do !

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AllHeart offline Verified User (2 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Quimby, IA, US | 11 months ago (57 minutes after post)

I pray alot …I feel I am loosing my son …I wish we could move …

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signmycast offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
Dublin, 07, IE | 11 months ago (58 minutes after post)

Don’t blame yourself! It is not your fault.
Is there anyone you can talk to about getting him out of that school?

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AllHeart offline Verified User (2 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Quimby, IA, US | 11 months ago (1 hour, 8 minutes after post)

I am want to get him out of that school -the only alternitive they gave us was to go to a GED program- OH, I could just yank him out but I would have to pay tuition for another school..His principal at his former school had daggers for him and was new and i feel just didnt want any problems in her quaint small town and school so ship him somewhere where they can deal with it !

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AllHeart offline Verified User (2 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Quimby, IA, US | 11 months ago (1 hour, 14 minutes after post)

I am going to call someone at the school board in reguards to this matter -I am just not sure what good it will do .. but I am going to try -I know I am fighting the good fight -I just know he has so much potential

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Dublin, 07, IE | 11 months ago (1 hour, 15 minutes after post)

It’s a tough situation. I’m sorry, I really don’t think I can help. Do as you have said and make some phone calls and just do what you can. I’m very sorry that this has happened to you.

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AllHeart offline Verified User (2 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Quimby, IA, US | 11 months ago (1 hour, 16 minutes after post)

Thank you for listening -

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signmycast offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
Dublin, 07, IE | 11 months ago (1 hour, 18 minutes after post)

Well. It’s what I’m here for. If you need someone to talk to, this is the place. Feel free to shout me anytime.

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