A little piece of hope…

burgerkrieg

A little piece of hope…

So. I find myself utterly attracted to the wrong women. The first one is the only exception I can think of. That’s only because I never made it far enough to find out if she was the right or wrong one. That awkward stage of adolescence controlled me there and being so incredibly shy and unconfident in myself I never brought myself to ask her out. She has been the most difficult to walk away from. Even after 6 years.

The second woman, I spent 4 years of my life with. A good person by most accounts. Had her flaws but she put up with my own and how can I complain about that? But for some reason I just fell out of love with her. An amazing friend but not someone I found that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.

The third lasted about 4 months. And while I cared for her very much she had a LOT of personal issues—especially with trusting and intimacy, having been hurt badly in previous relationships and within her own family. And while it appeared things were going good, eventually she just pushed me out of her life.

Which leaves me here where I am now. Hopelessly attracted to a woman who is engaged. Well I knew this from the start. I knew not to get myself invested in this one. So I didn’t. Until a turn of fate, or so I thought. I noticed one day her ring was no longer there. Even then I tried not to get my hopes up. But it left with a little piece of hope. I didn’t see her for well over a week, since before this New Year, but in that time the hope was left to fester and grow into stronger feelings. I couldn’t stop thinking about her. I still cannot stop thinking about her. And so I resolve with myself to ask her out, but when the time comes her ring is back on.

That hope which had grown inside were the best feelings I’ve had in a long time. I’m trying to move past this gracefully, but finding it so difficult to do so.

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An Unknown Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 8 minutes after post)

You are not the only one attracted to the wrongful person. That last one she must be affraid of commitment. Just take it from someone who has seen the worst in relashionship the best thing to do is not to look so much for love but other reason to love yourself. Once you find that within the right women will just walk past you and she be the one asking you out.

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An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (2 hours, 57 minutes after post)

Time heals all wounds. Put the past behind. Learn the lessons and then move on. I think that you just have to find someone who loves you truthfully and whom you will love with all your heart.

The rightness or the wrongness should not be the issue. All that matters is that you love each other. I think there’s somebody out there for you. Keep on looking for that girl…even if it means falling for the wrong ones before you end up with the girl.

About trying to move on, I suggest you end all forms of communication with the girl so as not to re-enkindle old feelings. Indulge in a good hobby. Busy yourself with self-improvement and social activites. Being busy would keep your mind off of her. Plus, it helps you become a better person.

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An Unknown Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (14 hours, 27 minutes after post)

I know I’m not the only one to go through this type of situation. And I know there are people out there going through a lot worse. But I needed to get this out.

One of the problems here is I don’t want to end all forms of communication. I learnt my lesson after the first girl and now I find it very difficult to let go of someone I find so special. It doesn’t matter what I do or where I am–she has a way of invading my thoughts…even my dreams. I feel like perhaps I will need better closure here. I have this urge to talk to her and tell her that I like her, but at the same time a resounding fear of the awkwardness and rejection that that could entail. But then maybe we could still be friends…I just don’t know.

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